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Shiny_Rock
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Hello all,
I am thrilled to have stumbled upon this forum. Been looking for a gem forum used by expert collectors and regular people alike for quite some time. Usenet has been a disappointment.
I am looking to put together an engagement ring and have had the topic on the backburner in my brain for nearly a year now, but I think the time is approaching and I can see myself being in the position to propose within the year, maybe even the next six months. As such I think I have to really get going on the ring, so I''m looking for some help. First, some information.
1) I am poor! Well, I am a PhD student (as is my intended fiancee) and we both live in Toronto, which is a great place but unfortunately very expensive. She has suggested on a few occasions that perhaps I should just skip the ring altogether and only worry about the band when the time comes. This makes a lot of sense but at the same time I know she would just LOVE a really stunning and unique (not necessarily expensive) e-ring and I''m sure she would momentarily suspend her judgment of my fiscal responsibility if I was to present her with one! On top of that *I* actually want to get one, because I think it also becomes a reflection of myself, and a way to show how well I understand her personality and her tastes. I get excited just thinking about it. Now, my budget is unknown, though I''d have to say I can''t see spending more than $3000 USD responsibly. That amounts, after taxes and tuition, to almost a quarter of my annual income. I''m hoping to spend less, of course, but I love nice things and sometimes can''t help myself.
2) We''ve discussed things and definitely decided that we hate diamonds for various reasons. Not so much ethical (though there is that) but just the idea that the "diamond engagement ring" tradition was basically started by N.W. Ayer ad agency in the 20''s and is the most successful marketing scam in history. I just don''t want to be a part of that scheme on principled grounds. Sure they can be very beautiful, but I think ditching them (even as accents) and going for a really spectacular colored stone is the way to go. There are many benefits to going colored -- the biggest of them is that I can afford a much nicer colored stone for X dollars than I would be able to if I went for a diamond. And, above all, a colored e-ring by definition is much more memorable in a society where 99% of brides-to-be receive run-of-the-mill diamond rings -- even if the diamonds are particularly big or valuable, the rings tend to be shiny and not spectacular in any other way.
3) I started out thinking sapphire or ruby, since at the very least the "public" out there would think of these stones as precious and worthy of being set in an engagement ring. Nowadays I''m thinking I don''t give a damn what people think as long as the finished product looks spectacular and unique, and the person who''s going to wear it likes it herself! Although I would still love to get a ruby or sapphire, I am considering other gems with beautiful colors. I particularly like tanzanite and some shades of tourmaline. Depending on the setting, the moh''s scale value may not matter so much either, or does it?
But back to sapphires, I don''t want to be a gem snob and try to opt for untreated, because then I could expect to pay many times the price of an equally good-looking stone, am I correct? On the other hand, I''ve been recently thinking about a really intensely colored and well-cut pink sapphire in a platinum ring. Would I be able to get a nicer pink sapphire than a blue one, keeping price approximately equal? Anyway, any gem suggestions are welcome, but the colours I''m looking for are blue, red, pink (though as deep and close to red as possible), purple, and that''s probably it. Greens and yellows/oranges are out.
cherrypicked.com seems like a great place to focus my efforts.
4) As far as the setting, I think this is the greatest opportunity for individual expression, since there aren''t TOO many different types of cuts for a stone. I think yellow gold is out because it doesn''t suit her coloring, and I''ve heard bad things about white gold being lower quality than yellow (and having the "white" plating fade over time). Of course I''d love to go platinum but I think the price premium may really eat into what I can spend on the stone. Is platinum really THAT expensive? And is it done by weight/mass or some other method? She has EXTREMELY small fingers and if I didn''t do a thick band then perhaps it wouldn''t be too much material to afford platinum? As for the look, I am avoiding anything with prongs as I think it looks way too conventional and boring. My favourite types of settings I''ve seen so far are tension settings, bezels and half-bezels. I''m sure there are many others too.
I''ll end this post now, so that I can open up the floor to any suggestions or comments from forumites out there. I hope to get as many people in on this as possible because the internet is a great place to bounce ideas off a well-informed community. I look forward to a (hopefully) long and creative thread!
I am thrilled to have stumbled upon this forum. Been looking for a gem forum used by expert collectors and regular people alike for quite some time. Usenet has been a disappointment.
I am looking to put together an engagement ring and have had the topic on the backburner in my brain for nearly a year now, but I think the time is approaching and I can see myself being in the position to propose within the year, maybe even the next six months. As such I think I have to really get going on the ring, so I''m looking for some help. First, some information.
1) I am poor! Well, I am a PhD student (as is my intended fiancee) and we both live in Toronto, which is a great place but unfortunately very expensive. She has suggested on a few occasions that perhaps I should just skip the ring altogether and only worry about the band when the time comes. This makes a lot of sense but at the same time I know she would just LOVE a really stunning and unique (not necessarily expensive) e-ring and I''m sure she would momentarily suspend her judgment of my fiscal responsibility if I was to present her with one! On top of that *I* actually want to get one, because I think it also becomes a reflection of myself, and a way to show how well I understand her personality and her tastes. I get excited just thinking about it. Now, my budget is unknown, though I''d have to say I can''t see spending more than $3000 USD responsibly. That amounts, after taxes and tuition, to almost a quarter of my annual income. I''m hoping to spend less, of course, but I love nice things and sometimes can''t help myself.
2) We''ve discussed things and definitely decided that we hate diamonds for various reasons. Not so much ethical (though there is that) but just the idea that the "diamond engagement ring" tradition was basically started by N.W. Ayer ad agency in the 20''s and is the most successful marketing scam in history. I just don''t want to be a part of that scheme on principled grounds. Sure they can be very beautiful, but I think ditching them (even as accents) and going for a really spectacular colored stone is the way to go. There are many benefits to going colored -- the biggest of them is that I can afford a much nicer colored stone for X dollars than I would be able to if I went for a diamond. And, above all, a colored e-ring by definition is much more memorable in a society where 99% of brides-to-be receive run-of-the-mill diamond rings -- even if the diamonds are particularly big or valuable, the rings tend to be shiny and not spectacular in any other way.
3) I started out thinking sapphire or ruby, since at the very least the "public" out there would think of these stones as precious and worthy of being set in an engagement ring. Nowadays I''m thinking I don''t give a damn what people think as long as the finished product looks spectacular and unique, and the person who''s going to wear it likes it herself! Although I would still love to get a ruby or sapphire, I am considering other gems with beautiful colors. I particularly like tanzanite and some shades of tourmaline. Depending on the setting, the moh''s scale value may not matter so much either, or does it?
But back to sapphires, I don''t want to be a gem snob and try to opt for untreated, because then I could expect to pay many times the price of an equally good-looking stone, am I correct? On the other hand, I''ve been recently thinking about a really intensely colored and well-cut pink sapphire in a platinum ring. Would I be able to get a nicer pink sapphire than a blue one, keeping price approximately equal? Anyway, any gem suggestions are welcome, but the colours I''m looking for are blue, red, pink (though as deep and close to red as possible), purple, and that''s probably it. Greens and yellows/oranges are out.
cherrypicked.com seems like a great place to focus my efforts.
4) As far as the setting, I think this is the greatest opportunity for individual expression, since there aren''t TOO many different types of cuts for a stone. I think yellow gold is out because it doesn''t suit her coloring, and I''ve heard bad things about white gold being lower quality than yellow (and having the "white" plating fade over time). Of course I''d love to go platinum but I think the price premium may really eat into what I can spend on the stone. Is platinum really THAT expensive? And is it done by weight/mass or some other method? She has EXTREMELY small fingers and if I didn''t do a thick band then perhaps it wouldn''t be too much material to afford platinum? As for the look, I am avoiding anything with prongs as I think it looks way too conventional and boring. My favourite types of settings I''ve seen so far are tension settings, bezels and half-bezels. I''m sure there are many others too.
I''ll end this post now, so that I can open up the floor to any suggestions or comments from forumites out there. I hope to get as many people in on this as possible because the internet is a great place to bounce ideas off a well-informed community. I look forward to a (hopefully) long and creative thread!