moderatelypoorstudent
Shiny_Rock
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- Feb 15, 2008
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You know I think I know why I joined this board: lately I haven''t been as able to talk about the whole engagement/marriage thing with my SO.
Now I KNOW that''s just going to set off a lot of red flags so here''s what I mean:
Ever since we started dating, I would say only a few months in, my SO would bring up getting married, all by himself. How much he wanted to marry me, how he was so sure I was the one etc. And I mostly just told him, oh it''s too early, aren''t you cute? Etc. When we reached like the 2 year mark though, I was like... well you keep bringing it up... and now I''m more comfortable with it happening. So can we either get this done with or stop talking about it?
Aren''t I awful? Anyway, he was very patient with me and so we set a date that made sense for us giving I''m in grad school and he''s a resident. But he''d still mention, oh won''t it be so great when we get married on (set date). I''m so excited... cute stuff. Fine, great! But now, that the engagement is coming up in less than 7 months: he doesn''t want to talk about it.
So of COURSE, I asked: well... do you want to postpone/cancel? I''m comfortable with that... even as it stands, I won''t be graduated when we get married and I''m fine waiting till I at least graduate. And his answer is always: No, I like our date, I want to get married then.
Is it normal that the guy stops talking about rings/engagement/wedding ish stuff before he proposes? I guess I should give him credit, that he''ll still daydream with me once in a while about where we''ll work after we''re married, lifestyle, kids, finances. ...
Anyway, feel free to post your own personal pet peeve!
Now I KNOW that''s just going to set off a lot of red flags so here''s what I mean:
Ever since we started dating, I would say only a few months in, my SO would bring up getting married, all by himself. How much he wanted to marry me, how he was so sure I was the one etc. And I mostly just told him, oh it''s too early, aren''t you cute? Etc. When we reached like the 2 year mark though, I was like... well you keep bringing it up... and now I''m more comfortable with it happening. So can we either get this done with or stop talking about it?
Aren''t I awful? Anyway, he was very patient with me and so we set a date that made sense for us giving I''m in grad school and he''s a resident. But he''d still mention, oh won''t it be so great when we get married on (set date). I''m so excited... cute stuff. Fine, great! But now, that the engagement is coming up in less than 7 months: he doesn''t want to talk about it.
So of COURSE, I asked: well... do you want to postpone/cancel? I''m comfortable with that... even as it stands, I won''t be graduated when we get married and I''m fine waiting till I at least graduate. And his answer is always: No, I like our date, I want to get married then.
Is it normal that the guy stops talking about rings/engagement/wedding ish stuff before he proposes? I guess I should give him credit, that he''ll still daydream with me once in a while about where we''ll work after we''re married, lifestyle, kids, finances. ...
Anyway, feel free to post your own personal pet peeve!