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Hi LIW. I have read posts on this forum for a long time but feel as though I need to vent my own frustrations now.
My SO and I have been dating for over 7 years now and have been talking about marriage a lot recently. I know that this summer we are going to buy a home but he has a "timeline" that I finally got him to spill today. Buy a home summer 09, get engaged early 2010, get married in 2011.
This is so frustrating because he thinks that a guy has to propose with a big engagement ring. It''s not like I''m trading my life for a stone, it''s the commitment behind it that counts and that part can come later during the engagement. I feel like 2011 is so far away and that it would mean us dating about 10 years by the time we get married.
I know this is his commitment to me too and that it has to feel right for both of us but it feels though when we talk about it I get over emotional and he gets upset at me being upset. I just want to get my life with him started.
My SO and I have been dating for over 7 years now and have been talking about marriage a lot recently. I know that this summer we are going to buy a home but he has a "timeline" that I finally got him to spill today. Buy a home summer 09, get engaged early 2010, get married in 2011.
This is so frustrating because he thinks that a guy has to propose with a big engagement ring. It''s not like I''m trading my life for a stone, it''s the commitment behind it that counts and that part can come later during the engagement. I feel like 2011 is so far away and that it would mean us dating about 10 years by the time we get married.
I know this is his commitment to me too and that it has to feel right for both of us but it feels though when we talk about it I get over emotional and he gets upset at me being upset. I just want to get my life with him started.