zdrastvootya
Shiny_Rock
- Joined
- Sep 2, 2004
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- 210
Hi Soulsis,
I think your feelings are valid on this.
I think it's reasonable for the receiver to want some bragging rights on the ring. Not the "my ring is bigger and better than everyone else's", but something comparable to what others around you have that has nice qualities on its own. I would never want to put my GF in the position of explaining why the ring is noticeably smaller than her peers'. (Her peers aren't millionaires, thankfully.) The ring reflects (pardon the pun) on both of us.
While some may argue that the comparison game is childish, and they won't participate, I can't help thinking some will get embittered about the issue as it recurs and they try hard to ignore it. You can't get a ring and then tell everyone to mind their own business. I think the ring triggers memories and feelings; I think they should be the right ones.
Don't know if that made any sense.
Z.
ps. I guess in your case, it's more what you had before that what your contemporaries have, but sounds like he can afford it, and he should make you happy. Maybe there's some middle ground? Think you should have a heart to heart about the issues involved, if possible.
I think your feelings are valid on this.
I think it's reasonable for the receiver to want some bragging rights on the ring. Not the "my ring is bigger and better than everyone else's", but something comparable to what others around you have that has nice qualities on its own. I would never want to put my GF in the position of explaining why the ring is noticeably smaller than her peers'. (Her peers aren't millionaires, thankfully.) The ring reflects (pardon the pun) on both of us.
While some may argue that the comparison game is childish, and they won't participate, I can't help thinking some will get embittered about the issue as it recurs and they try hard to ignore it. You can't get a ring and then tell everyone to mind their own business. I think the ring triggers memories and feelings; I think they should be the right ones.
Don't know if that made any sense.
Z.
ps. I guess in your case, it's more what you had before that what your contemporaries have, but sounds like he can afford it, and he should make you happy. Maybe there's some middle ground? Think you should have a heart to heart about the issues involved, if possible.