Smurfy, I just want to say I think you''re doing a great thing. I''ve been a reader at a wedding and I''m about to be a BM, and I gotta say...being a reader is MUCH better. Here''s how I spin it:
1) All eyes are on you for about a total of 60 seconds, maybe 130 if you count walking up to the microphone
2) You get to wear whatever you want, thus ensuring that you feel good about yourself, because you picked it out, right down to the color
3) You feel special, like a part of the wedding, but you don''t feel responsible for anything but 30 seconds of the wedding
4) You do not have to stand in a million and thirty photos (I think I was in 5 photos at my friend''s wedding - that was perfect)
5) You do not have to do anything associated with walking awkwardly with a guy you barely know
6) You still get to participate in the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner (ie, hang out with the cool kids)
7) You''re not on guestbook duty.
I''m not saying that it isn''t an honor to be a BM, because I am really excited about the upcoming wedding that I''m in - but I am saying that being a reader is pretty darned awesomely fun. I''m sure your SIL is excited to be a part of your big day, but also maybe a little relieved to not have the responsibilities/expense/other stresses of being a BM. Plus, you can include your readers in all of the BM stuff - my friend certainly did. She invited me and her other reader to the before-wedding pedicure, we got our hair done with the BMs the day of, she gave us a gift similar to the BMs - it was really, really fun. Sounds like you''re going to be a great SIL to your FSIL
