MBKRH
Brilliant_Rock
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- Dec 23, 2010
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I'm sorry if this has been brought up before. But............ for you LIWs, how many of you want kids?
Personally, I don't. I've known since I was about 12 that kids weren't for me. I cannot stand their high-pitched shrieking, screaming, etc............
Also, I have no maternal instincts. When I hold babies, it doesn't feel natural. I'm all too eager to pass the kid back off to their parents.
I've never changed a diaper, and I've never had the desire to learn how. When I attempt to communicate with a child, it feels forced and uncomfortable.
So, here I am, 18 years later. I still feel the same. Obviously I have a non-existent biological clock (or a broken one).
My laundry list of reasons for not having kids spans to 20 items. No joke.
I'm honestly 99.99% sure that I do not want them. The remaining .01% lies within the fact that M would be a great dad. And deep down, I think he'd like some kids. But, he's much like me in the sense, that yes, we're selfish. We enjoy OUR time. Getting up when we want. Sleeping in. Being able to do/see whatever, whenever (money permitting). We own nice things. We live paycheck to paycheck and can barely sustain, let alone trying to provide for a child. Not having to deal with vomit, poopie diapers, play groups with parents we'd rather not know, etc.........
I'd like to say that I enjoy children, but............ I don't. They are repulsive to me. I just can't bring myself to WANT to spend time with my friends' kids.... is that terrible?
Coworkers were showing off picture of their childrens' halloween costumes. And I didn't get up from my desk to look. I had no desire.
I think something is wrong with me. I mean, every woman SHOULD have the desire to comfort/mother a child, whether it be her own or not. But not me. I quickly turn the other way.
So obviously, my reason behind marriage is not for procreation, but commitment. I just want to know that I will be loved, respected, and admired, with no underlying desire for children to force my SO into a married relationship. There's no clock ticking. Just a finger that's looking more dry, aged, and depressed, day in and day out.
Just seein' where you ladies stand on this.....
Personally, I don't. I've known since I was about 12 that kids weren't for me. I cannot stand their high-pitched shrieking, screaming, etc............
Also, I have no maternal instincts. When I hold babies, it doesn't feel natural. I'm all too eager to pass the kid back off to their parents.
I've never changed a diaper, and I've never had the desire to learn how. When I attempt to communicate with a child, it feels forced and uncomfortable.
So, here I am, 18 years later. I still feel the same. Obviously I have a non-existent biological clock (or a broken one).
My laundry list of reasons for not having kids spans to 20 items. No joke.
I'm honestly 99.99% sure that I do not want them. The remaining .01% lies within the fact that M would be a great dad. And deep down, I think he'd like some kids. But, he's much like me in the sense, that yes, we're selfish. We enjoy OUR time. Getting up when we want. Sleeping in. Being able to do/see whatever, whenever (money permitting). We own nice things. We live paycheck to paycheck and can barely sustain, let alone trying to provide for a child. Not having to deal with vomit, poopie diapers, play groups with parents we'd rather not know, etc.........
I'd like to say that I enjoy children, but............ I don't. They are repulsive to me. I just can't bring myself to WANT to spend time with my friends' kids.... is that terrible?
Coworkers were showing off picture of their childrens' halloween costumes. And I didn't get up from my desk to look. I had no desire.
I think something is wrong with me. I mean, every woman SHOULD have the desire to comfort/mother a child, whether it be her own or not. But not me. I quickly turn the other way.
So obviously, my reason behind marriage is not for procreation, but commitment. I just want to know that I will be loved, respected, and admired, with no underlying desire for children to force my SO into a married relationship. There's no clock ticking. Just a finger that's looking more dry, aged, and depressed, day in and day out.
Just seein' where you ladies stand on this.....