- Dec 4, 2006
Ladies please feel free to tell me if I am overreacting but I am soooo upset. We live with my parents because we got rid of our CC debt and are saving for a house. Part of saving for this house is saving approx 5000-6000 dollars for the FI''s entertainment center. (HD LCD TV, HD TIVO, Speakers and a stand for the TV) Personally I think this is insane. He says its because once we have a house money will be tight and we will stay in a lot and therefore he wants a good entertainment system to enjoy during all the staying in. Well I think spending the 5000-6000 on the entertainment system is the reason we won''t get out much because that money is endless nights out with friends and weekends away etc. He isnt giving an inch on it and won''t even compromise on brand or inches (wants a panasonic 62 inch or bigger) so I have given up. It will take us about 3 months to save for the tv which means 3 months longer of him bitching about being with my parents. I have tried to come to terms with all of this until recently. We spent 9100 on my ring before taxes (in December of 2006). To be fair in 2001 we purchased my first engagement ring with stocks from when he was a baby that he cashed out for 2500, sold it for 3000 after we got back together after a year long break so 3000 of that was NOT his "hard earned money". He has been telling me he WANTED to get my this ring because it was soo beautiful and he saw how happy it made me and it meant so much for him to ask me to marry him with something I would want forever and want to pass down through generations. WELL, anytime I, or anyone else, says that that is toooo much money for an entertainment center he says "well 10000 is a lot for a ring but Rachel got that and gets to wear it everyday". Then today we were talking about saving money and he says "well you have to 10000 ring and I want my 5000 dollar entertainment center, you got wht you want now I get what I want. HOW can he compare a TV which will be dated in a few years and not worth anything as he wil want tot replace it with whatever is newer and cooler to the ring he PROPOSED MARRIAGE with? This is a ring I will wear for the rest of my life, no upgrading nothing because it MEANS SO MUCH to a effing TV, I am so damn hurt. I CANT BELIEVE he threw the price of it in my face. I don''t even want to freaking wear it anymore the whole thing is tainted. I told him time and time and time again only to spend 6000 total with the 3000 from the other ring and he said no no no, that he WANTED me to have that ring and not to let anyone make me feel bad (his mother threw it in my face and he knew how much that hurt). I can''t even look at him or the ring.... what should I do?