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Hi,
That's funny that your definition of a set back is from the property line. Here in my neck of the woods it from the house structure. I have a eight foot setback from my house to where a fence would be allowed.
I really mean no disrespect, but I think you are making a big deal over the neighbors reaction. She is elderly, hopefully likes living there and will adjust to the new conditions. I don't think its your job to tell her how to proceed unless it comes up in a personal conversation later on. I think the giving of a jade plant because she is Asian is (I'm throwing up my hands here) Is what?? If she wanted jade plants I'm sure she has them.
I wish you luck with your new house. I'm beginning to be sorry for the neighbor.
Annette
Not sure where your ‘neck of the woods’ is, but that seems odd to me ... that you wouldn’t be able to attach a fence to your home, and that it’d have to be ‘free standing’ and 8’ away from your home. I’m not really making a big deal about the neighbor’s reaction, aside from actually caring about how this impacts her, and we’re certainly not planning to tell her what to do/how to proceed. I’m primarily trying to get suggestions for what (if anything) might be a kind gesture once we do close on & own the home when we are able to properly introduce ourselves, in light of this whole fence issue. The rest is just background for the situation and answering people’s questions.
You’re not alone in being ‘sorry’ for the neighbor; we are as well. If we didn’t give a crap, we wouldn’t have put as much time, research and thought into what options we might have to help her (if we offer & she chooses to accept it), and how best to approach the situation as delicately as possible once we are ‘in’.