My current girlfriend is currently a LIW, and she is waiting on me. I'm in someone of a predicament and would love the option of some of the members of the forum.
My girlfriend has always made it known to me that there was a family ring that she wants, it was her late Grandmothers 25th wedding anniversary ring and her mother currently has it. Whenever we would visit her mother she would always go "visit" the ring, and told me that when the time came I was to go talk to her mother and to get the ring.
I recently took her mother out to dinner without my girlfriend knowing, asked about marrying her, everything went great her mother is very excited and couldn't be happier. The complication arose when I asked for the ring, My GF and I always assumed that this family heirloom would be passed down, but her mother would prefer to sell the ring to get the cash out of it, and I'm interested in the ring I would need to buy it at it's appraised value.
Despite the fact that buying a heirloom family ring is unconventional I would be willing to do it, if I could afford it. The ring is worth 3-4x the amount that I can afford, and even If I could afford it I would never spend that much money without including my girlfriend in the decision.
So my options
-Tell my girlfriend that I can't get her grandmothers ring and bring her ring shopping, this will turn into a discussion on why I don't have her grandmothers ring, and some drama between my girlfriend and her mother
-Buy another ring and propose. She will ask why I don't have her grandmothers ring and I will have to explain, hopefully she will be distracted by having a ring and being engaged that that the drama will be minimized. This will also require me having to tell my girlfriends mother that I no longer want/can't afford the family ring.
- Buy the ring from my mother in law, girlfriend gets the ring she wants, but I will have to explain why the house down payment is gone.
What's also frustrating is that my girlfriend has no interest in jewelry, I've never seen her wear any and we have never talked about rings because she always assumed she would be receiving her grandmothers ring. We just want to be engaged and focus on the next stage of our life, I never thought it would be this complicated
Anyone have any other ideas?
My girlfriend has always made it known to me that there was a family ring that she wants, it was her late Grandmothers 25th wedding anniversary ring and her mother currently has it. Whenever we would visit her mother she would always go "visit" the ring, and told me that when the time came I was to go talk to her mother and to get the ring.
I recently took her mother out to dinner without my girlfriend knowing, asked about marrying her, everything went great her mother is very excited and couldn't be happier. The complication arose when I asked for the ring, My GF and I always assumed that this family heirloom would be passed down, but her mother would prefer to sell the ring to get the cash out of it, and I'm interested in the ring I would need to buy it at it's appraised value.
Despite the fact that buying a heirloom family ring is unconventional I would be willing to do it, if I could afford it. The ring is worth 3-4x the amount that I can afford, and even If I could afford it I would never spend that much money without including my girlfriend in the decision.
So my options
-Tell my girlfriend that I can't get her grandmothers ring and bring her ring shopping, this will turn into a discussion on why I don't have her grandmothers ring, and some drama between my girlfriend and her mother
-Buy another ring and propose. She will ask why I don't have her grandmothers ring and I will have to explain, hopefully she will be distracted by having a ring and being engaged that that the drama will be minimized. This will also require me having to tell my girlfriends mother that I no longer want/can't afford the family ring.
- Buy the ring from my mother in law, girlfriend gets the ring she wants, but I will have to explain why the house down payment is gone.
What's also frustrating is that my girlfriend has no interest in jewelry, I've never seen her wear any and we have never talked about rings because she always assumed she would be receiving her grandmothers ring. We just want to be engaged and focus on the next stage of our life, I never thought it would be this complicated
Anyone have any other ideas?