Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining

[ladypirate]

So as some of you may know, K had talked to his grandmother about using her engagement ring when we get engaged. Well, when we were down there for Christmas, he got it. Unfortunately, there had been a bit of a misunderstanding. He assumed that when she offered it to him, it was the one she wore (since she showed it to him when he talked to her about it). It turns out that the ring she now wears is an upgrade, and she was offering him her original engagement ring.

Kris got it as we were leaving. The ring is pretty, but not really my style. It's a white gold solitaire, which is fine, but the stone is only 1/3 of a carat. He was disappointed, and I was trying not to be disappointed because I felt horrible for not loving it and then we ended up pulled over on the side of the road because we were both a little bit upset. I hate the feeling of trying to be really excited about something that turns out to be not at all what you were expecting. I told him that I would wear it proudly if he wanted to use it, but I was a little disappointed, especially since K really does not believe in upgrades.

Anyhow, the long and short of it is that we decided that since the ring is not right for us, we are going to save up for a ring that we both really love and use the stone either as a side stone or else find a matching OEC and have earrings made. I'm happy because I'll be able to get a stone that I'll love, even if it means it will be a few extra months until I do get it.

On the plus side, we brought home two kitties, so we're happy about that! I will see if I can take some pictures of the ring that he did get, since even if it is not the one we're going to use, it's still pretty!

 

[Dreamgirl]

I can see where you are coming from with this situation. I would probably feel the same way. I think it is a great idea to use it for something else! What a wonderful way to still have the diamond but use it in a different sense. I don''t think his grandmother would mind anyway if she herself doesn''t even wear it anymore and got herself an upgrade! I''d love to see photos of the sparkly none the less!

 

[ladypirate]

His grandmother actually said that we were welcome to trade it in to get something bigger if we wanted to--she''s fine with it. I''d like to keep the stone somehow though for sentimental value.

 

[sunnyd]

Aw, that sucks. I totally understand what both of you are feeling. Whatever you choose, I''d love to see pics! (of the kitties too!)

 

[ladypirate]

Sunny, here are the pictures of the kitties:

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/say-hello-to-our-new-family-members.103061/

They are such lovers!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 12/29/2008 3:26:25 PM
Author: ladypirate
His grandmother actually said that we were welcome to trade it in to get something bigger if we wanted to--she''s fine with it. I''d like to keep the stone somehow though for sentimental value.

Oh that is good! I''d keep it too for sentimental value as well.

 

[mrscushion]

His grandmother sounds nice. That''s good that she won''t be peeved if you don''t use her e-ring. I''m glad you guys figured it out. How exciting is it that you''ll be getting the ring of your dreams! Yay!

 

[jmtomaui]

LP, I don''t know what your jewelry wardrobe consists of but another thought, to use the stone from his grandmother''s ring until you find a matching stone, you could use the one you have in a simple pendant. It would be another way to honor her generous gift and give you an heirloom you could wear on your wedding day and pass on to a daughter in the future for her to wear as a necklace on her wedding day if you opted to not make it into earrings or side stones.

What a wonderful gift she has given you as a new member of her family! It speaks to how highly she thinks of you.

Peace - Julie

 

[Blackpaw]

that is a shame LP

but like you said it just means more jewellery in the long term

now to more important matters....can we pretty please have pics of these two kitties you speak of!!

Oh and in hangout i posted a thread for pets at christmas - two new additions to your family surely deserves a few tinsel, xmas tree, mistletoe pics

 

[LtlFirecracker]

Well, it''s a shame that the original ring is not what you hoped, but I am glad that you and your BF are on the same page and have worked something out. I hope to see pics of this ring soon.

 

[coatimundi_org]

Kitties are sweet LP!

Glad you guys worked out your future ring. The oec sounds lovely--earrings or side stone--great idea!

 

[gwendolyn]

Sorry to hear that there was a misunderstanding, but you and Kris are handling the situation like I would, so I think you are making a good choice to get what you really want, even if it takes a little longer. And congrats on the kitties! Yay!!

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 12/29/2008 4:43:35 PM
Author: mscushion
His grandmother sounds nice. That''s good that she won''t be peeved if you don''t use her e-ring. I''m glad you guys figured it out. How exciting is it that you''ll be getting the ring of your dreams! Yay!

Yes, the grandma does sound nice. I guess that''s a hazard for PSers, to be honest when I first married (before I discovered PS) I guess I would have been happy with a .35, at least for a couple of years...
Now I would hold out for something ''grander'' heheheh
My poor man breaks out into a sweat every time he sees me on the computer these days!

I guess if you can bear the wait...you should! It''s the saving (and dreaming) that''s kinda the hard part isn''t it!

 

[Octavia]

Date: 1/6/2009 8:10:35 PM
Author: LaraOnline

Date: 12/29/2008 4:43:35 PM

Author: mscushion

His grandmother sounds nice. That''s good that she won''t be peeved if you don''t use her e-ring. I''m glad you guys figured it out. How exciting is it that you''ll be getting the ring of your dreams! Yay!

Yes, the grandma does sound nice. I guess that''s a hazard for PSers, to be honest when I first married (before I discovered PS) I guess I would have been happy with a .35, at least for a couple of years...

Now I would hold out for something ''grander'' heheheh

My poor man breaks out into a sweat every time he sees me on the computer these days!

I guess if you can bear the wait...you should! It''s the saving (and dreaming) that''s kinda the hard part isn''t it!

My stone is a .35 and I love it! I know that not everyone would be happy with that, but just because a diamond is small doesn''t mean it''s not beautiful

I''m glad that you and K came to a decision that''s right for you both, LP, but I''m also glad that you''re keeping the stone his grandma gave him! Sorry that it means a longer wait, though...

 

[LaraOnline]

Hey Octavia! I hope you didn't think I was dissing on your choice! I'm totally sure it's gorgeous!

I don't own anything near a .35! I think it's quite a common diamond weight over here, for an engagement ring. I just have a... well, I think it's a .10 I'm afraid, in a cluster setting. And yes, it was a budget buy and yes, it is gorgeous!!!

But I'm old, too, as old as the hills...37 in a couple of days. And no solitaire engagement ring on the horizon for years, as my man bought me a house instead. *sigh*

He's promised me one for my 10th anniversary. Not sure I'll be able to take my original ring off by that stage!
Sorry for threadjack, ladypirate!

 

[Octavia]

Lara, not at all! I tend to wear very delicate jewelry and I do like smaller diamonds, which I know is a more rare view on PS. But I'm glad that LP and K decided to keep the stone...unless they want to sell it to me

(I think a 1/3 ct OEC sounds absolutely divine). I only mentioned it because I think sometimes people don't even see the beauty in smaller stones because they can't get past the size (or lack of it) but I really like the idea of finding a matching stone for earrings or sidestones. Yum yum!

And LP...I want pics! Lots of pics!

 

[LaraOnline]

You know, at that size it would make a totally yum earring, perfectly sized... but matching the cut would be hard. Perhaps a pendant is the best way to go! I have a very delicate .2 (I think) solitaire pendant which I wear every single day, it is my absolute pride and joy...

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 1/6/2009 11:26:22 PM
Author: Octavia
Lara, not at all! I tend to wear very delicate jewelry and I do like smaller diamonds, which I know is a more rare view on PS. But I''m glad that LP and K decided to keep the stone...unless they want to sell it to me

(I think a 1/3 ct OEC sounds absolutely divine). I only mentioned it because I think sometimes people don''t even see the beauty in smaller stones because they can''t get past the size (or lack of it) but I really like the idea of finding a matching stone for earrings or sidestones. Yum yum!

And LP...I want pics! Lots of pics!

Octavia, I didn''t mean to disparage smaller stones at all!!! I think the stone is really lovely, actually. It just doesn''t look quite right on me. I''m super excited to have it made into a pendant and I promise I will post pictures once I get a break from work and get off my lazy behind to do it.

So, ladies, pendant ideas???

 

[LaraOnline]

Personally, I think it''s hard to go past a very simple martini basket or similar, it never dates and really lets the stone speak for itself.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 1/7/2009 7:20:27 PM
Author: LaraOnline
Personally, I think it''s hard to go past a very simple martini basket or similar, it never dates and really lets the stone speak for itself.

Yeah, I was thinking something simple. Maybe a miligrained bezel? *Drools*

 

[LaraOnline]

MMMmmm, with a diamond more or less just presented as it is, you just can''t go wrong, can you!!!

Also, presenting the diamond as a single piece will honour the memory of your fiance''s grandmother, which I think is nice, too.

 

[ladypirate]

Lara, that was my thought as well. Plus it''s something I can wear on my wedding day and pass down to my future kids for theirs.

I posted pictures in SMTR:

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/1-3-carat-oec.104072/

It really is a beautiful ring, and I think it will make a stunning pendant.

 

[ladypirate]

So there has been an interesting development in the story of this ring. First off, we have decided to keep the ring as-is rather than resetting the stone as a pendant. Secondly, after some discussion, K might be changing his no-upgrade policy. Apparently he thought that an upgrade meant that the original ring was exchanged or gotten rid of or something. Once he realized that we could keep the original ring and just get an additional ring for me to wear on my left hand with my wedding band on a regular basis, he said, "Oh, so what's the big deal with that?"

Men.

So an idea that we've been tossing around is to use this ring for my engagement ring for a while and then upgrade in a few years once we're more settled/have bought a house/etc. One of the really cool things about this is that it would mean that this ring would have been used as the original engagement ring for his great grandmother, his grandmother, and me. I think that's a pretty neat tradition to be a part of.

All in all, doesn't sound so bad to me! Plus, I think I could totally rock a more blingy band with it because it's so simple. Thoughts?

 

[FrekeChild]

OMG OMG OMG!!!!! DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!

And I can totally see an eternity band with it. Or two even!!!! Ooo....an oec eternity! YOWZA!!!

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 1/9/2009 4:43:29 PM
Author: FrekeChild
OMG OMG OMG!!!!! DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!

And I can totally see an eternity band with it. Or two even!!!! Ooo....an oec eternity! YOWZA!!!

SERIOUSLY. There are a couple of eternity bands on the Single Stone website that I am DROOLING over. I''m thinking either an OEC eternity or a OEC + French Cut eternity. *DROOL*

Also, since my dream cut (that would be in the works a few years down the line) is an asscher, I think that type of band would totally work with it since it would still have that vintage-y feel.

 

[Dreamgirl]

LP!!!!!! What a FLIPPING GREAT IDEA!!!!!!!!

I think that would be awesome. Original engagement for his great grandmother, his grandmother......then you?!? I LOVE IT. I say do it too!!!!!!!!!!!! It sounds like it was meant to be, if you ask me!

And since guys are goofy (and don't always listen/pretend to listen then agree to things they don't know they are agreeing to), make sure he totally understand that you will want to upgrade in a few years....

ha..have him sign a contract.......

I've told S several times that I should have him sign something that says 'what he just said' so we have it in writing..haven't done that yet though. hehe

OOOOOOOO how exciting!

 

[LaraOnline]

Why don't you make a date with him for your fifth wedding anniversary (ring of your dreams).
Don't let him flunk out on his promise!
I hope my comments haven't influenced you to go with the family stone... except in a good way, I guess.

You should have what you what, economics and other financial concerns permitting.
The eternity ring for a wedding band is a cool idea... you might want to get a resizing bar placed in it though, possibly.

I like both ideas (engagement ring, wearing as pendant to the wedding).

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 1/9/2009 9:15:52 PM
Author: LaraOnline
Why don''t you make a date with him for your fifth wedding anniversary (ring of your dreams).

Don''t let him flunk out on his promise!

I hope my comments haven''t influenced you to go with the family stone... except in a good way, I guess.


You should have what you what, economics and other financial concerns permitting.

The eternity ring for a wedding band is a cool idea... you might want to get a resizing bar placed in it though, possibly.


I like both ideas (engagement ring, wearing as pendant to the wedding).

I actually brought it up tonight for 5th wedding anniversary and he was fine with it--I think he was actually expecting me to want it before then. I am actually thrilled that we''re doing it this way because I get the best of both worlds--engaged when we''d like to be and ring of my dreams a few years down the line.

I''ll look into getting a sizing bar placed or doing a half eternity--I think if we go that route we''ll be talking to Ari at Single Stone and I know he does custom work.

Thanks for your input, Lara!

Dreamgirl, I know!!!!! I''m super excited about it. I think that once he realized you could keep the original ring and still wear it (maybe stacked with a couple of antique bands on my right hand...

), he was fine with it.

He''s so excited that he''ll get to propose when he wanted to--he was really upset that he couldn''t do it this summer. Awww...

 

[LaraOnline]

Wow, I''m super excited for you as well!
Really looking forward to eyeing off the eternity/semi-eternities!!!!

 

[Steel]

That is a shame. Though I like the idea of keeping the stone as a side stone

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