Have you had a change of feelings about your E-ring

[TravelingGal]

Yeah, I think it's a colossal waste of money for being such a small stone. I used to love it, but now I just hate thinking how much DH paid for it. I'd rather rock a big colored stone or something for half or 1/3 the cost. I can't find any halos I love, so I just don't know what to do with it really.

Honey. I'm only going to say this once. Your issue is that you are a bit penny wise and pound foolish. You keep going for economy settings and stock halos and three stones. If you actually invested in a really nice quality setting you'd see the difference and I think you would be happy. I wouldn't be happy with any halo but my own (and I wasn't). And with halos especially, the good ones cost, but it is the difference between love and hate. I've seen a lot of cheap halos and I wouldn't own any of them.

Gypsy, you're totally right! But I am a cheapskate, what can I say? We more than have the money, but it kills me to think about spending 5 or 6k on a setting! That could be money for the kiddos' college fund. My main problem is the stone is just too small, and I'm a solitaire girl at heart. If I had a massive stone, I could put it in a cheapie stock solitaire and be thrilled with it. But since the stone is small, I can't wear it in a solitaire.

Well, if they screw up 2 or 3 times, it usually will cost that much anyway. What size is your stone?

 

[Alexiszoe]

Yeah, I think it's a colossal waste of money for being such a small stone. I used to love it, but now I just hate thinking how much DH paid for it. I'd rather rock a big colored stone or something for half or 1/3 the cost. I can't find any halos I love, so I just don't know what to do with it really.

Honey. I'm only going to say this once. Your issue is that you are a bit penny wise and pound foolish. You keep going for economy settings and stock halos and three stones. If you actually invested in a really nice quality setting you'd see the difference and I think you would be happy. I wouldn't be happy with any halo but my own (and I wasn't). And with halos especially, the good ones cost, but it is the difference between love and hate. I've seen a lot of cheap halos and I wouldn't own any of them.

I second this. When I was doing my shopping for a halo, there were tons out there but none of the proportions were right, or the workmanship just wasn't up to scratch. In the end the setting I ended up with was double what most custom halo settings I was looking at was going for, but I couldn't be happier with the end result!

 

[Gypsy]

Laila honey I just don't get it. Sorry. If you have 7k we can find you a lovely 7mm-ish old cut and you can stick it in whatever you want and turn your current stone into a very lovely RHR in a beverly K setting like this one (which I love): http://www.beverleyk.com/semi-mounts/8wr1181-c-7-0rd-d-d-m.html which would make the most of it.

 

[Jennifer W]

My feelings haven't changed, other than I've got used to it so I probably don't really 'see' it anymore.

I have a 1ct EC in a simple plat solitaire. I loved it when I got it, and I still love it ten years later. It's now far too big for me, but I'm reluctant to have anyone touch it, so it's being worn with a fitted, shaped band on top to keep it on until I decide what to do. I don't want it changed in any way, it's almost to the point of being a phobia.

 

[zoebartlett]

"Zoe honey, have you asked WF about trading your stone in for an OEC. Regular jewelers can get OECs in. I know ID can. Also if you want, you can ask GOG if Jon wants your diamond and will let you trade it or buy it from you and put the money toward an OEC (I know Jon can get OECs). What size is your RB center?"

Gypsy, no, I haven't gotten in touch with WF or anyone else. My center stone is .92. Since I ultimately want a larger size, I'd have to have a new ring made so prongs could accommodate it. We're not in a financial position to upgrade right now. As much as I'd LOVE to, other things have to come first. I am curious to see what could happen and what I could get though. (By the way, to totally thread jack, my mom's diamond project is back on. My dad's taking his time though, so I haven't updated my thread in RT.)

 

[zoebartlett]

"resented" the face up of your asscher, lol, that's funny.

My ring is sturdy. This in the face of all the halo, delicate, thin shanked rings that happened right around the time of my engagement. I admit, I sometimes got ring envy in the sense that I saw such much ART around here. Mine was...well, sort of industrial!

But I loved it and still do. Would not change a thing and my set makes my heart sing still. And a reason that I didn't expect to love was that it IS industrial. Sturdy and a workhouse, and I NEVER have to worry about the set. Plus I love that diamond more than anything. I didn't get DSS either, which is shocking!

I love art, and I love seeing the magnificient pieces around here. But I am and have always been a slow and steady wins the race kind of girl. My ring is ever faithful!

I love your ring, TGal. I know someone who has a ring that looks a similar to yours, and I love looking at it. It's gorgeous, and I love how sturdy it is.

 

[Circe]

A little, though it's only by comparison to my new stone - and though I didn't see it coming, I think that might be because I'm a bit dim. It's probably quite a foreseeable circumstance that once there's a basis for comparison, one's feelings will change!

I still love my original and I wouldn't give it up for the world - like TGal, I have a workhorse of a setting, the sentiment is huge, and I just still adore the kaleidoscopic brightness of the RB. But getting my transitional has helped me cement some preferences I wasn't even aware I had.

Like ... From almost the beginning, I haven't worn my ering and my wedding band together. Just didn't look right. But the wedding band looks smashing with my transitional - why? Apparently, my eye prefers a 3:1 ratio between band width and stone size (which also explains why I like my thinner bands with my original, but not the transitional). Apparently, I have my very own Golden Mean (and now, for the first time, I regret going with platinum - the pun would have been so much better, otherwise).

On the other side, it helped concretize my preference for warmth: given the opportunity, I went straight for the same thing again. What I love about the transitional, I think, is an intensification of what I love about my warm RB - the way it can face up white in one light, and acquire a completely different personality in the next.

And that's not even touching on how much I love the fluorescence ... ;

In short: still love the RB, for itself and the sentiment; love the transitional just as much for its aesthetics. Best of both worlds!

 

[missy]

I love my ring but my dh proposed without my input because he knew that was the only way he could totally surprise me (and he knew ultimately that would be the best way to propose to me).

I know most here think it silly to propose without discussing it first (and I agree with this for most couples) but I was always anti marriage. My dh and I had been dating 4 years before the proposal. He had brought the topic of marriage (as an abstract concept not as us getting married as we had just started dating) up on the 3rd date and I stated that I never wanted to get married and he stated that he absolutely saw himself married in the future.

Flash forward 2 years and he brought up the topic of us getting married (we were at the River Cafe on Valentine's day- very romantic) and I almost passed out. Literally almost passed out. Not exaggerating. I had to excuse myself and go to the Ladies room. When I returned to the table we avoided the topic of what just happened and resumed the evening with a totally different discussion. Not to be brought up again until almost 2 years later when he proposed on a snowy afternoon in the park. As a total and I mean total surprise. I was (in my crazy mind) still not ready but I said yes (didn't want to risk losing him as I knew he would not be happy not moving forward) and asked for a looong engagement.

Looking back he was absolutely right in proposing as a total surprise as had we planned it ahead of time I would never have consented. I am not really sure why I was so against ever getting married except for the fact that I have always (and still do) hated change. But of course there is some change that is so much better and us getting married was just the best thing I (we) have ever done. I can say that in hindsight but in the years leading up to and the actual proposal I was just blind to that fact.

Sorry about the book to answer your question Gypsy. So my answer is that while I love my ER (had it reset a few times LOL) if I could go back and pick it out with the knowledge of PS behind me I would have ended up with a different ER. My dh doesn't mind if I reset my ring or change the diamond as he just wants me to be happy so the only thing limiting me is our budget. I don't see it happening anytime in the near (or even far) future as he purchased the diamond at a jewelry store that has no upgrade policy. If he had purchased it at a place with an upgrade policy I would have certainly upgraded by now!! Of course we could always win the lottery (darn I keep forgetting to play it!) and then I would upgrade in a heartbeat!!

But I do love my ring and I am always still getting compliments on it wherever I go but I think I can do better. But I can 100% definitively say I certainly won the proverbial lottery/jackpot with regards to my dh. A better jewel just doesn't exist (for me). He is my beshert.

 

[gem_anemone]

I love my ring and it's perfect for me (size and strength). I get ring envy for halos, but they are not really my style and I'm a clutz so I would probably trash it in a week or never wear it. Things are good for me the way they are.

I wouldn't want to change my stone shape. I wanted square that was not a princess. However until PS I had never heard of AVC or Queen of Hearts and I wouldn't mind adding one of those to my collection!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Laila, whatever happened with the prongs on your three stone? Did I miss more photos?

NEL, I was looking through the a thread talking about rings being too thin recently and saw the issue you had/have with your ring. I'm so sorry..that is SUCH a bummer and I wouldn't have thought it would tweak the way it did.

This is why your setting is perfect, TG. Hindsight is 20/20, I guess.

And Gypsy, I do think I'll reset if I need to. I used to be completely opposed to it, but leaving it in a box isn't ideal.

 

[ame]

The only thing I really think about as far as changing feelings is that I feel more and more jinxed and maybe I need to go with another shape/cut and setting style at this point bec I feel like I can't "win" and get what I expect.

 

[onedrop]

I really wish I could be completely happy with the ring(s) that I have had, so that I don't feel the need to re-set every couple of years, but it's just not the case. My problem is that something feels like a good idea at the time, but then years on, my tastes seem to change. My fickleness seems to center around settings and not my stone. We did upgrade from a .57 to a .83 years ago, but I am happy with the size (at least for now ) It's just the setting unrest in me that makes me a "fickle pickle." I am finally going back to a three stone, which is my ultimate love, and I think this will finally be the answer for me in the setting arena.


Skippy, I am also curious to see what you are considering for your OEC. It's such a lovely stone, it needs to be on your finger!

I really want to comment on everyone's posts but I don't want this post to be a novel. I've really enjoyed reading all the comments though!

Edited b/c my grammar stinks!

 

[rubybeth]

Since we were both poor students when we got engaged about 4 years ago, I decided it would be best to either get a 7 stone super blingy band or the biggest diamond in a solitaire that we could get for the budget, which was a modest $1k. We went with a half carat solitaire. I do love the solitaire look, but I went with a plain 2mm WG band as my w-band, and compared to the blingy 7-stones I'd admired, it wasn't very flashy. It suited my lifestyle but didn't excite me.

Last year for my 30th birthday, though, DH said I could get whatever I wanted, up to about $1,500, which was HUGE to me at the time. I considered getting a new diamond in a ring to upgrade over the years (don't ever want to change my original e-ring for sentimental reasons, and DH doesn't want me to change it, either). Diamondseeker pointed out that if I am sentimental, getting a diamond for a special occasion with plans to upgrade it later might not make the most sense. I concurred, and so got the Whiteflash Danielle bezel band I'd had in my wish list for close to 2 years. I wear it between my e-ring and plain band, and it finally gave me the bling factor I'd missed by getting a plain solitaire and plain band. Somehow, I also think it makes my e-ring stone look larger.

I *still* want the biggest, flashiest diamond I can get, but for now, am very happy with my current 'set,' and it's very 'me'--both classic and modern.

 

[SB621]

I've only been married 5 years and my entire wedding set has changed DH and I were 22 when we got engaged. Pretty much right after college with very little money. I loved my first ring. I picked out the setting and he picked out the center stone. It was beautiful, but I always wanted a halo. I dismissed the idea when we were engaged as one of my friends said it would take away from the center...that and those settings were very expensive. Anyhow fast forward and at our 3 year anniversary I upgraded the center from a .76ct rb to a 2.04ct rb. Then 6 months later got a different wedding band as I cracked my orginal on the sink. Finally at our 5 year anniversary I reset my 2.04ct RB into a VC emilya halo and i now wear that alone with no wedding band.

My husband thinks I'm nuts. But now truly I love my set. Before we went with what we could afford. Now I have my dream set. My husband just hopes this set will last me longer then 5 years

 

[yennyfire]

Well, as anyone who knows my saga is aware, it took me quite a while (and a couple of stones/settings) to get it right!

If I answer this question about my original that DH gave me when he proposed, my answer would be that I loved everything about it and would never have considered changing it (of course, that was pre-PS, so it's hard to answer the question since I might not have felt the same way about my original if I had found PS at that time).

Now that I have my antique oval and my dream setting, I am totally in love with every aspect of my ring and will never change or upgrade it.

Of course, I have a right hand that is more than happy to wear different rings every day of the week!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I guess my feelings have changed. It is not that I don't think my e-ring is beautiful, I do, but it is not practical for my profession. Many people do not feel the same way, but I only wear 3 stacked bands (my Tessa ring, WR, and a gold comfort plain band) to work. It seems like such a waste to have my ring sit in a drawer 5 days a week. Maybe someday I will get a smaller diamond or maybe more stacking bands to play around with. On the flip side I never have DSS the rare days I do wear my e-ring.

 

[sonnyjane]

I guess my feelings have changed. It is not that I don't think my e-ring is beautiful, I do, but it is not practical for my profession. Many people do not feel the same way, but I only wear 3 stacked bands (my Tessa ring, WR, and a gold comfort plain band) to work. It seems like such a waste to have my ring sit in a drawer 5 days a week. Maybe someday I will get a smaller diamond or maybe more stacking bands to play around with. On the flip side I never have DSS the rare days I do wear my e-ring.

Tacori that's kind of like me. I think I would be more apt to change my ring if I wore it a lot, but I can't wear it to work, so I really only wear it for maybe an hour or two a week if we go out. If I wore it 24/7, I'd probably be more concerned with tweaking it.

 

[aljdewey]

I cannot truthfully say that I've had a change of feelings so much about my e-ring; I do love it and I'm also sentimental about it.

Had I known about old cuts at the time, though, I'd have definitely gone that route instead. I much prefer the beautiful patterns of a stunning OEC, but I didn't know about them then.

I'm fortunate enough to have been able to swing several old stones for various projects, and that's probably why my feelings haven't changed about my e-ring. I get to enjoy the old stones for the way they speak to me and my e-ring for the what it means to me (and for its beauty - it IS beautiful to me.)

 

[TravelingGal]

I cannot truthfully say that I've had a change of feelings so much about my e-ring; I do love it and I'm also sentimental about it.

Had I known about old cuts at the time, though, I'd have definitely gone that route instead. I much prefer the beautiful patterns of a stunning OEC, but I didn't know about them then.

I'm fortunate enough to have been able to swing several old stones for various projects, and that's probably why my feelings haven't changed about my e-ring. I get to enjoy the old stones for the way they speak to me and my e-ring for the what it means to me (and for its beauty - it IS beautiful to me.)

To ME too. But I'm also a fan of the wearer.

 

[rubybeth]

I guess my feelings have changed. It is not that I don't think my e-ring is beautiful, I do, but it is not practical for my profession. Many people do not feel the same way, but I only wear 3 stacked bands (my Tessa ring, WR, and a gold comfort plain band) to work. It seems like such a waste to have my ring sit in a drawer 5 days a week. Maybe someday I will get a smaller diamond or maybe more stacking bands to play around with. On the flip side I never have DSS the rare days I do wear my e-ring.

Oh, Tacori, that is a bummer! While I don't want it to be true, your post proves it *is* possible to have a ring that's too large, or at least too large for your day-to-day lifestyle. That's one thing I am considering when I think about what I'd get if I had unlimited resources. Am I really going to want to go to work with a 3 carat honker on my finger every day? Likely not, as I'd feel overly ostentatious compared to the ladies nearly twice my age who are still wearing their 1/2 and 1/3 carat center stones, and most people are going to think my DH is loaded and NOT that I got a great deal on eBay or something. Plus, I work with patrons who are disputing $25 in library fines because they can't afford it, and I think I'd feel like the biggest piece of cr*p if I had a ginormous ring blinding them while I help them. I dunno, maybe someday when I am a retired lady of leisure, I can blow some of those hard-earned and long-saved IRA funds on a whopper I can wear while I sit by the pool.

 

[ame]

I guess my feelings have changed. It is not that I don't think my e-ring is beautiful, I do, but it is not practical for my profession. Many people do not feel the same way, but I only wear 3 stacked bands (my Tessa ring, WR, and a gold comfort plain band) to work. It seems like such a waste to have my ring sit in a drawer 5 days a week. Maybe someday I will get a smaller diamond or maybe more stacking bands to play around with. On the flip side I never have DSS the rare days I do wear my e-ring.

You do bring a good poitn up here. Since working in this new office I feel REALLY uncomfortable sometimes wearing my ring. I already get a lot of crap about being here, and how there were other people better suited for this position (as in someone's wife or sister or whatever) but then if I wear my ring, regardless of the fact that I had it before I was here, I get crap about being overpaid for the profession...I feel like I am rubbing it in someone's face, and I can't have that.

I am also less inclined to wear it to bridal consultations bec I don't want someone feeling uncomfortable if my ring is bigger or their ring is less flashy. Some girls or their fiances have commented, and I feel like crap about it sometimes.

I definitely don't wear it to work that often, but when I do, I feel very self conscious.

On the flip side, I asked Dh his thoughts on this question. His feeling is that he wishes my ring was bigger and flashier. He would prefer that I wear a ring that is appropriate for a "business owner (despite my having a second job...) and engineer" and that is more in line with "our station in life". He feels that appearing that we're worth what we're paid is important. I just had a budget as to what I was willing to spend when I got this. I barely went over it. I actually often DO regret it though, I do wish I'd have just gotten a band or two and been done. But that's not flashy enough.

 

[Mayk]

I love my ring. It's still very new though compared to some... Only a year and it took three settings to get it right and two different center stones. So I should be happy.

Of course I was totally lusting after an old cut So it's on lay-a-way and for a period of time it will be in a solitaire so I can enjoy that look... Eventually, it will be in a bezel of some kind...so I will still get to enjoy the non-halo look too...and still have my halo e-ring.

Do I wish it was bigger... Who doesn't but Gypsy said... Not size. I guess we all have DSS. Even my new one on lay-a-way... I keep thinking I should have held out longer for bigger

 

[NOYFB]

I love my ring, but there is one thing about it that bugs me. I wish I had done a little more research on asschers prior to purchasing it and gotten one with a smaller table. I was so excited that it faced up larger than asschers in similar carat weights and didn't really take into consideration that it would mean it had a larger table. I long for crown height

 

[Mrsacornblue]

I love my stone. I tweeked my solitaire setting to be thinner and really prefer it to my old setting. I have large fingers and thought a wider band would look better. I find the opposite to be true...a thinner band looks nicer and makes my stone a bit larger. I love the look of a halo or side stones but am very happy with my solitaire. I play with RHRs though.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Yeah, I think it's a colossal waste of money for being such a small stone. I used to love it, but now I just hate thinking how much DH paid for it. I'd rather rock a big colored stone or something for half or 1/3 the cost. I can't find any halos I love, so I just don't know what to do with it really.

Honey. I'm only going to say this once. Your issue is that you are a bit penny wise and pound foolish. You keep going for economy settings and stock halos and three stones. If you actually invested in a really nice quality setting you'd see the difference and I think you would be happy. I wouldn't be happy with any halo but my own (and I wasn't). And with halos especially, the good ones cost, but it is the difference between love and hate. I've seen a lot of cheap halos and I wouldn't own any of them.

Gypsy, you're totally right! But I am a cheapskate, what can I say? We more than have the money, but it kills me to think about spending 5 or 6k on a setting! That could be money for the kiddos' college fund. My main problem is the stone is just too small, and I'm a solitaire girl at heart. If I had a massive stone, I could put it in a cheapie stock solitaire and be thrilled with it. But since the stone is small, I can't wear it in a solitaire.

But you had a big solitaire my friend and you had it sit loose in a box for like two years!

 

[Dreamer_D]

My original engagement ring was a solitaire sapphire and I still have it and don't really wear it. It was what I wanted to a point, but the stone is smaller than I wanted and it cost too much for what it was. I would have liked a 7mm x 9mm stone, but looking back I did not really know how to communicate size desires. I gave my husband some photos and he got what he could afford that looked like the photos, and that was a 5.2mm x 6.1mm stone, whereas the photos had large 2-3ct stones. I knew the moment I opened the box when he proposed that the ring was not to my tastes, so I guess those feelings are not a change. But the ring is pretty and sentimental. I doubt I will change it in the future.

As for what to wear NOW... I have decided not to have angst about this anymore and accept that I like change and there will never be a "forever" ring or "forever" setting for me. Accepting this about myself has freed me from a fair amount of anxiety and guilt, as did selling my larger solitaire which cost much more than I think is responsible to have "tied up" in bling. I really love my blings half eternity band and wear it every day. I do have a yen for something else, a larger solitaire or something more traditionally "e-ring" like. Maybe one day I will get it. Maybe not. I'm ok with the process.

 

[Laila619]

Yeah, I think it's a colossal waste of money for being such a small stone. I used to love it, but now I just hate thinking how much DH paid for it. I'd rather rock a big colored stone or something for half or 1/3 the cost. I can't find any halos I love, so I just don't know what to do with it really.

Honey. I'm only going to say this once. Your issue is that you are a bit penny wise and pound foolish. You keep going for economy settings and stock halos and three stones. If you actually invested in a really nice quality setting you'd see the difference and I think you would be happy. I wouldn't be happy with any halo but my own (and I wasn't). And with halos especially, the good ones cost, but it is the difference between love and hate. I've seen a lot of cheap halos and I wouldn't own any of them.

Gypsy, you're totally right! But I am a cheapskate, what can I say? We more than have the money, but it kills me to think about spending 5 or 6k on a setting! That could be money for the kiddos' college fund. My main problem is the stone is just too small, and I'm a solitaire girl at heart. If I had a massive stone, I could put it in a cheapie stock solitaire and be thrilled with it. But since the stone is small, I can't wear it in a solitaire.

But you had a big solitaire my friend and you had it sit loose in a box for like two years!

It may have been big, but it wasn't 'massive' (to me!). I want 2.25+ carats my friend!

 

[junebug17]

I got engaged in the early 80's - dh got what he could afford at the time, and picked the ring out himself - it was .33 in a yellow gold solitaire setting. I was very young and not really into diamonds or jewelry and thought the ring was beautiful and looked pretty on my hand (and it did!). I never thought of it as "small" but looking back I remember a few people inferring that it was. I was so young that it didn't even phase me. One of the prongs in the setting eventually broke and I just never got around to fixing it. We started a family and I was busy with my kids. I wore my wedding band for a long time, and later on an anniversary band I got for my 10th anniversary. Through the years I also wore a few vintage rings from ebay that I just mixed and matched together. I also went through a sim phase in the mid 90's (Kathy Levin and QVC anyone? ) One day I went to find my e-ring with the intention of resetting the diamond, and it wasn't where I thought I put it. I still hunt for it once in a while, since it has to be somewhere in this house. My husband gave me an estate wedding set with a one carat stone for our 25th. The diamond isn't up to PS standards in terms of cut, but it's a beautiful and blingy set and I've enjoyed wearing it. But DSS kicked in and I recently got a 1.96 OEC in a solitaire antique setting, and I adore it. It just feels like...me. It's gorgeous and the perfect size and I'm perfectly content to ride out the rest of my days wearing this ring. (which hopefully consists of a lot of days! )

 

[Mara]

Like DD I have come to the realization I'll never have a forever ring for my e-ring. That's ok. I figure over the years people change, tastes change. I have a lot of beautiful colored stones in fantastic settings, some old stones, some RB's. I wear whatever I feel like on any given day. But per the thread in RT...we all know I've always wanted a giant honking solitaire so I figure that's one thing that will never change lol. I think that my husband has a harder time with the fact that my e-ring isn't a forever ring than I do. I point out that I squeezed a giant melonheaded boy out of my wahoo for him (obviously not just for him, but it's a fun joke) so he should have absolutely no worries about my 'commitment' to the relationship. Jewelry is just an adornment, like clothes. Just more expensive.

 

[Skippy123]

I love my ring. It's still very new though compared to some... Only a year and it took three settings to get it right and two different center stones. So I should be happy.

Of course I was totally lusting after an old cut So it's on lay-a-way and for a period of time it will be in a solitaire so I can enjoy that look... Eventually, it will be in a bezel of some kind...so I will still get to enjoy the non-halo look too...and still have my halo e-ring.

Do I wish it was bigger... Who doesn't but Gypsy said... Not size. I guess we all have DSS. Even my new one on lay-a-way... I keep thinking I should have held out longer for bigger

DSS is bad! I have it! I looked at a 3 stone right; the weight was 2 carats and the side stones were 1 carat each! I thought I could totally be cool with that ring! talk about finger real estate!!! 4 carats total!