Ever felt shy abt letting others know the specs of your stone?

[gladyskristen]

I''m not sure whether any of you have experienced this before, but in my country, jewelers "educate" customers that VVS2 - IF clarity is the way to go, and anything below VS1 is disgustingly included and visible from a thousand miles away, esp those in the SI range. Furthermore, many here are under the impression that SI stones are worthless.

Now all of us on PS know that this is so far from the truth, but cos of this, I''m starting to feel clarity-shy abt my super eye-clean SI2 stone. Although I love it to death, I feel reluctant to tell others tt it''s an SI2, for fear that they will look down on my stone or call my FI a cheapskate. Any thoughts?

 

[asscherisme]

So don''t tell them! You are under NO obligation to share any info with anyone regarding your stone that you don''t want to. If someone is rude enough to ask, simply tell them that you are not the one who purchased the stone and that you love your stone and nothing more.

 

[pricescope]

Play a dumb barbie with a pretty ring gladys, hope your new ring will be pretty, you deserve it!

 

[kcoursolle]

Meh, I guess I don''t really care that much what jewelers think of my rings. I know that they are gorgeous stones and many have said so...a few have said mean things about the I color of my wedding band stones and I don''t really care. My rings get compliments all the time in the real world and hardly anyone ever asks me the color or the clarity LOL.

The one thing I worry about is being a little too blingy for my modest relatives, I think when I upgrade I probably won''t wear it in front of them.

 

[btrflygrl23]

I agree with everyone else don''t tell them it really isn''t anybody''s business. You love your stone it will be great in your new ring, you''ll love your new ring, it will look fabulous on your hand that''s all you need, take the compliments that will surely come your way say thank you and be done with it.

Can''t wait for pics!

 

[TaraLeigh]

Tell them to GUESS

I bet they will guess a much higher clarity and that will make you feel great!

 

[Mara]

Date: 6/14/2007 5:42:35 PM
Author: TaraLeigh
Tell them to GUESS

I bet they will guess a much higher clarity and that will make you feel great!

Haha this is SOO True!!!

the owner of the nail salon i go to always coos over my ring and asks me what it is. every time...she forgets every time. i only see her like once every few months, so she just doesn''t remember me. the first few times she asked, i told her what it was, a J SI. she was like oh it looks so white...surprised acting. well the last few times i have started to play with her a bit...

..i said what do you think it is and she goes D. i said nope, she goes E? so i said G! and she says ''oh it looks so white!''. i have done this the same time the last few times, saying G then E then J etc. she totally can''t tell what she is looking at. she is very sweet to compliment me but i just think it''s so funny she doesn''t remember she has asked me like 5 times.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 6/14/2007 5:45:54 PM
Author: Mara

Date: 6/14/2007 5:42:35 PM
Author: TaraLeigh
Tell them to GUESS

I bet they will guess a much higher clarity and that will make you feel great!

Haha this is SOO True!!!

the owner of the nail salon i go to always coos over my ring and asks me what it is. every time...she forgets every time. i only see her like once every few months, so she just doesn't remember me. the first few times she asked, i told her what it was, a J SI. she was like oh it looks so white...surprised acting. well the last few times i have started to play with her a bit...

..i said what do you think it is and she goes D. i said nope, she goes E? so i said G! and she says 'oh it looks so white!'. i have done this the same time the last few times, saying G then E then J etc. she totally can't tell what she is looking at. she is very sweet to compliment me but i just think it's so funny she doesn't remember she has asked me like 5 times.

MARA YOU ARE TOOO FUNNY!

I love that

Your ring is gorgeous Glady and don't forget that

 

[pricescope]

Date: 6/14/2007 6:32:12 PM
Author: Skippy123

Your ring is gorgeous Glady and don''t forget that

Well not right now, but we all keep our fingers crossed for gladys!

 

[widget]

...I love it...LET ''EM GUESS! lol...

It may be different in your country, but I''ve NEVER been asked color/clarity questions about my stone...carat weight? occasionally.

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PS: Obviously I don''t go to Mara''s manicurist!!

 

[WorkingHardforSmallRewards]

I am scared of this one myself right now I have a bad feeling that in my ff land of the rising sun VS2 is looked down upon. But at the same time if I can get an E that is TOTALLY eye clean, then there is no chance im dropping to an F or paying more money just to get the title of VS1. I''ll be thinking about how she should deal with this and let you know if i get any wonderful ideas!

My thoughts for now though is that you should just say, "oh I have the official report at home, but I am not too worried about the details of the diamond, it is about how much he loves me. I do know the cut is excellent though, We were talking about how much fire and sparkle it has and we talked about the cut for a long time. It is really incredible" then raise it up and let them inspect it (showing off its brilliance) and ask what their opinion is. That way you are not lying in shame of your ring, but you can still show it off proudly.

 

[snlee]

Another vote for letting people guess. They probably won't ever guess a SI2! Have fun with them. They won't ever know you telling a fib.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I agree with playing dumb. I think asking specs is a little over kill. I know people get curious on size but I would never ask anyone their color/clarity. Seems too nosey.

 

[Kaleigh]

I agree on playing dumb, letting them guess is fun.
But today I had my nails done. The guy was taking off my polish, looked at my ring and said wow!! How big is that?? Then said he was getting engaged and just bought a ring. I turned the conversation around and asked him where he bought the ring, how was he planning on proposing, yada yada yada. But he was so cute and so excited, made my nail time fly by, hehe!!!!

 

[MWG]

Mess with their heads....let them guess....then tell them want you want to tell them. You honestly cannot tell an "eye clean" stone from an IF stone.

MWG

 

[Lucky Kid]

Date: 6/14/2007 10:41:16 PM
Author: MWG
Mess with their heads....let them guess....then tell them want you want to tell them. You honestly cannot tell an ''eye clean'' stone from an IF stone.


MWG

I say tell them its a VVS1 or IF, if they are shallow enough to judge you on a diamond quality what does it matter if you lie to them...

Roy

 

[MWG]

Date: 6/14/2007 10:45:00 PM
Author: Lucky Kid

Date: 6/14/2007 10:41:16 PM
Author: MWG
Mess with their heads....let them guess....then tell them want you want to tell them. You honestly cannot tell an ''eye clean'' stone from an IF stone.


MWG

I say tell them its a VVS1 or IF, if they are shallow enough to judge you on a diamond quality what does it matter if you lie to them...

Roy

I totally agree.....*S* High 5!!! LOL

MWG

 

[suzi]

I''ve honestly never once had someone ask me for the color or the clarity of my diamond! Once a diamond is set and on a finger, I think it''s kind of hard to tell, anyway. I''ve had lots of people compliment my ring, and say how sparkly and big my diamond looks (and it''s not really all that big...1.20 carat marquise) but not one question about specs. Well, I take that back...a few people have asked me what carat weight it is. I usually just turn it around and ask them how big do they think it is! Most of them actually guess that it''s larger than it really is (I''ve had guesses anywhere from 1.5 to 2.0 carats). I then say something along the lines of "not quite that big" and thank them for the compliment. I suspect if you do the same if someone asks the color or clarity of your diamond, they will probably either back off for fear of looking foolish if they guess wrong, or they will guess your clarity and color to be even better than it actually is. Then you can just say something like "good guess!" or "you''re pretty close" and leave it at that. Oh, and don''t forget to thank them for the compliment.

Don''t ever feel "clarity shy" about your diamond! I have seen some diamonds out there which are supposedly flawless and icey white that are deader than doornails because they have no sparkle at all. I think a lot of people notice size, but to me the main thing that makes a diamond pretty is the sparkle. And yours is absolutely a sparkler!

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I have never had anyone ask me the specs of my diamond (except for here

)....honestly, my ring is beautiful to me and I could care less what anyone else thinks.

 

[decodelighted]

Do your SAT scores still come up in conversation? GPA? Do people ask your bra size anymore? Or what age you lost yr. virginity?

THIS. WILL. PASS.

I love the "what do YOU think?" technique ... very clever ... if someone is going to have the gall to put YOU "on the spot", why not put THEM on the spot INSTEAD!!

 

[Siamese Kitty]

You know, people have asked me on more than one occasion if my D SI-1 pear is a VVS or IF. I always set them straight, but you all have inspired me to have a little more fun next time!

Gladys, please don''t let anyone make you feel bad about your stone!

 

[monarch64]

I have a J, SI1 stone, and I've never had anyone ask me the specs besides carat weight! But if someone did, I would first ask them why they wanted to know, then tell them I didn't know and have often wondered myself, lol! And to further mess with them, maybe I'd tell them my DH got it from a pawn shop or that it "fell off a truck."

 

[gladyskristen]

Haha, making them guess is a good one! I tried just tt at the jewelers (the new one) wif my loose stone and guess wot? She guessed tt it's a VS2 thru the loupe! She was probably making a safe guess so as not to risk offending me, but it felt great all the same.

 

[Lucky Kid]

Date: 6/15/2007 12:47:49 AM
Author: decodelighted
Do your SAT scores still come up in conversation? GPA? Do people ask your bra size anymore? Or what age you lost yr. virginity?


THIS. WILL. PASS.

14903.55AA-0and16
No it just becomes more discrete, "wow, what do you do for a living", "is that car new", "how many square feet is it?" "where did you go to college?"

People are shallow, superficial @holes...I'm one of them; even more so then a lot of others. Life is competitive and for some reason a lot of people get their jollies off of being better then other people. I strongly dislike that I am the same way, but its hard to change the way you are raised. The guessing method seems like a good middle of the road answer...

Roy

 

[Stone Hunter]

Date: 6/15/2007 3:19:13 AM
Author: Lucky Kid

Date: 6/15/2007 12:47:49 AM
Author: decodelighted
Do your SAT scores still come up in conversation? GPA? Do people ask your bra size anymore? Or what age you lost yr. virginity?


THIS. WILL. PASS.

14903.55AA-0and16
No it just becomes more discrete, ''wow, what do you do for a living'', ''is that car new'', ''how many square feet is it?'' ''where did you go to college?''

People are shallow, superficial @holes...I''m one of them; even more so then a lot of others. Life is competitive and for some reason a lot of people get their jollies off of being better then other people. I strongly dislike that I am the same way, but its hard to change the way you are raised. The guessing method seems like a good middle of the road answer...

Roy

That''s really what the problem is. I do think that you can change from the automatic response you were raised to have. BUT it is HARD. I think it''s worth doing though. But then it''s hard to relate to the family, even if you''re doing really well but chose NOT to be competitive.

Nobody (who I haven''t diamond shopped with) has asked me the color or clarity. One lady did ask if it was an old/antique stone. She thought it was a family stone. I told her the truth and she told me about one of her family stones. Sometimes people ask ''cause they love diamonds/jewelry.

So if they aren''t jewelry lovers I''d try to avoid answering the question.

 

[solange]

Most people really do not know what they have unless they have an accurate grading report. Otherwise they just believe what their trusted jeweler told them. It is a waste of time to try to educate people who know so little about diamonds and do not realize that inclusions that are only visible through a ten power loupe do not necessarily interfere with the beauty of the stone.

The only time I asked anyone these questions was , prior to finding Pricescope, I was looking for an eternity band. A friend highly recommended her jewelr in the diamond district. I asked her the specifications on her tennis bracelet and her reply was,"The finest. He wouldn''t sell me anything else."She had bought quite a lot of jewelry from him and had never asked any questions or had things appraised and she always referred to her many pieces of jewelry as "an investment."

Well, I went to this same jeweler and knew I wanted F & G stones. At that time I did not know about clarity so I got an estimate for VS 1 stones.

My friend was shocked to learn that the estimate for my eternity ring from her jeweler was far more than her tennis bracelet had cost. So much for "the finest."

I have a beautiful, large I SI 2 stone from Whiteflash. No one has ever asked me anything other than the size but if they did, I would certainly avoid the question because they know as little about diamonds as I did before I did a great deal of research on Pricescope

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 6/15/2007 3:19:13 AM
Author: Lucky Kid

Date: 6/15/2007 12:47:49 AM
Author: decodelighted
Do your SAT scores still come up in conversation? GPA? Do people ask your bra size anymore? Or what age you lost yr. virginity?
THIS. WILL. PASS.

No it just becomes more discrete, ''wow, what do you do for a living'', ''is that car new'', ''how many square feet is it?'' ''where did you go to college?''

Uh ... ummmmmm .... I *meant* that diamond quality questions stop when the ring isn''t new anymore -- when it''s not the shiny, fresh physical manifestation of life event you''re going through *currently*. Like, say, there''s a period when it seems like your SAT scores will dominate your entire life -- but the minute you get into college it''s like, what? SAT scores? *THAT* doesn''t matter anymore.

I *did not* mean that people would stop asking ALL comparative questions?? In fact, they''ll judge that ring forever -- IN THEIR HEADS, but will lose the boldness to ASK when their cover is blown ... it''s not "current events" anymore but "old news".

 

[belle]

heeeeeeeeck no! not one bit! i''m proud of the fact that my stone looks a gazillion times better than most of the crap out there. i use it as a learning tool.

 

[WorkingHardforSmallRewards]

On reading these I have changed my mind. I think the best way to go is to first ask them what they know about diamonds and diamond grading. Let them tell you, then if they know alot, tell them that it is a completely eye-clean SI2. Those people who are educated will understand and appreciate the great find you got and how it was able to improve your other numbers without detracting from the stones beauty.

But if they are obviously ignorant then blow them away with vocabulary. Tell them that it is completely eyeclean and appears to the naked eye as an AGS 0 clarity (which they won''t know much about) but, with a loupe they can of course find inclusions, though for the average layman it may take some time. Then discuss the cut and angles and how it affects fire, brilliance and scintillation, terms with which they will be unfamiliar with and then let them take a look. That way they will be too scared to continue asking questions and reveal their own ignorance.

 

[Lynn B]

Oh my -- no, a thousand times no! I am just so crazy PROUD of my diamond, nothing about it makes me feel "shy"!!! It''s an AGS-0, 2.36 RB, J/SI2 and it is GORGEOUS.

I''ve had lots of people ask me the size, but never once has ANYONE asked me the color or clarity. Although for people who are interested in becoming more educated about diamonds, I am quite happy to tell them it''s a J/SI2. Once I was in a (higher end) jewelry store and the sales person asked me if it was D/IF!
Most people (in my world, anyway) are totally clueless about any of the C''s beyond carat weight, and all they notice in my diamond is the size and the sparkle.