Wedding Etiquette: reception at same place as friend?

[Dakota09]

What is everyone''s opinion on this?

I live in a big city... tons of reception venue choices, but one of my good friends recently had her reception at a particular venue that everyone loved. I''ve noticed online it''s also super-popular. I called for pricing information and it''s actually one of the lower-cost places around...and we know firsthand how delicious the food is and how great the service is.

Originally I would have never ever considered having my reception at the same place as a friend...I mean, that place holds her memories and her experience. But some people are saying I''m crazy and way too nice, and as long as I ask her if it''s okay, there''s nothing wrong with it becoming my place too.

What does everyone think?

 

[Sabine]

I would consider 2 factors: How much time will have passed between her wedding and yours, and how many of the same people will be attending?

I can''t imagine being upset if one of my friends had their wedding at the same place mine was, especially after the whole wedding buzz finally died down (took a couple months to finally feel like "wedding time" was over). When I was picking a venue, I was considering a place where a friend of mine got married, and she was the one who suggested it.

The only thing I would worry about is if you would be comparing your wedding to hers (I''ve been to 2 weddings at one place, almost a year after each other, and I was totally comparing them the whole time in my head). If you don''t think you will be worrying about how to make yours distinct, then totally go for it!

 

[meresal]

FI and I picked our reception venue because we loved it at my Big Sister's wedding (sorority sister). It will have been over 2.5 yrs by the time our wedding rolls around. They were thrilled when we told them.

ETA: I agree with Sabine that them being within a certain timeframe, could lead people to compare the two.

 

[Haven]

I would call your friend and ask her directly. I''d never have a problem with it, but people can have strange hang-ups about things.

Sounds like a great venue!

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 11/3/2008 8:07:21 PM
Author: Haven
I would call your friend and ask her directly. I''d never have a problem with it, but people can have strange hang-ups about things.


Sounds like a great venue!

Agreed. Just ask your friend how she feels.

 

[buttercup80]

Agree with the others about asking - but if was me, I''d be completely flattered if one of my friends wanted to use the venue I used! Means they thought it was great, right?

 

[kama_s]

I would most definitely take it as a compliment! But to be sure, you can always call and ask their opinion on it. The time gap that everyone brought up is right on the dot - if it''s too close together, it''s just inherent nature of mankind to compare.