Harleigh
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Hi Everyone...
It seems like a lot of things are going wrong around here lately, and I just really felt the need to vent about a few things...
FI has now mentioned three times since we got engaged that I "ruined" his proposal plan after refusing to go get my own engagement ring when it was ready.
After he asked me if I was going to go get it, I had simply asked him what he would THEN like me to do with it...he got irritated and said, "I dunno, put it in your mom''s safe?" I then told him it wasn''t my job to go get my own engagement ring and that if he wanted it kept at my parent''s house, he could ask them himself. That was on the 5th of July...I left the claim slip at his house and never said another word about it and figured he could generate his own plan of action. As you all know he picked it up on the 11th and proposed that night, which was my birthday, which was completely unexpected on my part. Between that discussion about me picking up the ring and the proposal, I didn''t say another word and left any and all plans solely up to him.
He brought up my supposed "ruination" of his intended proposal AGAIN on Sunday night (after we had a lovely weekend together in Lake Tahoe for his birthday) and I swear I almost threw the damn thing back at him! I almost laughed my head off at the guy on here that said his gal wants a re-do proposal-I think I have the exact opposite problem! I offered my guy a chance to do it over if it meant that much to him, but he didn''t take me up on it, so I said that I really don''t know how I ruined his plans as I didn''t request any sort of proposal or have ANY expectation whatsoever, except for the fact that I refused to go get my own damn ring!!!
For those of you who remember my previous threads, I really wasn''t sure whether or not he actually KNEW he needed to propose, and mentioned this to him on Sunday, again, and that for all I knew, if I went and got my own ring, we would just then be automatically engaged! This has left a bit of a rift between us, to say the least...
Then, to make matters worse, his grandma died yesterday, so of course that supercedes any issues we may have about his disgust over his own proposal, which might I again add, I have said NOTHING about and just keep telling him I am the luckiest girl in the world to have been able to choose my own diamond and ring, and to get it from the man I love! I could care less that it wasn''t romantic, there were no sweet words of love or devotion as we all secretly hope for...it was that HEwas the one who ACTUALLY asked that mattered to me! Arghh! So now we have a funeral to go to on Saturday with his family. We were supposed to get together with mine that day, but we will reschedule that, of course. So no more talk of how he wanted to do things differently... He won''t say how he wanted to do things differently, mind you, just that I "somehow" ruined his plans with no other explanation, and it''s really starting to bother me.
And then this morning, one of my dearest friends, a gal I went to college with, through my credential program and got my teaching job at the same school with, who I stood up for in her wedding and then went and got my Master''s Degree with, who I had considered NOT asking to be a bridesmaid due to the distance to Hawaii, etc..., but she was so upset at the thought of NOT being in it, I gave in and asked her to be a BM, to which she said, "Yes! Of course!!!" while jumping up and down, hugging me and crying and so on and so forth.
She came into my classroom right before school started today and said that they just couldn''t swing the trip to Hawaii, which I had told her to think long and hard about before she accepted, etc... and that I would in no way be offended. Apparently, after some reflection (and influence from her husband, I''m sure) she has decided that she doesn''t want to take her kids as it would cost too much, they''d be in the way, blah, blah, blah, which I completely understand, but we have suggested several options and have even offered to pay for their first 3 nights in Hawaii and help out with airfare as much as we are able to, etc...
So, now I am down to one definite bridesmaid, two maybes and a definite no. So glad I spent all that time traipsing to all of the ROSS stores in Northern CA looking for damn dresses to fit all their weird body shapes!! I swear I am about ready to give up...we have no plans in place, no date set, and my wedding party has pretty much gone to pieces!
To top it all off, one of my new students flipped out again today and had to be physically restrained by two male adults. He tore up the psychologist''s office, overturned tables, destroyed files, etc... He also did this in the Office Conference Room last Friday where he destroyed everything in his path, tore pictures off the walls, etc... None of my administrators felt the need to mention this to me when they brought him back to my class Friday morning, and I got to see him in action myself this morning. Turns out the parents forgot to mention their child is not only on medication for ADHD, but for "Anger Management," as well. He sees both a psychologist and a psychiatrist and apparently he has separation anxiety from his dad and this causes his angry outbursts. Did I mention this child is only 7??? He''s suspended until next Tuesday... Second grade is a LOT harder than I thought it would be...
Well, thanks for letting me vent...I''ve been a wreck since Sunday night, crying off and on, and am not quite sure when I see the light coming through at the end of the tunnel... It''s been a rough week, and sadly, it''s only Tuesday.
At least I have you guys on PS...thanks!
It seems like a lot of things are going wrong around here lately, and I just really felt the need to vent about a few things...
FI has now mentioned three times since we got engaged that I "ruined" his proposal plan after refusing to go get my own engagement ring when it was ready.
He brought up my supposed "ruination" of his intended proposal AGAIN on Sunday night (after we had a lovely weekend together in Lake Tahoe for his birthday) and I swear I almost threw the damn thing back at him! I almost laughed my head off at the guy on here that said his gal wants a re-do proposal-I think I have the exact opposite problem! I offered my guy a chance to do it over if it meant that much to him, but he didn''t take me up on it, so I said that I really don''t know how I ruined his plans as I didn''t request any sort of proposal or have ANY expectation whatsoever, except for the fact that I refused to go get my own damn ring!!!
For those of you who remember my previous threads, I really wasn''t sure whether or not he actually KNEW he needed to propose, and mentioned this to him on Sunday, again, and that for all I knew, if I went and got my own ring, we would just then be automatically engaged! This has left a bit of a rift between us, to say the least...
Then, to make matters worse, his grandma died yesterday, so of course that supercedes any issues we may have about his disgust over his own proposal, which might I again add, I have said NOTHING about and just keep telling him I am the luckiest girl in the world to have been able to choose my own diamond and ring, and to get it from the man I love! I could care less that it wasn''t romantic, there were no sweet words of love or devotion as we all secretly hope for...it was that HEwas the one who ACTUALLY asked that mattered to me! Arghh! So now we have a funeral to go to on Saturday with his family. We were supposed to get together with mine that day, but we will reschedule that, of course. So no more talk of how he wanted to do things differently... He won''t say how he wanted to do things differently, mind you, just that I "somehow" ruined his plans with no other explanation, and it''s really starting to bother me.
And then this morning, one of my dearest friends, a gal I went to college with, through my credential program and got my teaching job at the same school with, who I stood up for in her wedding and then went and got my Master''s Degree with, who I had considered NOT asking to be a bridesmaid due to the distance to Hawaii, etc..., but she was so upset at the thought of NOT being in it, I gave in and asked her to be a BM, to which she said, "Yes! Of course!!!" while jumping up and down, hugging me and crying and so on and so forth.
She came into my classroom right before school started today and said that they just couldn''t swing the trip to Hawaii, which I had told her to think long and hard about before she accepted, etc... and that I would in no way be offended. Apparently, after some reflection (and influence from her husband, I''m sure) she has decided that she doesn''t want to take her kids as it would cost too much, they''d be in the way, blah, blah, blah, which I completely understand, but we have suggested several options and have even offered to pay for their first 3 nights in Hawaii and help out with airfare as much as we are able to, etc...
So, now I am down to one definite bridesmaid, two maybes and a definite no. So glad I spent all that time traipsing to all of the ROSS stores in Northern CA looking for damn dresses to fit all their weird body shapes!! I swear I am about ready to give up...we have no plans in place, no date set, and my wedding party has pretty much gone to pieces!
To top it all off, one of my new students flipped out again today and had to be physically restrained by two male adults. He tore up the psychologist''s office, overturned tables, destroyed files, etc... He also did this in the Office Conference Room last Friday where he destroyed everything in his path, tore pictures off the walls, etc... None of my administrators felt the need to mention this to me when they brought him back to my class Friday morning, and I got to see him in action myself this morning. Turns out the parents forgot to mention their child is not only on medication for ADHD, but for "Anger Management," as well. He sees both a psychologist and a psychiatrist and apparently he has separation anxiety from his dad and this causes his angry outbursts. Did I mention this child is only 7??? He''s suspended until next Tuesday... Second grade is a LOT harder than I thought it would be...
Well, thanks for letting me vent...I''ve been a wreck since Sunday night, crying off and on, and am not quite sure when I see the light coming through at the end of the tunnel... It''s been a rough week, and sadly, it''s only Tuesday.