Has anyone here Unhaloed?

[Laila619]

I bought my mom a halo setting last year to re-set my grandmother's ring. The stone is a 0.8 ct and I tried on her ring a few times. Her ring from a distance looks bling-er and bigger than my 1.22 ct. I questioned myself whether I should switch to a halo setting MANY times. But at the end I realized I am such a solitaire girl. It's just ME, my style. It's simple, understated yet classic. A halo has a bit of a flair and that's just not me. I love looking at other people's halos but I know it's just not me, you know?

That is a good point to think about--Iluvprettyrocks, your one carat in a halo will probably look bigger and blingier than a 1.5 carat in a solitaire.

 

[Christina...]

First, I think that your ring is gorgeous and it looks amazing on your beautiful hands! But, that I said I understand first hand how quickly DSS sets in. Last year I got a 1ct Asscher and was very happy with the size. Soon after though, I started second guessing myself and wondering if I should have gone 1.5 because asschers face up so much smaller than other cuts. I put it to rest though because I adored the performance of my stone. Since, I have considered adding a halo, unfortunately my husband despises halos (he thinks that it looks like he couldn't afford to buy me a larger stone so added a halo to trick people into thinking it's larger than it really is. lol strange reasoning but none the less how he feels). However he isn't opposed to upgrading my diamond as your fiance appears to be and we are in the processes of finding that perfect forever stone. I have often wondered though, since I was thrilled when I first recieved my diamond (I live in a tiny rural part of Maine where a 1ct stone is considered large believe it not) if I wouldn't still be over the moon about it if I didn't lurk in PS land so often and see all the amazing beautiful and HUGE diamonds that people here wear. I admit that when I see all the new posts about 2.5 ct AVC's and and 3 ct steven kirsh halos, the tdf Leon Meges, etc etc that I don't get a bit envious and immediately start planning the latest upgrade. But the truth is, most people don't wear 2+ ct diamonds and PSers are a very fortunate bunch of people with impeccable taste and drool worthy jewelry boxes. I think it's important to remember the sentiment in which the ring was given to you. Your fianance clearly spent alot of time and effort chosing your diamond, and evidently tried to be understanding when it wasn't what you wanted and agreed to the new halo. I think to go forward now, knowing his feeling about the situation would be insensitive. That said I also I also think that there is merit in wanting to be in love with your wedding ring, so I don't envy your situation. Knowing though that your fiance has strong feelings about it, I think that I would leave well enough alone and find a way to be happy with the gorgeous ring you are currently sporting and perhaps down the road suggest an amazing anniversary ring and this time....shop with him. Good luck and I truly think that your ring is beautiful!

 

[athenaworth]

You're on your third setting & not married yet? The last one you got in NOVEMBER ... two months ago? And you were blissful over the moon giddy about it ... and now: bummed?

Give it a rest. Concentrate on something else. Plan the wedding maybe.

Geeze Deco, who sh*t in your corn flakes?

To OP as someone who has had several resets, my suggestion is to give yourself timetables to which you will change it. Intersperse the resets with a special occasion and then it'll have more meaning and if you give yourself, say, a year between you'll hopefully get that craaze out of your brain. Oh and taking a break from PS helps too.

 

[Dancing Fire]

glad we can kill your new bling idea.. that's just what we do on PS
but the cost of a 2ct diamond is about 3 times of the cost of a 1ct so halo is a perfect cheap way to do it! =P

not if she kept on scrapping all those settings..

 

[Dancing Fire]

You're on your third setting & not married yet? The last one you got in NOVEMBER ... two months ago? And you were blissful over the moon giddy about it ... and now: bummed?

Give it a rest. Concentrate on something else. Plan the wedding maybe.

is this a new PS record?...

 

[mrssalvo]

Many times the grass is always greener...solitaire folks wish for something more and those with halo's/fancier settings long for the simplicity of a solitaire. You've changed it a few times so I would suggest just leaving it as is for the time being. It truly is lovely and I think if you unhalo you will probably feel that your diamond is even smaller. There is nothing wrong with wanting to reset or changing your mind but I do think you should wait a little bit before changing again and see how you feel a few months from now. Sometimes just taking a break from PS (where it's easy to spy other rings or want for something bigger and better) helps bring reality back into it's place.

 

[luv2sparkle]

It kinda sounds like you are a bit mad at your FI because he didn't get you the 1.5-2.0 stone you wanted. You said his opinion doesn't count. I think a better idea would be to talk to him honestly about how you feel about that, and why exactly he chose to go smaller than you asked for. Maybe you can talk it out and then you will feel better about the whole ring.

I went through a similar thing when my DH and I first got engaged. Long story, but a few years later I told him how I felt about that ring and how much I hated it. At first he told me I should just be grateful (not a great move on his part), but when I calmly explained why,
he felt so bad that he was dragging me to look at rings. I wish I had just told him the whole story in the beginning, but we were so young.

It seems to me from your posts, that you won't be happy no matter what you do really. You have to get your feelings out in the open and talk about it. Once you feel heard and understood I am sure a compromise can be reached. But seriously, I think you NEED to do this.

 

[farmer gal]

Your ring is gorgeous the way it is I agree that you should wait to do a reset. I understand what your saying about wanting a bigger stone, because I have gone through that myself. But then I stop and think my husband spent a lot of time picking out my ring, and he is so darn proud of himself that I probably will never change it for that reason. If you keep pushing the issue, he may become resentful, and feel like nothing is good enough for you. You guys are just going to be starting your lives together there will be a lot more important things to spend money on in the future, give it some time.

 

[Dreamer_D]

I bought my mom a halo setting last year to re-set my grandmother's ring. The stone is a 0.8 ct and I tried on her ring a few times. Her ring from a distance looks bling-er and bigger than my 1.22 ct. I questioned myself whether I should switch to a halo setting MANY times. But at the end I realized I am such a solitaire girl. It's just ME, my style. It's simple, understated yet classic. A halo has a bit of a flair and that's just not me. I love looking at other people's halos but I know it's just not me, you know?

That is a good point to think about--Iluvprettyrocks, your one carat in a halo will probably look bigger and blingier than a 1.5 carat in a solitaire.

I have written this before on PS but it is worth repeating. I had a very sobering moment when I owned my 1.7ct and went to Tiffany and tried on their embrace ring. The haloed embrace looks *as substantial* as my 1.7ct. Of course, we all know it is a smaller diamond, but if the look you are after is a "wow bling!" look, a halo works just fine.

I upgraded a number of times thinking I wanted bigger. What I really craved was blingier, and more substantial on my hand. A 1ct diamond with half carat side stones or a blingy 5-stone band is much greater impact at a fraction the price of a larger solitaire. As I said, it really all depends on the look you crave. But if the look you crave is eye catching and blingly, a large honkin' Solitaire is not the only or even the best way to achieve that!

Now, if you want a large honkin' solitaire and can't afford it (like most of us)... well, then you are out of luck.

 

[Circe]

If I'm reading between the lines correctly, part of the problem is that you went to try rings on together ... you clearly indicated that you preferred the plain solitaire with a 1.5 to 2 carat stone on your hand ... and he opted for a fancier setting with a smaller stone instead. Probably the same price, but at the cost of disregarding your preferences ... and now he's averse to upgrading, which leaves you in the awkward position of loving the guy and the engagement, but feeling a little silenced when you look down at your hand, maybe?

Make me another vote for talking to him about this directly. PS seems to have two schools of thought on this - and I'm not even going into the whole choosing your own ring/feeling "entitled" thing (I myself figure a big purchase in a soon-to-be shared economy, damned skippy ladies should get a vote), with one side arguing for just forgetting about it for a while, and the other arguing for airing your disagreements. Well, I'm a seether. I definitely think it's worth talking things out, otherwise you just *stew.*

Looking over your back posts, you got your ring more than 6 months ago, so even if you bought from a place with an upgrade policy and he's amenable to upgrading after your talk, now probably isn't the time to do it. But I bet you'd get some emotional closure if he acknowledged where you're coming from, and you maybe knew you could look forward to, say, an anniversary ring for your 5th, 10, whaever-th anniversary, one that fits your preferences. And in the meantime, enjoy your beautiful halo! That sparklier effect isn't a bug - it's a feature.

 

[MissGotRocks]

I'm not always a halo fan although there have been many beautiful ones here through the years. Personally, I like the proportions of a one carat stone with a halo. It has a very nice presence on the hand without being too over the top. I think yours is very pretty and when paired with a band or bands, you will have a beautiful wedding set.

You are young and have many years ahead of you. Upgrades and resets will be possible. Since you had a solitaire setting and were not completely pleased with it, I can't really see that going back to that look will solve your problem. Since this new reset is fairly new, I would try living with it for awhile. It is expensive to keep changing settings and there may be a day when you will trade in this stone for a larger one. Five years down the road the issue of your ring may not be so important to you either. PS does create settingitis - how's that for a new disease word? - so if it's all driving you batty, turn it off for awhile. When something causes you more angst than pleasure, it's not worth torturing yourself. You do have a beautiful ring - I hope you will come to enjoy it!

 

[Gypsy]

It kinda sounds like you are a bit mad at your FI because he didn't get you the 1.5-2.0 stone you wanted. You said his opinion doesn't count. I think a better idea would be to talk to him honestly about how you feel about that, and why exactly he chose to go smaller than you asked for. Maybe you can talk it out and then you will feel better about the whole ring.

I went through a similar thing when my DH and I first got engaged. Long story, but a few years later I told him how I felt about that ring and how much I hated it. At first he told me I should just be grateful (not a great move on his part), but when I calmly explained why,
he felt so bad that he was dragging me to look at rings. I wish I had just told him the whole story in the beginning, but we were so young.

It seems to me from your posts, that you won't be happy no matter what you do really. You have to get your feelings out in the open and talk about it. Once you feel heard and understood I am sure a compromise can be reached. But seriously, I think you NEED to do this.

This is a very wise post. I think you've received a lot of good advice but this is the best... talk to him honestly. In a way, your expectations were raised because you both went shopping and tried on different sizes and he asked for your opinion then ignored it and got a you a one carat. Which is a great size, but in context is confusing and, I can see, a bit disappointing. There is probably a reason for his decision though, and unless you talk to him you won't know. And it will keep bugging you.

I don't think sweeping this under the rug is a good idea. Just have it out. I wouldn't start my marriage with resentment over something like this. I would want to start my marriage with honesty... even if it means having difficult adult conversations.

 

[Laila619]

I bought my mom a halo setting last year to re-set my grandmother's ring. The stone is a 0.8 ct and I tried on her ring a few times. Her ring from a distance looks bling-er and bigger than my 1.22 ct. I questioned myself whether I should switch to a halo setting MANY times. But at the end I realized I am such a solitaire girl. It's just ME, my style. It's simple, understated yet classic. A halo has a bit of a flair and that's just not me. I love looking at other people's halos but I know it's just not me, you know?

That is a good point to think about--Iluvprettyrocks, your one carat in a halo will probably look bigger and blingier than a 1.5 carat in a solitaire.

I have written this before on PS but it is worth repeating. I had a very sobering moment when I owned my 1.7ct and went to Tiffany and tried on their embrace ring. The haloed embrace looks *as substantial* as my 1.7ct. Of course, we all know it is a smaller diamond, but if the look you are after is a "wow bling!" look, a halo works just fine.

I upgraded a number of times thinking I wanted bigger. What I really craved was blingier, and more substantial on my hand. A 1ct diamond with half carat side stones or a blingy 5-stone band is much greater impact at a fraction the price of a larger solitaire. As I said, it really all depends on the look you crave. But if the look you crave is eye catching and blingly, a large honkin' Solitaire is not the only or even the best way to achieve that!

Totally agree with all of this.

 

[usnwife]

Well first off, I love your ring. I am about to reset for the 10th or 11th time; it's sad but I have lost count. All of my resets have been nice, and most people would have been very happy with them. However, I knew what I wanted from the start, but I kept trying to cheap out. So now all these resets later and money wasted, I am going all out and getting what I originally wanted. So, if you want a 2ct center, buy it for yourself.

 

[CaprineSun]

You're on your third setting & not married yet? The last one you got in NOVEMBER ... two months ago? And you were blissful over the moon giddy about it ... and now: bummed?

Give it a rest. Concentrate on something else. Plan the wedding maybe.

This is beyond rude.
This happens ALL the time, so would you have said the same if this was a different, "popular" poster? Why single her out and put her down for it?

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

Personally I have never unhaloed a diamond or a gemstone. The reason I chose a halo to begin with is that I wanted more of a "bling" presence to the stone. Perhaps like it has been mentioned that you prefer a bigger diamond. Just take your time and think about it and it that is the root cause of your resets then save until you have your dream diamond. Or if you are just fixating on the ring because of anxiety due to all of your upcoming life changes then take some time out to relax and relieve the stress.

 

[decodelighted]

You're on your third setting & not married yet? The last one you got in NOVEMBER ... two months ago? And you were blissful over the moon giddy about it ... and now: bummed?
Give it a rest. Concentrate on something else. Plan the wedding maybe.

would you have said the same if this was a different, "popular" poster?

HA! Ask. Around.

 

[distracts]

It kinda sounds like you are a bit mad at your FI because he didn't get you the 1.5-2.0 stone you wanted. You said his opinion doesn't count. I think a better idea would be to talk to him honestly about how you feel about that, and why exactly he chose to go smaller than you asked for. Maybe you can talk it out and then you will feel better about the whole ring.

I went through a similar thing when my DH and I first got engaged. Long story, but a few years later I told him how I felt about that ring and how much I hated it. At first he told me I should just be grateful (not a great move on his part), but when I calmly explained why,
he felt so bad that he was dragging me to look at rings. I wish I had just told him the whole story in the beginning, but we were so young.

It seems to me from your posts, that you won't be happy no matter what you do really. You have to get your feelings out in the open and talk about it. Once you feel heard and understood I am sure a compromise can be reached. But seriously, I think you NEED to do this.

This.

You also haven't clearly seemed to acknowledge the price difference between the 1 ct diamond you got and the 1.5-2 ct one you wanted. It could be that your fiance would have been happy to get you what you wanted if he could afford it, and you not being pleased with what he could afford really hurts him. It could be that even if he could technically afford it, it wouldn't be a wise use of money. I dunno. Maybe he thought they all looked the same size to him. Whatever his reasoning was, you should talk to him about it and make a plan. Like some people have suggested, maybe after your wedding is over, start putting away a little money every now and then for a big anniversary present or something. If he is really opposed to you getting rid of your original stone, you could do like some people here have done and make it the sidestone in a three-stone or a pendant that you wear a lot.

I do think the halo you have looks very big and gorgeous. I know it isn't exactly what you wanted, but I hope you learn to appreciate it, because it's beautiful.

 

[LaraOnline]

Hi there Iluvprettyrocks!
I am coming out of lurkdom to post on your thread!

I first came to PS when I was bummed about my original wedding set - a budget buy of about $600.
It was pretty, but did not reflect my own taste or preferences.
From the start, I felt it was a compromise... a compromise to my dream that no-one else realised I was even making!
I wanted to be proud of my ring, but I felt I couldnt' really even show it to anyone, it was so modest....

I felt torn, and guilty and massively confused when I finally realised I wanted to change it, because where I come from in Australia there was no real appreciation of fine jewellery...while I knew I wasn't totally thrilled with my original set, realising I was plotting to change it up brought a huge amount of guilt and confusion (and of course, quite a critical response from my husband).

However, I decided that 5 years into the marriage, I was going to upgrade, to something I wanted.
And what I wanted was a classic solitaire, around 1.5c!

My husband put money in, I put (quite a lot more) money in, and about a year later I got the ring of my dreams!
When it came, my husband cynically wanted to know how long that would keep me happy... it's several years since and I am PERFECTLY satisfied.

Don't feel guilty...but do try to get clear about your preferences... the longer you spend thinking about it, the better... I found in the initial 'shopping' stage, my preferences did jump around quite a lot.
So, in the end, having my year-long 'desperate longing and saving' stage did really help clarify what I wanted....leading to more satisfaction in the end!

Time is on your side.
Just relax, be very clear about what you want, and you'll get there in the end.
Enjoy what you have now, safe in the knowledge that one day, your desire shall be achieved.
Rome wasn't built in a day!

 

[milton333]

I'll just say a few things. I'm with distracts, above - I'm not hearing acknowledgement that a 2 ct ring would have been triple the budget of a 1 ct. In all likelihood. your FI could not afford it.

The thing about PS is that many people on here are quite wealthy. There was a thread about what diamond purchases people had made over the last year, and someone had acquired 11 carats worth of diamonds in a single year. I remember a few years ago when someone on here saw a $100,000 5 ct diamond pop up with one of the vendors and just "treated" herself to it.

You need to understand and be realistic about your socioeconomic strata. So much surrounding weddings and engagements is supposed to make us believe that it's perfectly reasonable for an average person to spend $5k on a dress, $30k on an e-ring, etc. It's not. 1 ct is a large middle class diamond. Most people in America have diamonds below that range. Most men looking for help finding an e-ring are shopping in the $3-5k range.

It's easy to see everyone on here with their bling and feel like it's "normal." Most women will have one significant piece of diamond jewelry, and it's their e-ring. Maybe a pair of diamond studs some day, maybe an anniversary band. But a world where someone acquires 11 cts worth of jewelry in a single year, or spends $100k on a diamond, just on a whim? You don't live in that world, and neither do I.

I'm going to have to vote for stop thinking about this and focus on something else. Put down the Pricescope. Get a hobby. Because it's harmful to your relationship to be bitter and unhappy about your engagement ring, and unless you're amongst the 1%, a 1 ct in a halo is quite a lot of bling and a very respectable e-ring to have.

You're making your fiance feel bad, and getting yourself worked up over something that you're not going to resolve. Your FI wants you to be happy with your stone, and isn't comfortable with an upgrade. You're being advised to ignore him and do it anyway. Why? Where's his feelings and respecting his position in all of this? You're being advised to confront him with your dissatisfaction with your current ring. Believe me, from the bitterness with which you discuss it, I'm certain that he is well aware that you're not happy. So the question is - if he knows you want a 2 ct ring, and he's not giving you one, why is that? Either he doesn't want you to have what you want, or he can't afford it. You seem to have leaped to conclusion #1, but I'd bet my own e-ring that it's #2.

Moreover, you are conflating his "failure" to get you a 2 ct diamond with him not loving or valuing you enough. It sounds like, even if it was a huge financial sacrifice for him to try to acquire a 2 ct diamond, you would want him to do that to prove his love. This sounds like the bigger issue, not that you need to air out your unhappiness with your diamond, but that you need to air out your perception that he isn't sufficiently affectionate/demonstrative/committed, or your own insecurity that requires extreme gestures as "proof" of his love.

You're losing sight of the fact that an e-ring isn't just a piece of jewelry for you to flaunt, it's a symbol of love and commitment that was chose by your fiance. You can purchase other jewelry - look for a blingy wedding band, get yourself a RHR, get a bracelet, etc. But I suggest you stop and learn to live with your e-ring.

 

[Gypsy]

I'd like to clarify.

No one said to "confront him"... AT ALL.

We said talk to him because he's the one that made the decision and if you want to know why, he's the only one who can tell you. We encouraged her to have an adult discussion about the ring. That's not a confrontation, not an argument, not an opportunity to rail at him for 'only' getting her a carat. NONE OF THAT.

That's an opportunity to put her bitterness which comes from her assumptions aside and to ask him honestly about his decision making process so she understands where he was coming from so she can stop assuming, and can stop wondering why and get closure on an issue that's been bugging her and disrupting her enjoyment of her engagement.

She wants to know WHY he didn't get her a larger solitaire. The solution to that isn't: be happy with what you got, you ungrateful brat. She's not a child. The solution isn't: ignore it and hope it will go away. Obviously that isn't working. The solution is: there was a decision that was made to go for a smaller diamond-- ask him what that decision was and if the reasoning is fair -- you now know why and can make peace with your diamond as it is. If the reasoning isn't fair, then you talk and explain (not fight, not confront, not argue) why you don't feel it's fair and then maybe then once you both see the other's side you can make a decision to proceed together as a unit. Whether that's to decide on an upgrade together, or to keep the current ring.

We have no idea what their finances are. There are plenty of people who CAN afford larger diamond, nicer cars, bigger houses, etc. And don't for whatever reason. That's not wrong. But it's also not wrong when you might be marrying a person who is making this choice to say... "hey, I'm curious, why did you make this decision."

And finally, talking it out gives her an understand of his perception of their finances. If her perception is that he could have comfortably afforded a 1.5 or 2 carat ring and that is incorrect, she needs to KNOW that and understand it. And talking to him is the best way to achieve that too.

You all are making assumptions that he can't afford to buy more than a carat-- and you don't know anything about him. She, who knows him well enough to marry him, was assuming that he could afford more. Since she's not a child and KNOWS HIM I assume her perception is based on something. Whether that basis is correct or incorrect is something she should work out with him.

By talking to him.

 

[elliemay]

BLISS, unhaloed. here is her thread [URL='https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/2-73-soltaire-or-three-stone-get-both-thanks-idj.169812/']https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/2-73-soltaire-or-three-stone-get-both-thanks-idj.169812/[/URL]

eta: I think PS makes it easier to change ones mind so give it awhile and see if you feel the same changing settings, say 1 year down the road? I tend to wait awhile to make sure the change is what I really want.

I think you have a point, I was never so obsessed until I found this place...

I actually plan to STOP visiting PS once I've finished my ring! I'm learning SO much here, which is wonderful, but I also know I'll never be able to afford the diamonds I *should* buy versus the diamonds I can actually afford (without taking out a loan!) and hanging around PS too long will keep inspiring me to upgrade continually.

It's like I know too much now and that's a double-edged sword. I keep reminding myself that all diamonds are beautiful and that I would've been perfectly happy with an "average" diamond from a mall store or pawn shop prior to finding PS, so I shouldn't beat myself up too much or drive myself crazy in the search for the "perfect" stone. I also keep reminding myself that no one in my real life knows anything about diamonds and none of them will be looking at my ring with a trained or informed eye -- they'll just see sparkle, so arguing with myself over VS2 v. SI1 or 1.1 ct v 1.2 ct is of very little consequence as no one will care about those details.

 

[lknvrb4]

The world of PS is completely different than the real world. PS has the most beautiful rings around no doubt but where I live people do not have bling like PS. I came to PS two years ago with my 1ct RB and was blown away by what everyone else had. It was totally not in my budget to even get a bigger diamond so I changed my setting. Four months later I caught the halo bug too and was blown away when I got my diamond put in my Verragio halo. I could not believe that was my ring. Fast forward six months or so and I realized that my halo was gorgeous but it was never going to be a big rock. I realized what I really wanted was a 2ct honker and no way was that going to happen. I went through a time where we bought a 2ct and promptly returned it due to unexpected surgery and our furnace and water heater kicking the bucket all at once. Anyway, I happened upon GOG one day and found an unbelievable deal on a 1.57 pear so with begging DH I did get it. Anyway, I have a halo as a RHR and my pear. I looked down at my hands last week and realized I do not know anyone who has the kind of bling I have on my hands. I have never seen anyone in my town or the surrounding towns sport the bling I have. I must be nuts having all this. I am at the point where I am backing off and am going to enjoy what I have, there are so many people out there who don't have anything.

 

[Mayk]

This Website can make you crazy... I love, love, love my halo.. but I see some beautiful solitaires here and often wish I had one to wear when I felt like being "different".. not different from everyone else.. different from my halo .. but I also realize.. I have gotten accustom to the finger coverage of my ring and I would also probably feel naked.. my center is 1.3. I wouldn't do anything drastic... yet... I think you have gotten some good advice.. sit on it for a while.. and then decide... Your ring is beautiful... but I am a bit biased since I have a halo...

 

[diamondseeker2006]

You've received some great advice. I have wondered throughout the thread if you knew what his budget was for the ring at the outset. Since he apparently took you to look at rings, I think he should have made it clear that those larger stones were not in the budget so that you wouldn't have been disappointed in getting a diamond smaller than you thought was possible. A 1.5 ct. diamond can easily cost double the price of a 1 ct. Even though we see it here on PS, most couples getting engaged for the first time in their 20's are not getting diamonds over a carat, and many of the ones that do are getting lower quality diamonds than we see here. My daughter got engaged a little over a year ago and her diamond is 1.15. None of her friends has a larger diamond. It seems that that is a normal size in her social circle. And it was the size I wore for 30 years before I got a new set for our anniversary. And even then, I went a little bigger than I had intended (1.6 cts.) and am sometimes uncomfortable because most of the women I know still wear their original smaller diamonds even though they could afford anything they wanted! I will never desire a stone any larger because I now know what my comfort level is. If your friends and family have 1.5-2.0 ct. diamonds, then I do understand the desire to fit into the social circle. But since budget was likely the constraining factor, you found the best possible solution to give your stone a size boost. And as others have said, if you removed the halo now, the diamond would look even smaller to you. So my vote is like most of the others, be content with your beautiful ring and hopefully someday you can turn that diamond and halo into a beautiful pendant and get a new ring for an aniversary. For us, houses, children, braces, college expenses, etc. all came first before we invested in a lot of expensive jewelry. And even now, I always have to step back into my real world to think about what I'd really wear!

 

[Amys Bling]

well since you promised your fiance that this is your last setting I think you should just be happy with it? You were so happy on your last post.
The sparks that a halo give you, you will not get it from a 1 1/2 or 2ct diamond because there are lots of little diamond around it that sparks. If you go to a store and try on a 2ct solitaire you will see the difference and see how do you like that

You're right and I made that promise like only 2 months ago
I did try both sizes on before, when we looked at rings together before we got engaged I tried on a 1.5ct and a 2ct solitatire among other styles and I told him that the solitaire in a 1.5ct -2ct was exactly what I wanted...he got me a 1 carat with pave diamonds on the band, it was pretty...

I think this is the issue. You tried on rings and really felt drawn to the size of a 1.5-2.0 ct stone- which I think MANY MANY people would dream of. The reality of it is.... you told him you really wanted a 1.5-2ct stone and he got you the 1 ct most likely because that is what he could afford. My DH told me that when he was buying my stone - a 1.5ct he asked how much it would be to go to 2 ct in the same color and clarity and cut at my stone which he loved the look of- and the price she quoted him was insane. I think sometimes our ideals of things dont always match the reality. I would have loved to get a 2ct or even a 2.5 reality it, our FI/DH get us what they can afford. I think that no matter what setting you select, you wil think about the 1.5-2.0ct stone you wished for. I think maybe just accpeting that the 1ct is what your FI could afford and selected to give to you as a symbol of his love amd commitment. He feels sentimental about the stone he proposed with and wants you to feel the same about it.

I guess we all- myself included- need to step back sometimes and think about it from their perspective. He picked out a beautiful stone for you that I am sure he was so nervous, excited, and ecstatic to propose to you with- imagine how you would feel if you knew his disappointment over a big emotional purchase you made for him.

I think you should keep the halo or go back to the original setting.

 

[Amys Bling]

or... he could have afforded the 1.5-2.0ct stone and chose the stone he did for another reason... only your FI knows his reasoning- like another poster stated. So you can ask him or accept your stone that he gave you- focus on your wedding band

 

[FairieMoon79]

I feel a need to chime in, because I also have been thru a few rings in what most deem a short amount of time.
My first set was set in sterling silver, an illusion setting with 4 diamonds to look like one bigger one, and it was from his previous engagement. I knew this but was ok with it, as I knew he couldnt afford another ring and I just customized the engagement ring to make it into something different that hadnt been worn by the previous owner. Between all the rings I had stacked, I probably had 1.5 carats but it was alot going on.

Fast forward a few months past the wedding and I wanted one bigger piece that was picked out for me vs a bunch of rings stacked to try to look bigger. I found a tension set 3 flower ring I loved, but 2 months into it lost a stone. It became a concern id continue to loose stones, so I again got rid of it to get something "sturdy". This one was probably 1 carat but faced up very blingy with great finger coverage.

My blingy ring was returned and I ended up with an OMC, .35 carats....I first wanted the diamond because I love antiques and loved having a piece of history on my hand. But it was hard to adjust to the size when my heart sings at halos or big stones. ive since put an amazing wrap with mine, its a unique look to me.

Its hard sometimes for people to understand why the heart wants what it wants, but at the end of the day, there has to be a middle ground. My hubby has been very patient in my journey, is it my forever? Probably not, one day a big ole OMC would be wonderful. But for now I know I have quality vs things Ive had before. And even though its smaller, I see it in the sun and Im content.

You have a beautiful halo, Id almost bet when you try on wedding bands it will take on a new light. But ive also learned in my journey that temporary solutions dont ultimately fix things cause the want will still be there.

Good luck in whatever you decide!

 

[tulip928]

OMG! Your ring is gorgeous!
That's all I've got to say!

 

[Amys Bling]

OMG! Your ring is gorgeous!
That's all I've got to say!

agreed. It is a stunning stone and setting- truly is...