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I''ve been embarassed a lot I think...but one that is kind of silly sticks out in my head...
Once I was working at a golf club, but I worked inside so I had to kind of dress up and look decent. I was walking outside to give one of the outdoor staff a message, and I was wearing some wood soled shoes (which were really cute IMHO) and as I was walking up to a group of the guys, I stepped on a rock. And of course, because the shoes were wood, they instantly turned into a teeter-totter and I fell flat onto my back.
The guys came over and helped me up and were so nice about it, but it was mortifying. I even skinned my knee!
I''m embarrased just thinking about it now!
and it was at least 5 years ago!
Once I was working at a golf club, but I worked inside so I had to kind of dress up and look decent. I was walking outside to give one of the outdoor staff a message, and I was wearing some wood soled shoes (which were really cute IMHO) and as I was walking up to a group of the guys, I stepped on a rock. And of course, because the shoes were wood, they instantly turned into a teeter-totter and I fell flat onto my back.
The guys came over and helped me up and were so nice about it, but it was mortifying. I even skinned my knee!
I''m embarrased just thinking about it now!
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I am very uncomfortable around people I don''t know very well and I react in two different ways depending on the situations: I talk too much, I don''t talk. There have been many occasions when I''ve said too much, or something stupid to fill space and would up quite embarassed (but I''m also easily embarassed, which doesn''t help!).
I recently saw a cousin whom I hadn''t seen in about 5 years. She was suprised at how much weight I had lost (it was quite a bit) and I referred to myself as having been fat the last time she saw me. My favorite Aunt, the cousin''s mom, was sitting there when I said it and she now weighs exactly what I did when I was "fat" and she knows it. I felt terrible about it as I am not judgemental about other people''s weight, but I am about my own and it was big deal for me to lose it, but I should have really watched my choice of words.
I recently saw a cousin whom I hadn''t seen in about 5 years. She was suprised at how much weight I had lost (it was quite a bit) and I referred to myself as having been fat the last time she saw me. My favorite Aunt, the cousin''s mom, was sitting there when I said it and she now weighs exactly what I did when I was "fat" and she knows it. I felt terrible about it as I am not judgemental about other people''s weight, but I am about my own and it was big deal for me to lose it, but I should have really watched my choice of words.
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in fifth grade I farted during a quiet part of a school assembly and everyone within 50 feet looked right at me. Yeah I still remember that LOL
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Here''s another one... even worse!
It was the summer before 6th grade and I had started wearing a bra a few months before but I hated wearing it and I was staying with my dad and he didn''t enforce it.... so I''m going across the monkey bars at the park and the button up shirt I was wearing went pop pop pop pop all the way from top to bottom or bottom to top and the whole thing just FLEW wide open in front of a bunch of boys my age showing my little walnut boobies for all to see. Oh yeah I remember this one too.
It was the summer before 6th grade and I had started wearing a bra a few months before but I hated wearing it and I was staying with my dad and he didn''t enforce it.... so I''m going across the monkey bars at the park and the button up shirt I was wearing went pop pop pop pop all the way from top to bottom or bottom to top and the whole thing just FLEW wide open in front of a bunch of boys my age showing my little walnut boobies for all to see. Oh yeah I remember this one too.
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Freshman year of high school, I''m taking typing 5th period after lunch and sit next to the *senior* quarterback to the football team... and I proceed to develop a major crush on the guy. Well one day I oogled him at lunch and went to class and everyone was typing. ASDF FDSA etc. Anyway... I''m typing a NOTE to my friend... "oh steve is soooooo cute and I can''t believe he sits next to me in typing and I wish I could kiss him" blah blah blah so... my teacher mr gay parre (yes pronounced gay paris with accent) pulls it out of my typewriter and READS IT TO THE CLASS. Yeah, I remember that one clearly too. Never got over a crush so much in my life. Oh the sweet pity smile a senior who thinks you''re a baby can give. how "cute" it is that she likes me. ::covers head once again::
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Once in high school I was walking down the ramp that leads into our school (our school was built strangely- would flood every rain) and the strap on my sundress snapped off flashing one of my boobs to the whole school- that MAY have been the same day I slipped down that damn ramp- I think I blocked it out.
Another time I was moving quickly down the bleachers at a football game- trying to get to a friend- well, I fell down the whole thing of seats, landing with my ass on the foot part and my legs in the air.
Another time I was moving quickly down the bleachers at a football game- trying to get to a friend- well, I fell down the whole thing of seats, landing with my ass on the foot part and my legs in the air.
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When I was 14 my parents decided to give me golf lessons with their friends'' son who was this star golfer from our area and gave lessons on the side, and he also happened to be very attractive and in college. The day I went for my first lesson I was nervous, and I spent way too much time getting ready and didn''t eat any breakfast, which was a bad idea considering it was 90 degrees and humid as could be. After learning about the proper grip and right in the middle of doing the "grandfather clock" move, I passed out cold and woke up seconds later to find my instructor standing over me asking if I was alright. I was SO embarrassed, I thought it was the biggest deal in the world, LOL. That was my first and last golf lesson ever. I could not stand to go back and face him again!
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OK, Amber brought back one I'd forgotten.
Jr. High, we're all in the gym before school starts, as in, everyone. I had on a skirt that snapped up the front.
One of my best friends decided it would be really funny to do a run by and act like she was going to yank my skirt off, only, she really did. She got about 3 feet past me, stopped, I looked at her, holding my skirt, she looked first at the skirt in her hand and then at me standing there with undies, hose and no slip on, and busted up laughing. I then looked at the guy in the bleacher above me with a cheshire grin on his face, I refused to look at the hundreds of other faces around me. I start after her, she throws my skirt at me and takes off running, I'm running after her I hastily put the skirt around me inside out and backwards, and proceed to the bathroom to put myself together, as she of course is nowhere to be found.
I never wore it again.
Ah, those were the days...
Jr. High, we're all in the gym before school starts, as in, everyone. I had on a skirt that snapped up the front.
One of my best friends decided it would be really funny to do a run by and act like she was going to yank my skirt off, only, she really did. She got about 3 feet past me, stopped, I looked at her, holding my skirt, she looked first at the skirt in her hand and then at me standing there with undies, hose and no slip on, and busted up laughing. I then looked at the guy in the bleacher above me with a cheshire grin on his face, I refused to look at the hundreds of other faces around me. I start after her, she throws my skirt at me and takes off running, I'm running after her I hastily put the skirt around me inside out and backwards, and proceed to the bathroom to put myself together, as she of course is nowhere to be found.
I never wore it again.
Ah, those were the days...
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that''s awesome Ellen!!! I''m cracking up......
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I''ll never forget when, in my freshman year, a friend of mine picked me up in the quad (piggy back) and then dumped me in a trash can in front of the senior locker hall. So my butt is down my head and legs are in the air and there is NO WAY i''m getting out of there without help. I was mortified but had to laugh. A huge wrestler guy, who had for some reason taking a liking to lil ol'' freshman me in photography class, pulled me out and sent me on my way.
About a month later my first "real" boyfriend broke up with me during photography class (I went to the bathroom to meet up with him). I was in a daze and I walked right into a poll in the same stupid quad and, you guessed it, the same guy who pulled me out of the trash can was out on a bathroom break too and witnessed the whole thing. Oh my goodness, I was MORTIFIED! He wanted to take me to the nurse and I wanted to go home and die.
About a month later my first "real" boyfriend broke up with me during photography class (I went to the bathroom to meet up with him). I was in a daze and I walked right into a poll in the same stupid quad and, you guessed it, the same guy who pulled me out of the trash can was out on a bathroom break too and witnessed the whole thing. Oh my goodness, I was MORTIFIED! He wanted to take me to the nurse and I wanted to go home and die.
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Oh you should have seen me. I was so upset and embarrassed and laughing hysterically at the same time because it was all I could do. I went to a private Catholic school, so of course i''m wearing a skirt and I was terrified that I was showing off the goods!!!Date: 2/23/2007 10:12:26 PM
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It IS really funny, NOW.
Kimberly, I lost it picturing you (because I can so perfectly) in the trash can. Poor thing. lmao
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Hmmm, most of my embarassing moments happened at work. One I remember clearly is finding a hole in my pants, a huge hole actually. I walked into work thinking man feels kind of breezy down there you know? So after walking around a while I decided to go in the bathroom to take a look. Oh my goodness I wanted to DIE when I saw the seam ripped right up the crack. I went from the parking garage, in to the elevator (Lots of folks), through the casino, all around my office, with a huge hole & good view of my undies. I wound up having to get a sewing kit from housekeeping & fixing my pants in a bathroom stall. Im also one of those people good for forgetting to zip up & that makes for some good laughs.
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I can completely identify with Kimberly.
Once I had to give a presentation in one of my college classes and people laughed so I started laughing and could not stop. It was horrible.
I felt like the crazy laughing hyena girl. I somehow managed to finish the speech!!!
Also, last weekend. I went to a party and I noticed this lady with a baby and I thought I must know them because the baby looks exactly like a man I know. In fact I got it in my mind the man I was thinking of must be the father. I asked, does your baby look like your husband? After I said it I realized what I said and how horrible it sounded. The father actually was someone I knew so it turned out not to be as bad, but still!
I actually have many embarrassing situations but I accept them because what can you do after they have happened?!?!? Not much.
What is yours JCrow?
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I did this in 7th grade doing a presentation on making SNICKERDOODLES. God only knows (looking back) why I chose SNICKERDOODLES but I couldn''t stop laughing... the teacher was timing because we had a min/max time we had to be within and after 8 minutes (quite literally) of solid laughing he stopped me and had me do it later. I laughed so hard tears... just tears...Date: 2/24/2007 2:27:50 PM
Author: Skippy123
I can completely identify with Kimberly.
Once I had to give a presentation in one of my college classes and people laughed so I started laughing and could not stop. It was horrible.
I felt like the crazy laughing hyena girl. I somehow managed to finish the speech!!!
Also, last weekend. I went to a party and I noticed this lady with a baby and I thought I must know them because the baby looks exactly like a man I know. In fact I got it in my mind the man I was thinking of must be the father. I asked, does your baby look like your husband? After I said it I realized what I said and how horrible it sounded. The father actually was someone I knew so it turned out not to be as bad, but still!
I actually have many embarrassing situations but I accept them because what can you do after they have happened?!?!? Not much.
What is yours JCrow?
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Date: 2/24/2007 3:18:08 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
I did this in 7th grade doing a presentation on making SNICKERDOODLES. God only knows (looking back) why I chose SNICKERDOODLES but I couldn't stop laughing... the teacher was timing because we had a min/max time we had to be within and after 8 minutes (quite literally) of solid laughing he stopped me and had me do it later. I laughed so hard tears... just tears...Date: 2/24/2007 2:27:50 PM
Author: Skippy123
I can completely identify with Kimberly.
Once I had to give a presentation in one of my college classes and people laughed so I started laughing and could not stop. It was horrible.
I felt like the crazy laughing hyena girl. I somehow managed to finish the speech!!!
Also, last weekend. I went to a party and I noticed this lady with a baby and I thought I must know them because the baby looks exactly like a man I know. In fact I got it in my mind the man I was thinking of must be the father. I asked, does your baby look like your husband? After I said it I realized what I said and how horrible it sounded. The father actually was someone I knew so it turned out not to be as bad, but still!
I actually have many embarrassing situations but I accept them because what can you do after they have happened?!?!? Not much.
What is yours JCrow?
That is funny! LOL!!!!!
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My most embaressing/mortifying moment still makes me upset. Whenever I think of it, I get red in the face and extremely angry. I don''t think I''ll ever get over it!
Three years ago, I was a 21 year old restaurant manager who really wanted to get out of the food industry, but hadn''t taken a single class in college or had much experience in any other field.
I decided to apply for teller positions at different banks in the area. I figured that since I have experience handling large sums of money and have been in the customer service field for years that I might have a decent shot...plus, I''ve seen 17 year olds working as tellers.
I was very naive when it came to job interviews, I know this NOW. Having only a few highschool jobs before I became a restaurant manager, I hadn''t ever had a "real" interview. But, I drew up a resume, turned it in, and got called by Southwest Bank of Texas for an interview. I was SO excited. I spent about an hour getting ready.
I arrived to the corporate headquarters and waited for my interview in the waiting room. I was wearing black dress pants with a collared shirt and a little black jacket. Everyone else was wearing suits. I thought that was weird, but figured that they were probably applying for positions higher on the ladder, and I felt that I looked fine. Looking back I still get mad because I DID look fine, darnit! Dressier than a teller, but didn''t wear a "suit".
Rhotunda ***** came out to greet me. (I even remember her name.) She called my name, I stood up, and she GLARED at me up and down with complete disgust. I''m not exxagerating. We shook hands and she instructed me to follow her.
We went into her office, and she proceeded to tell me everything that I did "wrong" in the 10 seconds she knew me. She said I was dressed inappropriately, which maybe I was but I was always taught to dress for the position you want, which I did. She went on and on and on about how I was dressed. Then She said I didn''t grip her hand hard enough when we shook, and that I didn''t look her in the eye.
Most people I tell this story to say, "Well she''s right!" But I swear to you, if you were in that room you would have RUN out. I almost did. She was SO mean about it. I mean, if I were in her position I would at least try to say it nicely. She wasn''t telling me these things to help me, she was telling me these things to let me know that she was wasting her time. I can swear by that. Her tone, her looks, the way she said it...I mean, I almost started crying. But what really bothered me about this whole thing, was that I wasn''t there for "interviewing with Rhotunda 101". I don''t know she thought she was. I think it would have been more professional to either not say anything, or at least wait until the END of the interview, after she had a chance to see my personality. By dropping it on my lap as soon as I walked into her office she had already stamped a huge "NO" on my application.
I fumbled on the handshake because a mili-second earlier she was staring at me like I was the devil''s spawn! I was merely reacting to her reaction.
It isn''t like I showed up there in jeans and a t-shirt. I made an honest effort to do my best, and I wanted to impress her with my personality. She didn''t let it happen. Some say I should have thanked her and walked out the door without having the interview, but I suffered through it. But by this time I was sad/morified and couldn''t form my ideas or opinons clearly. She was rude in that respect to. She had a standard set of questions to ask me, and she would skip over some and say she''d get back to them at the end, but then never did...an obvious sign that I lost the job as soon as she saw me.
I still have nightmares. It was hands down the worst interviewing experience of my life. I really wish I would have told her off!
Three years ago, I was a 21 year old restaurant manager who really wanted to get out of the food industry, but hadn''t taken a single class in college or had much experience in any other field.
I decided to apply for teller positions at different banks in the area. I figured that since I have experience handling large sums of money and have been in the customer service field for years that I might have a decent shot...plus, I''ve seen 17 year olds working as tellers.
I was very naive when it came to job interviews, I know this NOW. Having only a few highschool jobs before I became a restaurant manager, I hadn''t ever had a "real" interview. But, I drew up a resume, turned it in, and got called by Southwest Bank of Texas for an interview. I was SO excited. I spent about an hour getting ready.
I arrived to the corporate headquarters and waited for my interview in the waiting room. I was wearing black dress pants with a collared shirt and a little black jacket. Everyone else was wearing suits. I thought that was weird, but figured that they were probably applying for positions higher on the ladder, and I felt that I looked fine. Looking back I still get mad because I DID look fine, darnit! Dressier than a teller, but didn''t wear a "suit".
Rhotunda ***** came out to greet me. (I even remember her name.) She called my name, I stood up, and she GLARED at me up and down with complete disgust. I''m not exxagerating. We shook hands and she instructed me to follow her.
We went into her office, and she proceeded to tell me everything that I did "wrong" in the 10 seconds she knew me. She said I was dressed inappropriately, which maybe I was but I was always taught to dress for the position you want, which I did. She went on and on and on about how I was dressed. Then She said I didn''t grip her hand hard enough when we shook, and that I didn''t look her in the eye.
Most people I tell this story to say, "Well she''s right!" But I swear to you, if you were in that room you would have RUN out. I almost did. She was SO mean about it. I mean, if I were in her position I would at least try to say it nicely. She wasn''t telling me these things to help me, she was telling me these things to let me know that she was wasting her time. I can swear by that. Her tone, her looks, the way she said it...I mean, I almost started crying. But what really bothered me about this whole thing, was that I wasn''t there for "interviewing with Rhotunda 101". I don''t know she thought she was. I think it would have been more professional to either not say anything, or at least wait until the END of the interview, after she had a chance to see my personality. By dropping it on my lap as soon as I walked into her office she had already stamped a huge "NO" on my application.
I fumbled on the handshake because a mili-second earlier she was staring at me like I was the devil''s spawn! I was merely reacting to her reaction.
It isn''t like I showed up there in jeans and a t-shirt. I made an honest effort to do my best, and I wanted to impress her with my personality. She didn''t let it happen. Some say I should have thanked her and walked out the door without having the interview, but I suffered through it. But by this time I was sad/morified and couldn''t form my ideas or opinons clearly. She was rude in that respect to. She had a standard set of questions to ask me, and she would skip over some and say she''d get back to them at the end, but then never did...an obvious sign that I lost the job as soon as she saw me.
I still have nightmares. It was hands down the worst interviewing experience of my life. I really wish I would have told her off!
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I forgot to mention that as soon as I left her office I started crying. Yup, me with my big tears walking through the corporate building past the waiting room where others sat waiting for their interviews. I remember I got in my car and called my boyfriend bawling. I had never been so embaressed in my life.
Oh, and obviously I didn''t get the job. Won''t ever bank there either!
I got a letter in the mail slike 6 MONTHS later saying that I didn''t get the job. No, really?!
Oh, and obviously I didn''t get the job. Won''t ever bank there either!
I got a letter in the mail slike 6 MONTHS later saying that I didn''t get the job. No, really?!
Skippy123
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Luckystar,
That is horrible; it makes me sad. You know what?!?!? I am glad you did not get the job; not, because I don''t think you deserved it, but because it was better it happened that way instead of being miserable with that HORRIBLE woman as a boss.
I would think of it as a lesson learned. Yes, it is horrible, but you should walk away from an interview liking the person and then hopfully liking the job. She probably has a bunch of miserable people working for her and you are much better off. Try again and you will find something you like!!! You sound wonderful and don''t let that horrible woman get you down!!! I think that is why job interviews are great. You get to scope the other person out too! Don''t think of it as one sided; you both get to decide
That is horrible; it makes me sad. You know what?!?!? I am glad you did not get the job; not, because I don''t think you deserved it, but because it was better it happened that way instead of being miserable with that HORRIBLE woman as a boss.
I would think of it as a lesson learned. Yes, it is horrible, but you should walk away from an interview liking the person and then hopfully liking the job. She probably has a bunch of miserable people working for her and you are much better off. Try again and you will find something you like!!! You sound wonderful and don''t let that horrible woman get you down!!! I think that is why job interviews are great. You get to scope the other person out too! Don''t think of it as one sided; you both get to decide
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Oh, luckystar, I'm so sorry! Though, can you imagine what it would have been like to have her as a boss every day?
As for my embarrassing moments, I have many. One was during our senior intramurals.
A little backstory: I went to an all-female catholic high school, and one of the few fun things we were able to do was compete against the other classes for victory (in skit, football game, etc.). Well, we were at the football game against the juniors at the all-male school about a mile away, and those who weren't playing were cheerleaders. Boys packed the bleachers.
For whatever reason, throughout high school, we had a habit of 'pantsing' each other at random times ('skirting', if we were at school since we wore uniforms). Pantsing, for those that are unfamiliar, is when someone runs by quickly, pulling your pants down (similar to what happened to Ellen!). Skirting just involved pulling someone's skirt up.
So, back to the story. My best friend decided, on this very night in front of a couple hundred boys, to 'pants' me.
So much was going on and I doubt more than a handful saw, but it was so embarrassing. I didn't talk to her for the rest of the night.
As for my embarrassing moments, I have many. One was during our senior intramurals.
A little backstory: I went to an all-female catholic high school, and one of the few fun things we were able to do was compete against the other classes for victory (in skit, football game, etc.). Well, we were at the football game against the juniors at the all-male school about a mile away, and those who weren't playing were cheerleaders. Boys packed the bleachers.
For whatever reason, throughout high school, we had a habit of 'pantsing' each other at random times ('skirting', if we were at school since we wore uniforms). Pantsing, for those that are unfamiliar, is when someone runs by quickly, pulling your pants down (similar to what happened to Ellen!). Skirting just involved pulling someone's skirt up.
So, back to the story. My best friend decided, on this very night in front of a couple hundred boys, to 'pants' me.
So much was going on and I doubt more than a handful saw, but it was so embarrassing. I didn't talk to her for the rest of the night.
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Oh, man, Luckystar. Count yourself lucky you didn't end up working there. Can you imagine if you made a mistake at work? Like while you were learning? She probably wouldn't have hesitated to chew you out in front of everyone.
My husband is job hunting now and he goes to a job club where people network, give each other job leads, etc. Anyway, one of the guys was telling him about an interview he went to. He was talking to one of the supervisors and she was showing him around the facility. As they were walking through, he heard someone yelling and looked over to see one of the bosses bawling out one of the employees. He turned to the woman who was showing him around and said, "Thank you for your time, but this is not the kind of environment I want to work in." She called him later on and appologised, but he got a position somewhere else. He comes back to the job club to help others -- he said that was several years ago, and now he's the boss. What a wonderful lesson for someone to take to a position of authority. You don't get anything out of your employees by belittling them and bullying them, let alone where everyone can see and hear it.
Seriously, people like that should get canned themselves. There's no excuse for it.
Here's my embarrassing moment. A few years ago we had someone in the neighborhood who I felt sure was a pediphile. They have since moved out. I couldn't prove it, but there were about 10 red flags. The neighbor told me about her sex life the first time I met her, and how she met men on the internet, how her kids were all messed up, and really personal things you MIGHT confide in a friend you've known for years. Then, she asked my husband to help her with her computer, and there were things in her house and on her computer that really creeped him out. What really creeped ME out was that she took every possible opportunity to talk to my son when he was outside in the front yard and we were not. I caught her several times and she'd just try to shoo me off. Sorry, he was seven years old, you don't shoo off the mom. Then her adult, unemployed son moved in with her and he would always go outside whenever the boys were riding their bikes or playing soccer outside. I told my next door neighbor about it in confidence, because she and I had kids right accross the street from them. I asked her not to spread it around, that I didn't know for sure, but just to keep an eye out when her son and his friends were outside. About six months later at a homeowner's board meeting, in front of everyone there while she had everyone's attention she asked the woman's next door neighbor if he thought she and her son were pedifphiles because "Lumpkin told me they were." I was so angry, embarrassed, taken aback, shocked, etc. I just stood there with my mouth open and said something lame, I can't even remember what I said. I will never trust her again, and in fact I try to ignore her when I see her. I would never have said anything in the first place except that if anything had happened to her son and I *hadn't* told her I would not have been able to live with myself. Some good deeds really don't go unpunished, and some people can't resist gossip.
My husband is job hunting now and he goes to a job club where people network, give each other job leads, etc. Anyway, one of the guys was telling him about an interview he went to. He was talking to one of the supervisors and she was showing him around the facility. As they were walking through, he heard someone yelling and looked over to see one of the bosses bawling out one of the employees. He turned to the woman who was showing him around and said, "Thank you for your time, but this is not the kind of environment I want to work in." She called him later on and appologised, but he got a position somewhere else. He comes back to the job club to help others -- he said that was several years ago, and now he's the boss. What a wonderful lesson for someone to take to a position of authority. You don't get anything out of your employees by belittling them and bullying them, let alone where everyone can see and hear it.
Seriously, people like that should get canned themselves. There's no excuse for it.
Here's my embarrassing moment. A few years ago we had someone in the neighborhood who I felt sure was a pediphile. They have since moved out. I couldn't prove it, but there were about 10 red flags. The neighbor told me about her sex life the first time I met her, and how she met men on the internet, how her kids were all messed up, and really personal things you MIGHT confide in a friend you've known for years. Then, she asked my husband to help her with her computer, and there were things in her house and on her computer that really creeped him out. What really creeped ME out was that she took every possible opportunity to talk to my son when he was outside in the front yard and we were not. I caught her several times and she'd just try to shoo me off. Sorry, he was seven years old, you don't shoo off the mom. Then her adult, unemployed son moved in with her and he would always go outside whenever the boys were riding their bikes or playing soccer outside. I told my next door neighbor about it in confidence, because she and I had kids right accross the street from them. I asked her not to spread it around, that I didn't know for sure, but just to keep an eye out when her son and his friends were outside. About six months later at a homeowner's board meeting, in front of everyone there while she had everyone's attention she asked the woman's next door neighbor if he thought she and her son were pedifphiles because "Lumpkin told me they were." I was so angry, embarrassed, taken aback, shocked, etc. I just stood there with my mouth open and said something lame, I can't even remember what I said. I will never trust her again, and in fact I try to ignore her when I see her. I would never have said anything in the first place except that if anything had happened to her son and I *hadn't* told her I would not have been able to live with myself. Some good deeds really don't go unpunished, and some people can't resist gossip.
luckystar112
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Thanks guys.
I know I''m better off without her as a boss.
I had been told by the owner of a large franchise that I have great interviewing skills, and in fact had never not gotten a job anywhere after interviewing before. So this was my first rejection, and boy did it sting! (On top of what was said.)
One thing that wrench did help me do is apply for school and get my butt in gear. So I may still work in the food industry,
, but hopefully not much longer!
Lumpkin, what did the neighbor end up saying? Did they do an investigation?
I probably would have done the same thing in your situation. If your neighbor was so concerned she should have at least voiced her suspicions in private to the police or someone else. I hope you and that neighbor had words after the meeting!
I know I''m better off without her as a boss.
I had been told by the owner of a large franchise that I have great interviewing skills, and in fact had never not gotten a job anywhere after interviewing before. So this was my first rejection, and boy did it sting! (On top of what was said.)
One thing that wrench did help me do is apply for school and get my butt in gear. So I may still work in the food industry,
Lumpkin, what did the neighbor end up saying? Did they do an investigation?
I probably would have done the same thing in your situation. If your neighbor was so concerned she should have at least voiced her suspicions in private to the police or someone else. I hope you and that neighbor had words after the meeting!
lumpkin
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Oh, no. That was not the purpose of her repeating what I had said. I think she just couldn''t resist spreading gossip and had the opportunity to do so and say someone else had started it. Our neighborhood has some of the very best neighbors you could ask for, and then there are some real busy bodies. Turns out, she''s the latter, although she has had some good moments. It could be worse, we could have Mandarine''s neighbors.Date: 2/25/2007 12:13:53 PM
Author: luckystar112
Lumpkin, what did the neighbor end up saying? Did they do an investigation?
I probably would have done the same thing in your situation. If your neighbor was so concerned she should have at least voiced her suspicions in private to the police or someone else. I hope you and that neighbor had words after the meeting!
Thank goodness those people did move. I was so relieved when they did, and I guess that''s really the most important thing.
I''m an attorney and argued a motion on the 6th floor of the courthouse one day. When I left, the main door from the courtroom I was in (to the elevators) was blocked off by workers. Soooo I went out a side door. That door locked behind me and left me in the stairway. I walked down 1 floor (to 5) and tried that door -- locked! So, I did the "logical" thing and walked UP (7 FLOORS!) to the 12th floor (aka roof), where the maintenance guys laughed their asses off and asked me if I''d never heard that walking DOWN to the 1st floor might get me back to the street quicker. Oh, my land! I am a directional idiot!
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