Wedding grooms cake question

[LauraBabe08]

FI and I talk about the idea of a grooms cake from time to time, and he keeps saying that if he had one he wants it to be a cookie cake. (basically a big giant chocolate chip cookie, maybe with sometimes drawn or written in icing). I always say no b/c its stupid and gross and something that people buy at the grocery store for their kids b-day party.

I started thinking though, that maybe I should surprise him with one, and ask the pastry chef to make it.

I was just wondering where the grooms cake goes, and if there is an official "cutting", and who eats it? Do we do the tradition cake cut with our real wedding cake, then again with the grooms cake? I guess I don''t really get what goes on with it all.

Thanks girls!

 

[ponderer]

Grooms cakes are traditionally place next to or near the brides cake. The brides cake is cut first and then the grooms. You can feed each other the grooms cake or not, I have seen it done both ways. If there are two cakes guests are usually served both.

If you are in an area where grooms cakes are not traditionally done, don''t feel pressure to have one. If you are unfamilar with what to do with one, then your guests may be too.

 

[redfaerythinker]

I''ve never seen a groom''s cake officially cut. Mostly they''ve just been there. Kind of as an alternative dessert option. However sometimes it is used as a dessert at the rehearsal dinner.

There are also no hard and fast rules on groom''s cakes. They''re usually chocolate, but I just went to a wedding where it was a fireman''s hat. It''s up to you and your future hubby!

 

[marchswallowbird]

There''s an article on this in the current issue of The Knot. There are various ways to do this, you can cut the cake and plate it but not serve it and have everyone grab as they wish. You can serve a slice of it on a plate alongside the wedding cake, you can serve a plate to every other person at their table and they can share and taste, those are the ones I remember. The article said pretty much everything goes, groom''s cakes aren''t just done in the South anymore, it''s a way to celebrate the groom, who usually doesn''t get a whole lot of recognition at the wedding!

 

[FrekeChild]

Tee hee....my brother''s groom''s cake was a bunch of pecan pies. Everyone got a slice of cake, and if anyone wanted the pie they had to go grab a slice.

 

[bee*]

We don''t do a grooms cake over here but I love the idea of it! D would totally go for a big cookie as well-he''s addicted to it! I think that would be great to surprise him with one!

 

[doodle]

the tradition has really strange origins. originally, a woman was supposed to take a slice of it home with her and sleep with it under her pillow (ew, squishy!), and it would make her dream of the man she was to marry. crazy southerners!

since that element of the tradition isn''t really followed anymore, you can pretty much do it however you want. in our case, we had the groom''s cake next to the bride''s cake, cut and fed each other from both, then had both plated and people chose which one they wanted a piece of. we had a lot of diabetics at our wedding, so the groom''s cake was sugar-free so they could get a piece, too. also, my hubby is a huge fan of the band new order, so his cake was shaped like a new order record sitting on a record player. google "funny groom''s cakes" and see what pops up--believe me, a cookie cake won''t even be CLOSE to the strangest thing you get back! case in point...