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Hey all I don''t usually post the personal topics, but I guess need to do the vent. I have a friend, actually someone I consider my best friend, and we are just not getting along. I had a pretty bad year in 2008 and dealt with that basically by holing up, doing my job, going home to family etc. For being female I''m not a touchy feely person, and so while I may bring up things that are affecting me I don''t go into detail because for my friends rather talk about other things, don''t want to dump on them. We typically meet almost every Sat to have lunch, and probably 9 times out of 10 she is late (could be 5, 10, 20 minutes sometimes 30 minutes). I wait until I get too hungry and then I order. Sometime she stands me up entirely. I recently got a cell phone (she has one also) but that hasn''t entirely corrected the problem because she may not answer the phone. 2 weekends ago I tell her that my daughter is tagging along. Unfortunately she was late again, and by the time my friend arrived the only place to sit was cattycorner to us. However as I was done eating I turned my chair to talk to her. My daughter was off in her own world, just looking at the wall decorations, just enjoying being there but not particpating in our conversation, which I thought was fine. At one point my friend says "what is it, don''t you want to talk to us?" pause "That''s ok, other people might think that''s rude but we''re friends, I forgive you." ??? She''s six years old, she''s not necessarily going to want to sit in our conversation nor would I necessarily want her too. I can tell that lunch was left on a less than satisfactory note. Sure enough about 20 minutes later my friend calls me very angry saying that she never wants to have lunch with me and * (my daughter) again and that she is a rude little child and also bringing up the gift she gave me at Christmas" I told her I was in a store (she was talking quite loudly), and that I would call her back. I came home almost shaking, and didn''t call her back until about 3 hours later, because I didn''t know what to say to her. My friend somewhat apologized but not really, not taking back what she said on the phone earlier.
Anyways I call her this Saturday to do lunch, trying to mend fences, she doesn''t call me back until after our usual eating time and I am starving about to make a sandwich, but agree to meet her at 1:15 at the place (40 minutes from then) because that''s when she can go. She is late AGAIN. Instead of waiting for her after 20 minutes I leave and pick up food and eat it at home. She calls when I get home saying she has a reason for being late and she''ll just come over. She does come over and eat her food, but never explains why she is late. She hangs out and I try to be cool, but she still ends up saying some somewhat passive agressive statements that I just don''t know how to handle. All I can say is whatever our relationship, it doesn''t seem to be working. Maybe she is going through a down period or something, I just don''t like our interactions right now.
Anyways I call her this Saturday to do lunch, trying to mend fences, she doesn''t call me back until after our usual eating time and I am starving about to make a sandwich, but agree to meet her at 1:15 at the place (40 minutes from then) because that''s when she can go. She is late AGAIN. Instead of waiting for her after 20 minutes I leave and pick up food and eat it at home. She calls when I get home saying she has a reason for being late and she''ll just come over. She does come over and eat her food, but never explains why she is late. She hangs out and I try to be cool, but she still ends up saying some somewhat passive agressive statements that I just don''t know how to handle. All I can say is whatever our relationship, it doesn''t seem to be working. Maybe she is going through a down period or something, I just don''t like our interactions right now.
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