Engagement ring superstitions

[jmarshall]

Hey all, in the process of picking out a diamond for an engagement ring at the moment, and curious about something. I had a friend tell me it is bad luck to show off the e-ring before the proposal.... anyone ever heard that before? Is it considered bad luck to show it to someone in particular or just to show it off at all?

 

[diamondloveaffair]

That's the first time that I heard of this. Do you believe in it? It's really all that matters.

 

[Niel]

Hey all, in the process of picking out a diamond for an engagement ring at the moment, and curious about something. I had a friend tell me it is bad luck to show off the e-ring before the proposal.... anyone ever heard that before? Is it considered bad luck to show it to someone in particular or just to show it off at all?

Never heard of that. And just about everyone does that here, and I haven't heard of a high divorce rate for PSers.

 

[Niel]

I thought you had a ring picked out already. Had that changed?

 

[jmarshall]

I thought you had a ring picked out already. Had that changed?

I picked out a setting that I liked, and then decided to wait and save up a little bit more before selecting a center stone. Proposal is coming the third week in July while we are at the beach. Been on the horn with Jon @ GOG looking at options.

Looking at this 1.06 G VS1
http://www.goodoldgold.com/diamond/10642/

and this 1.2 I VVS1
http://www.goodoldgold.com/diamond/10533/

and might have him call me in a couple stones in an H color, those are just what he has in house in my desired price range.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zWuAl4ktxI&feature=youtu.be

1.06 is on the left

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Nope. I might not show it to people you know so she can be the first besides you to see it (and let her have the fun of showing off the ring), but almost every guy here shows US the ring before he gives it to her. It might be bad luck if you don't!

 

[Niel]

I think having them call in H SI 1s would be a good idea.

 

[tyty333]

Nope. I might not show it to people you know so she can be the first besides you to see it (and let her have the fun of showing off the ring), but almost every guy here shows US the ring before he gives it to her. It might be bad luck if you don't!

Yes!

 

[SB621]

That's the first time that I heard of this. Do you believe in it? It's really all that matters.

Yup couldn't agree with this more. I think my DH showed the ring to his entire family before he proposed.

 

[jmarshall]

I think having them call in H SI 1s would be a good idea.

This is what I originally wanted. An eyeclean H.....

 

[jmarshall]

I think having them call in H SI 1s would be a good idea.

This is what I originally wanted. An eyeclean H.....

Any opinions on left diamond vs right diamond?

 

[Christina...]

Nope. I might not show it to people you know so she can be the first besides you to see it (and let her have the fun of showing off the ring), but almost every guy here shows US the ring before he gives it to her. It might be bad luck if you don't!

too funny!

 

[distracts]

Never heard of it being bad luck to show the ring.

I HAVE heard that it's bad luck to have an engraving inside the band. I thought that was bad luck that applied to everyone, but then I also heard it was a specifically Jewish thing.

 

[TC1987]

I occasionally see some jeweler has made a custom ring like this skeleton engagement ring, and I just have to wonder, why a skeleton for getting engaged? Is that what the lady requested? Does she expect this?

 

[heididdl]

Yeah my brother in law should me my sisters ring. I helped my boss pick out his fiance ring so I saw it. I don't know if I think its bad luck. But I agree with DS we would be sad if you didn't show to us first.

 

[maccers]

Hey all, in the process of picking out a diamond for an engagement ring at the moment, and curious about something. I had a friend tell me it is bad luck to show off the e-ring before the proposal.... anyone ever heard that before? Is it considered bad luck to show it to someone in particular or just to show it off at all?

I've never heard of that. Sounds similar to the groom seeing the bride in the wedding dress prior to the wedding.

 

[princessfeedme]

I've never heard about bad luck in showing the ring to other people, but I completely believe in not letting another girl try on the ring before she does (or after, even.) Supposedly, the wearer will siphon all of the happiness, love and luck of the intended owner. My friend swears by this bc her marriage is rocky from the beginning and she blames it on this. Her bf (at the time) just bought the ering and showed it off to one of his buddy and the friend's wife just took the liberty of putting it on. Rationally, marital issues are deeply complicated, but I'd rather be safe and start it off on a good foot with no bad juju.

 

[missy]

Nope. I might not show it to people you know so she can be the first besides you to see it (and let her have the fun of showing off the ring), but almost every guy here shows US the ring before he gives it to her. It might be bad luck if you don't!

too funny!

LOL, I agree with this.

Seriously though, I think it would be fine to show here but if you are even a bit unsure about the luck associated with showing to others I would not. My dh didn't show anyone the ring he picked out (all on his own and we know how that worked out haha but I love him so much for the thought behind wanting to do it all by himself so he could totally surprise me). In retrospect I liked the fact that I saw the ring first (besides the jeweler that is) and that our engagement was our little secret to share just the 2 of us for a day or so before we shared it with anyone else. Ofc though I am weird that way so YMMV.


ETA: Congratulations and good luck!!!!

 

[jmarshall]

Nope. I might not show it to people you know so she can be the first besides you to see it (and let her have the fun of showing off the ring), but almost every guy here shows US the ring before he gives it to her. It might be bad luck if you don't!

too funny!

LOL, I agree with this.

Seriously though, I think it would be fine to show here but if you are even a bit unsure about the luck associated with showing to others I would not. My dh didn't show anyone the ring he picked out (all on his own and we know how that worked out haha but I love him so much for the thought behind wanting to do it all by himself so he could totally surprise me). In retrospect I liked the fact that I saw the ring first (besides the jeweler that is) and that our engagement was our little secret to share just the 2 of us for a day or so before we shared it with anyone else. Ofc though I am weird that way so YMMV.


ETA: Congratulations and good luck!!!!

I was thinking about showing the ring to a couple of her family members, as we are in the situation where her family is my friends.

Going to just wait and let her show it off.

 

[Niel]

Nope. I might not show it to people you know so she can be the first besides you to see it (and let her have the fun of showing off the ring), but almost every guy here shows US the ring before he gives it to her. It might be bad luck if you don't!

too funny!

LOL, I agree with this.

Seriously though, I think it would be fine to show here but if you are even a bit unsure about the luck associated with showing to others I would not. My dh didn't show anyone the ring he picked out (all on his own and we know how that worked out haha but I love him so much for the thought behind wanting to do it all by himself so he could totally surprise me). In retrospect I liked the fact that I saw the ring first (besides the jeweler that is) and that our engagement was our little secret to share just the 2 of us for a day or so before we shared it with anyone else. Ofc though I am weird that way so YMMV.


ETA: Congratulations and good luck!!!!

I was thinking about showing the ring to a couple of her family members, as we are in the situation where her family is my friends.

Going to just wait and let her show it off.

Good idea. Showing strangers on PS? Fine idea. Showing her family? I'd hold off. She's going to want to show it off herself.

 

[Circe]

I occasionally see some jeweler has made a custom ring like this skeleton engagement ring, and I just have to wonder, why a skeleton for getting engaged? Is that what the lady requested? Does she expect this?

Could make sense for a Goth or a Victorianist ... memento mori were popular commitment symbols for a while, with all the "till death do us part" stuff.

 

[TC1987]

Um, okay. Just make mine a Vatche U113, please. ;-D

 

[Roxy]

I've never heard about bad luck in showing the ring to other people, but I completely believe in not letting another girl try on the ring before she does (or after, even.) ..........

I've heard of this as well. I don't know if I believe it, but I've heard it so often that I haven't taken my rings off for my friends or family to try on (I'm still a little surprised when people ask, especially people I don't even know).

 

[missy]

I've never heard about bad luck in showing the ring to other people, but I completely believe in not letting another girl try on the ring before she does (or after, even.) ..........

I've heard of this as well. I don't know if I believe it, but I've heard it so often that I haven't taken my rings off for my friends or family to try on (I'm still a little surprised when people ask, especially people I don't even know).

Yanno, I don't believe in this one at all. But if you do no reason to tempt fate. One of my gf's loved to try on my past ER and it didn't bother me in the slightest and my dh and I are very solid still despite allowing her to try it on every time we got together lol. And I let another friend try on my new ER when she asked. Still going strong (knock wood ). Chalk it up to what you believe. Silly superstitions only hold power if you believe them. And there's nothing wrong (no harm) in believing some superstitions. I know I do believe some of them myself. Just not the ring ones I have heard here.

Nope. I might not show it to people you know so she can be the first besides you to see it (and let her have the fun of showing off the ring), but almost every guy here shows US the ring before he gives it to her. It might be bad luck if you don't!

too funny!

LOL, I agree with this.

Seriously though, I think it would be fine to show here but if you are even a bit unsure about the luck associated with showing to others I would not. My dh didn't show anyone the ring he picked out (all on his own and we know how that worked out haha but I love him so much for the thought behind wanting to do it all by himself so he could totally surprise me). In retrospect I liked the fact that I saw the ring first (besides the jeweler that is) and that our engagement was our little secret to share just the 2 of us for a day or so before we shared it with anyone else. Ofc though I am weird that way so YMMV.


ETA: Congratulations and good luck!!!!

I was thinking about showing the ring to a couple of her family members, as we are in the situation where her family is my friends.

Going to just wait and let her show it off.

I think this is the way to go. Let her be the one to see it first and then the two of you can show it off together and celebrate the happiness of your engagement too.
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