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How would you react?
depends if she is hot looking..How about if another woman tried to flirt with you?
Little did the poor chap know that you meant 'rocks' in the Pricescope sense...I met my husband at work. He was in a different dept and floor. We had open plan (no offices) and walking past his desk to a meeting room I saw he had mineral specimens on his desk (he was a Mining Analyst). I stopped, picked them up and rattled off their names Galena, Copper Pryrites, Iron Ore, Bornite.... he laughed and said he was surprised I knew them. I said “I’m into rocks”. We later met up again at a work function and then started going out in a work group until he asked me out on “a date”. That was nearly 20 years ago now and he is finally doing his Geology degree (he has degrees in Finance and Business).
No, flirting is only for young single people.I was single and young when I entered the work force and yes I had male colleagues and even patients who flirted with me. I also had a colleague sexually harass me. I put him in his place and he never bothered me again. I know the difference between (sweet/innocent) flirting and sexual harassment. The former is OK (or was OK when I was single) and the latter is not. I will not tolerate the latter.
Now that I am an old married lady I wouldn't be OK with flirting because I look at it as a sot of betrayal to my dh. I think there was a thread about this and PSers were divided. I would not be OK with my dh flirting with any women colleagues or friends. So conversely I would not do that to him.
What do you girls/guys think? Is "harmless" flirting OK if one is married?
No, flirting is only for young single people.
Partnered people should stick to being professional in the workplace.
Older people (40+) who are single shouldn’t flirt though, too much risk of looking either sleazy or desperate
it was an older man (im talking like 70) that hurt my feelingsHaha yes I agree about flirting being for single people. However I respectfully disagree about the age. I think it is A OK to flirt at any age if both parties are single and willing. I know in my head I feel about 25 so why wouldn't I want to flirt if I was single and interested in a handsome somebody? Just saying. Of course I have zero interest now and the thought of dating makes me want to but just saying I don't see any problems with middle age or older individuals flirting and enjoying themselves if they are both single and willing participants.
it was an older man (im talking like 70) that hurt my feelings
he seemed like that with everyone (flirty) so no harm (not a dirty old man either) but he just completly changed when his wife came in
my mouth dropped to the floor and my eyes stung
my OH is 19 years older than me at 67Aww I am sorry Daisy. I think that means he felt he was behaving inappropriately if he changed his behavior when his wife was around. That to me is the definition of inappropriate. If you behave differently in front of your spouse that behavior when she/he is not around is probably not OK.
It's funny/funny sad that 70 years old doesn't seem old to me anymore. My dh is almost 61 and he is (IMO) young so 70 doesn't seem that far away...
True.Haha yes I agree about flirting being for single people. However I respectfully disagree about the age. I think it is A OK to flirt at any age if both parties are single and willing. I know in my head I feel about 25 so why wouldn't I want to flirt if I was single and interested in a handsome somebody? Just saying. Of course I have zero interest now and the thought of dating makes me want to but just saying I don't see any problems with middle age or older individuals flirting and enjoying themselves if they are both single and willing participants.
True.
I was really meaning when you’re 40+ you don’t have to “flirt” you can be “straight to the point”
Yes me too. I’d be shocked. I’d ignore it completely. If he became obvious or uncomfortable I’d just call him out on it.When I was young I'd flirt right back. If anyone flirted with me today I'd be shocked.
Sadly, I think a lot of men are terrified of flirting these days in case it gets misconstrued.
Everything is so serious now, one wrong step and 'uh-oh'. I miss the light hearted nature of flirting. It's become a lost art really.
I hope the men who used to think grabbing and groping and naked sexism was lighthearted fun when I was in my early 20s now see it differently.Sadly, I think a lot of men are terrified of flirting these days in case it gets misconstrued.
Everything is so serious now, one wrong step and 'uh-oh'. I miss the light hearted nature of flirting. It's become a lost art really.