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grooms family walking down aisle! Your thoughts?

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galvana

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I need your to hear your thoughts, actually FI and I do.

So here''s the scenario. This isn''t an "issue" at all and we are ok with things either/any way but are looking for some insight.

My fiancee has:

1. A mom and his stepfather
2. Step Mother sans his dad (deceased)
3. Step Grandmother whom he''s known for 20yrs and is close too

So the question is, do we have them walk(ed) down this aisle as part of the ceremony and how/in what order or do we just have them seated ahead of time etc...

Any insight is always appreciated ladies, thanks as usual.
 

AmberGretchen

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I think its totally up to you guys. I know in a Jewish wedding, the brides'' and grooms'' parents walk them down the aisle, all together (i.e. groom with his mom and dad, then bride with her mom and dad). In your case, I''d do it as groupings, to make sure no one feels left out - so, I''d do (3) and (2) together, then do (1), and have your FI walk down by himself, so his step-mom doesn''t feel neglected or slighted.
 

galvana

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Who Typically walks down the aisle?
Do the grooms parents? or JUST the bride''s?
 

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For my wedding, we had two ushers. When the seating song started playing (we had simple gifts as the song - it was also in the program so sortof a cue for everyone to sit down and stop talking), the first usher escorted out my grandma, second usher took my grandma and grandpa. Then the first usher came back and escorted my DH's grandparents. Then my DH escorted my mom to her seat, and then he turned around and escorted his Mom to her seat (his Dad and step mom followed them).

Then the processional song started playing and the bridal party entered.

As far as I know, this is the traditional way to do it, though there are plenty of variations that people do (like how we mixed it up a little by having DH escort the parents rather than the ushers).
 

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The parents are usually escorted down the aisle by the ushers, but they''re not part of the official processional.
 

galvana

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Im still confused................lol
So you say the parents get escourted down the aisle by the ushers? ....
My situation is a bit different.
I am having one family member walk me down the aisle and that is it.
Do you think Groom''s side will be offended if they are all just sitting already? or should they be walked down?
 

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Are you having groomsmen or ushers? If so, just have them walk the groom''s grand mother, stepmom, and mom down the aisle to their seats. Dad should follow mom and usher by himself. An usher should walk your mother down the aisle by herself AFTER the groom''s family. This happens after the guests sit, but before the BMs walk.

Your dad then walks you down the aisle in all your glory
 

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If you don''t have a mom or whomever to sit before you walk don''t worry about it. Just have FI''s family sit right before the BMs walk (but again, they''re not part of the processional).
 

galvana

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Thanks Hudson Hawk
I think i have it now
SO
usher walks FI''s grandmother down
usher walks FI''s stepmother down
usher walks FI mother down - and FI''s dad follows behind them

is that right now? lol
 

Hudson_Hawk

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Correct. And remember, if you''re doing corsages for Mom/GM, Stepmom gets one too.
 

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Date: 3/10/2009 2:49:02 PM
Author: iloveprincesscuts
Thanks Hudson Hawk
I think i have it now
SO
usher walks FI''s grandmother down
usher walks FI''s stepmother down
usher walks FI mother down - and FI''s dad follows behind them

is that right now? lol
That is correct. Groom''s side first (think he stands up there FIRST) and ladies first (as they process)... I like to think of it this way... everyone as they line up, builds the anticipation for the processing of the bride. (and I believe it alternates sides, groom then bride, down the generations too.)
The que for the official processional is the seating of the mother of the bride.
 

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I think groom''s family walks down the aisle, but before the bridal processional.
 

galvana

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Date: 3/10/2009 2:49:44 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
Correct. And remember, if you''re doing corsages for Mom/GM, Stepmom gets one too.
Thank you EVERYONE! and yes Hudson, i told the florist about the corsages for Mom, GM, & stepmom!
ughhhh - this wedding is NOT easy planning! lol

please tell me others feel this way?!
 
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