LiW *grumble grumble piss and moan*

[Smurfysmiles]

yeah i got lapped
by 2 of my managers
who are both younger than me
and have only been together for 4 months
and i have no ice cream
and i have pms

and i am pretty sure everytime some gets engaged before me i get my period
ugh
thanks for letting me vent

 

[INdmbLove]

Completely horrible nasty not- so- nice part of me often thinks.... hmmm way to keep that divorce statistic high when I hear about couples like this.
I know that it doesn''t always lead to this, and that couples who have been together for years upon years before being engaged get divorced often too after tying the knot... but it does make me feel a TINY bit better in the moment.... I know- It is Horrible

 

[Smurfysmiles]

that was the first thing to pop in my head when i heard
you''re no more horrible than i am hah

 

[FrekeChild]

Nor me. Of course I am always the pessimist when it comes to months long courtships over years long courtships. And it doesn't help that dear ol' dad is a divorce attorney...

Is it bad that I'm tempted to send one of his business cards to my old manager who got engaged to one of my co-workers 3 months after they started dating?

September to December. And they plan to marry in August.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

i would send them the whole brochure AND a business card freke haha

 

[FrekeChild]

You know smurfy...you could do the same...just drop by your friendly local divorce attorney or marital therapist''s office....pick up a couple pieces of paper...anonymously "deliver" them to the office...

Whenever something like this happens with people we know, BF says, "Well that''s another one we''ll beat!"

 

[Smurfysmiles]

i told my bf about how i told the guy that was gonna propose that it was a bad idea and bf was like that guy is such a *expletive* lol which made me feel better.
i think i need a second job to get my mind off things ugh

 

[FrekeChild]

What did the guy say?

I''m bored. BF is watching Whose Line is it Anyway?

So I''m chillin'' on PS.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

he said (and get this)
"i just turned 19, i''m pretty sure i know everything i need to know"
to which i laughed and told him i was putting in my two weeks lol (i had a job lined up, i didnt do it just because of what he said)

 

[FrekeChild]

19?!?!?!?!

Send him a packet of divorce attorney information. Or if that doesn''t work-send a phone book with DIVORCE ATTORNEYS highlighted, book marked and sticky noted. If you don''t want to, I will. I have 4 phone books sitting around collecting dust. (Who cares that they are for NM and a year old? It''s the point that counts!)

How old is she? And is this the grocery store?

 

[diamondfan]

No offense but he is a putz. I am 19 and know all I need to? Honey, the male brain isn''t even fully formed til the mid 20''s if you believe all the research and PET scans. SHEESH. He should ask if the minister does post divorce support groups and sign up NOW.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

haha yeah, i hope im not invited because i dont want to waste a marriage present on that.

 

[diamondfan]

I thought you had one year to send a gift, with that marriage I would wait as long as I could!!! Otherwise they will just have one more thing to fight over.

I am being bad, but it does not seem like a wonderfully well thought out decision I must say!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

touche haha

 

[Pandora II]

Just out of interest, what do the parents say?

If my 19 year old daughter/son came home and said they were engaged after 3 months I would go ballistic!

 

[Mediterranean]

Date: 4/5/2008 2:58:54 PM
Author: Pandora II
Just out of interest, what do the parents say?


If my 19 year old daughter/son came home and said they were engaged after 3 months I would go ballistic!

.....Right? My mother would have chained me to her ankle until I turned 25 if I told her I got engaged after 3 months at the age of 19! I have earrings older than that dude!


And on the "hoping for the best" side of things....maybe they''ll have a long engagement. I mean, maybe they''ll actually marry once they graduate college or something.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

well the groom to be is 19
the girl is 23 and graduated, she graduated with me in college (by this i mean i saw her name in the program, we weren''t close friends or anything lol)

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Date: 4/5/2008 3:50:29 PM
Author: Mediterranean


.....Right? My mother would have chained me to her ankle until I turned 25

that''s what my mom said when i first started dating SO lol, but now she keeps hinting that she''s ready to start planning with me haha

 

[LegacyGirl]

You two are cracking me up!!

 

[absolut_blonde]

I hate getting lapped as much as the next LIW. But, in this case... I think there''s a lot NOT to envy. LOL. I hate to be catty but the skeptic in me wonders if they''ll even make it to the altar and, if they do, how long it will last.

I know some people do marry young and it works out for them. Others (often a bit older and at least more mature) marry quite quickly, and that works out for them. But the combination of the two seems quite bad in my books.

I went to a joint bachelor/bachelorette party where the bride was 19 and the groom was about 24. It was a pubcrawl that included going to the strippers. The bride spent the entire time in the bathroom crying to her friends because she felt the groom was ignoring her too much for the strippers. At that point, I personally felt like the whole thing seemed doomed. And I was right, they divorced after 4 months. Obviously this isn''t the case for all but the stats about marrying young are what they are...

 

[lliang_chi]

Smurfy, you know if there''s any *other* (read: shotgun) reasons for the rushed wedding? Not making any opinions on that being a reason to wed, but it happens.

Sometimes I feel bad about being such a pessimist when it comes to marriages like this, but if you look at the institution of marriage now, it''s pretty clear why we all think like we do. It''s too bad.

 

[catty77]

Ha, it all reminds me of that MTV show "Engaged and Underage" - did you ever watch it? You know that at least90% of those marriages will end in divorce, it''s inevitable!

 

[catty77]

btw, my brother''s wedding is this weekend. and i''m taking it pretty hard - because they totally lapped me too and it''s hard not to be jealous! granted, i wouldn''t want to take the road they took to marriage (i.e. dated a few months, got pregnant, then promptly got engaged, bought a condo, had a beautiful baby, now they''re getting married this week). but i still feel like i''ve been swallowing a lot of bitter pills this past year. ha.

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

Smurfy - I agree with the other ladies in that there is not too much to envy in this case, although I can definitely understand your feelings. A gf of mine as recently as late Jan was complaining about her BF and didn''t seem happy - there were definitely some of what I would consider bigger problems there. She is 29 and he is 23/24. Anyway, I gave her advice on the situation since she asked me for it, but I guess it was one of those situations where people ask you for your opinion but aren''t really happy unless you say what they want to hear. Anyway, we haven''t spoken since that day and come to find out through the grapevine that they got engaged in March. They may have been dating a year but I think it was even less than that. It is easy for me to think BF & I have been dating over 2 years and are a little older than she is and that why isn''t it me, but then I think about it logically and remember all the issues that she had with the relationship and that this is probably a band-aid and it may not work out, so it helps to calm the lapped feeling.