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alexis5

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Hello,

I am devastated that the engagement ring we bought is not what we thought it was in terms of stone and setting quality. We are getting married in four months and need to return it and find a new one before then. After a long saga i really need advice about what to do from here. Please help!

Basically:

- we got engaged in geneva, switerzland (where my fiance was born)... we were living in london at the time.
- decided on the approx specifications we wanted (E-F, VVS- VS1, just above 1ct).
- found a beautiful ring in a reputable, family owned jeweler in geneva (was set in white gold and we wanted reset in platinum which they would do).
- we were told it was an E, VS1, 1.07, their own cut (emerald like cut but more facets). we knew there was some mark up for name but felt this was a trade off for knowing that we were getting exactly what we paid for.
- they said they had a GIA certificate but was in a vault at other store and would get it to us.
- they could not locate it but said we didn't really need another certificate ( i understand this sounds dodgy from the outside but again, they have a great reputation).
- we inisted we wanted GIA. they contacted a few weeks later and said it would take 2 month turnaround b.c of courier from Switerland and it being christmas time. they suggested EGL Antwerp who they felt were excellent and then we would be able to pick up the ring on our scheduled trip back to Geneva (if not we would have had to return again after the 2months was up). they said that should we ever want GIA cert we could do that once we had the ring and they would pay for the cert.
- we spoke to a few people who felt EGL was fine, this was a trustworthy jeweler... so we decided we were just being fussy. we agreed to get EGL with the option of GIA in the future if we needed it.
- Cert came back F colour,VVS - so one colour down and one clarity up. we didn't think this was a big deal given the whole 'its how you feel about the stone, don't get to caught up in the stats stuff'.
- we pick up ring as scheduled. it is now set in platinum for us.

- 7 mths later the diamond is a little loose (has four prongs holding it on each corner, suspended).
- we decide that given it needs to be reset and we are now living in New York so we will get a GIA certificate.
- we speak to original jeweler and they say we can send back to them to do all of this but will take a long time so we may as well go local for such a small job as removing and tightening.
- we take to a jeweler in NY to remove stone, they say two of the prongs are not quite holding one side of the diamond correctly and haven't been shaped perfectly (said not a big fault but noticeable). when he points it out you can see it with the naked eye.
- take stone to GIA. cert come back last week as H, VS1.

given they gave us the initial price on an E, VS1 stone (telling us this info was from a GIA cert) and were then given a relatively close cert surely this is a misrepresentation?!

i understand that it is all about falling in love with a diamond not the stats but you also don't want to feel people have been dishonest and that you haven't gotten a fair price. we also had the original ideas of what we wanted from color etc. we are also really disappointed at what has felt like bullying 'don't be so rigid re GIA', 'are you suggesting we are lying' type message we have constantly received from the lady we have spoken to at the jeweler. it has been such a long going back and forth process that we have had to drive so the customer service has not been fantastic. this may not be a huge amount of money for them but it is a lot to us.

so we are now left feeling devastated about the whole process and want to return the ring and never deal with them again. this is not just the stats of the stone or the fact the setting was faulty and the stone was loose after such a short amount of time, it is also the poor service and possible dishonesty.

we are looking at our consumer rights in Switzerland and are planning to call the owner (although we have not been able to speak to him throughout all the issues above, the vice president has wanted to deal with everything herself but we will insist on speaking to him this time).

If anyone is still reading (?!) can you please can you give any professional advice on steps to take from here, what our rights are (taking into account that 8mths has past), whether the problems with the stone and setting would alter price significantly and any similar cases to ours? We absolutely don't want them to replace the stone now given the emotional associations with this ring but would we have to accept this if that is what they offer?

i am sorry this is so long, i just thought it was better to give all the facts... I am so upset but don't want this to cloud our judgment or be rude in anyway.

thank you so much for any comments
 
also- does anyone know of similar threads i can search on this ?
thanks !
 
Ouch...the thing that makes this complicated is that you were in Switzerland. In the US you certainly have rights, but I don''t know what those are in Switzerland.

Have you spoken with the original jeweler? I would start there and see if they are willing to compensate you. Then, if you paid by credit card, call your company and see if it''s too late to do a chargeback as you paid for an item and received a different one...

Hopefully one of the appraisers will chime in here and have more ideas...
 
Date: 10/24/2008 3:14:57 PM
Author: neatfreak
Ouch...the thing that makes this complicated is that you were in Switzerland. In the US you certainly have rights, but I don''t know what those are in Switzerland.

Have you spoken with the original jeweler? I would start there and see if they are willing to compensate you. Then, if you paid by credit card, call your company and see if it''s too late to do a chargeback as you paid for an item and received a different one...

Hopefully one of the appraisers will chime in here and have more ideas...
Ditto that. Hang in there Alexis, we will be able to get you some help, but lets see what one of the expert appraisers has to say, someone should be along presently and be able to advise you.
 
One thing to consider is to start collecting all correspondence with them, and to make sure that correspondence from now on has somthing that can be referenced to. It could come in handy.
 
thank you so much, am glad that people at least agree it is not right... hoping an appraiser will have some advice for us.

yes, we have gotten all the emails together and have them saying everything that i listed including the original specifications of the ''lost cert''.

my fiance is looking into swiss law ... unfortunately he is blaming himself for not being ''more careful'' but I don''t feel he did anything wrong.

so sad
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hopefully we can resolve it. we will call next week after we get a bit more advice here on how to approach it.
 
also, to make it worse we withdrew from our account at the bank next door and paid in cash b.c of the currency conversion. nightmare.
 
Hmmmm...that does make it stickier. This is a BUMP for this thread to keep it at the top and hope an expert sees it...
 
I’m not sure I can offer much assistance. Your ‘rights’ are going to be a function of Swiss law, a subject I know nothing at all about. I do think you are being a bit over the top here. ‘Planning’ on talking to the owner is not sufficient. You need to talk to him about it. Soon would be a good schedule. I would start by politely explaining what the problem is, what you would like as a resolution and listen to what he has to say. Sometimes that's all it takes.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver
 
Hello Alexis,

Your situation is indeed a complex one...I agree with Neil that you need to act quickly
and contact the seller with your concerns.

To all diamond consumers who follow and read PS threads on a regular basis:

INSIST on receiving your original laboratory document (not a copy) at the time of purchase. Not later AND
NOT in the mail.

This has been a fairly consistent problem that seems to be getting more attention of late.

Not every jewelry store has perfect record keeping. Promises to send appraisals and lab documents
are just that.. "promises." And "promises" are only as good as the employee or owner who makes them.

You wouldn''t think of taking ownership of a "pedigree" dog without proper documentation.
Why would anyone do the same with a much more expensive item (diamond)?

Not lecturing here...just concerned that consumers need to be aware that people sometimes forget to
deliver on their promises...everyone leads a busy life and communication often fails.


Please keep us posted.

www.metrojewelryappraisers.com
 
Good tips Mod.
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yes, we definitely need to talk to the jeweler and will on Monday.. just wanting to get confirmation that this is a big difference in diamond quality and we aren''t making a mountain out of a molehill .... which i suspect they will tell us?

is there a big difference in price?

thanks
 
Date: 10/25/2008 1:17:44 PM
Author: alexis5
yes, we definitely need to talk to the jeweler and will on Monday.. just wanting to get confirmation that this is a big difference in diamond quality and we aren''t making a mountain out of a molehill .... which i suspect they will tell us?


is there a big difference in price?


thanks

Yes there is a big price difference between an E and a H.
 
Alexis~I''m a little confused by your post. You said that you bought a diamond that had been graded E VS1 by GIA and the vendor didn''t give you the report. After visiting the jeweler in NY, did you have the diamond unmounted and sent to the GIA for grading? I''m just trying understand what occurred before commenting further. I''m sorry you are having such a problem with your diamond and your ring.
 
Date: 10/25/2008 3:37:45 PM
Author: risingsun
Alexis~I'm a little confused by your post. You said that you bought a diamond that had been graded E VS1 by GIA and the vendor didn't give you the report. After visiting the jeweler in NY, did you have the diamond unmounted and sent to the GIA for grading? I'm just trying understand what occurred before commenting further. I'm sorry you are having such a problem with your diamond and your ring.
My understanding is they promised an E/VS1/GIA but actually delivered an H/VS1/GIA. She agreed to accept an E/VS1/EGL as a substitute. 8 months later she discovered that this difference is important.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver
 
Date: 10/25/2008 4:38:03 PM
Author: denverappraiser

Date: 10/25/2008 3:37:45 PM
Author: risingsun
Alexis~I''m a little confused by your post. You said that you bought a diamond that had been graded E VS1 by GIA and the vendor didn''t give you the report. After visiting the jeweler in NY, did you have the diamond unmounted and sent to the GIA for grading? I''m just trying understand what occurred before commenting further. I''m sorry you are having such a problem with your diamond and your ring.
My understanding is they promised an E/VS1/GIA but actually delivered an H/VS1/GIA. She agreed to accept an E/VS1/EGL as a substitute. 8 months later she discovered that this difference is important.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver
Thanks for the clarification, Neil.
 
thanks for your comments so far. i will clarify on the certificate side.

when we first saw the ring they said it was E/VS1 and they had a GIA cert. then they said they couldn''t locate it b.c all the diamonds were moved from a different safe.

we asked for a GIA. they said it would take 3mths cause it was Christmas and that EGL was just as good. so they sent it to EGL and it came back F/ VVS. we agreed on the basis of this cert and their original description (which they vouched for). they agreed to pay for a GIA cert if we ever wanted one in the future.

we moved to NY, the stone came loose so we thought it was a good time to remove the stone and give it in to GIA.
it then came back H/VS1

please can anyone give their opinion on whether it is reasonable given all the steps described to get a refund?
can they just say that certifications are different and they are not responsible??
we definitely don''t want a replacement as we have awful associations with it now.
also, what sort of price difference are we talking about ... can they just argue it is not a huge diff and we have had it for 8mths?

thanks.
 
Yes, you should be entitled to a refund - but whether you will get one is another story. Essentially I guess the issue is you did agree to take the EGL one..
It makes thousands of $ difference.
Please be confident and persistent when you call the owner - they sent it to EGL as they knew it would get a "softer" grade.
 
Do you have any documentation stating that the ring was originally graded E VS1 by the GIA? Was there an ID# on the girdle of the diamond that corresponds to the original GIA report? At least with some written documentation, you could show that the jeweler misrepresented the stone, I would think. I'm not a lawyer, so don't quote me on that.
 
Date: 10/26/2008 1:04:48 AM
Author: risingsun
Do you have any documentation stating that the ring was originally graded E VS1 by the GIA? Was there an ID# on the girdle of the diamond that corresponds to the original GIA report? At least with some written documentation, you could show that the jeweler misrepresented the stone, I would think. I''m not a lawyer, so don''t quote me on that.
RS, I''m just guessing of course, but I would doubt it ever was graded by the GIA..
If that were the case, it would''ve been easier for the store to just get a duplicate rather than pay to have it regraded..
I imagine they thought alexis would never take them up on their GIA offer, especially since they were not residents.
Of course, I am just speculating though !

Good point though, definately something for Alexis to follow up on with her vendor..
 
Date: 10/26/2008 1:11:19 AM
Author: arjunajane

Date: 10/26/2008 1:04:48 AM
Author: risingsun
Do you have any documentation stating that the ring was originally graded E VS1 by the GIA? Was there an ID# on the girdle of the diamond that corresponds to the original GIA report? At least with some written documentation, you could show that the jeweler misrepresented the stone, I would think. I''m not a lawyer, so don''t quote me on that.
RS, I''m just guessing of course, but I would doubt it ever was graded by the GIA..
If that were the case, it would''ve been easier for the store to just get a duplicate rather than pay to have it regraded..
I imagine they thought alexis would never take them up on their GIA offer, especially since they were not residents.
Of course, I am just speculating though !

Good point though, definately something for Alexis to follow up on with her vendor..
Hi to another night owl
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I think you are probably right. If they had the diamond graded by the GIA, there should have been a report to begin with. If Alexis doesn''t have any documentation, I wonder what her options are
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we have an email from them saying listing that the diamond is E/ VS1 ''as per the GIA certificate... i am assuming that shows they misrepresented the stone as we made our final decision to purchase based on that information (they are a very reputable store) in addition to the EGL cert.

i also now suspect they did not have a certificate - which is incredible given their reputation. i also now wonder if they have a friend at EGL Antwerp... i just can''t understand how it can be graded so differently. it has just put everything into question unfortunately....

any ideas on how we could respond if they suggest replacing the stone - we really don''t want to deal with them anymore and obviously don''t trust them anymore.
 
Date: 10/26/2008 1:15:05 AM
Author: risingsun

Date: 10/26/2008 1:11:19 AM
Author: arjunajane


Date: 10/26/2008 1:04:48 AM
Author: risingsun
Do you have any documentation stating that the ring was originally graded E VS1 by the GIA? Was there an ID# on the girdle of the diamond that corresponds to the original GIA report? At least with some written documentation, you could show that the jeweler misrepresented the stone, I would think. I''m not a lawyer, so don''t quote me on that.
RS, I''m just guessing of course, but I would doubt it ever was graded by the GIA..
If that were the case, it would''ve been easier for the store to just get a duplicate rather than pay to have it regraded..
I imagine they thought alexis would never take them up on their GIA offer, especially since they were not residents.
Of course, I am just speculating though !

Good point though, definately something for Alexis to follow up on with her vendor..
Hi to another night owl
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I think you are probably right. If they had the diamond graded by the GIA, there should have been a report to begin with. If Alexis doesn''t have any documentation, I wonder what her options are
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Hi marian - actually, its sunny and nice here, in Australia, lol..but yes, you should go to bed honey !
I know, its a tough one..
 
Date: 10/26/2008 2:01:41 AM
Author: alexis5
we have an email from them saying listing that the diamond is E/ VS1 ''as per the GIA certificate... i am assuming that shows they misrepresented the stone as we made our final decision to purchase based on that information (they are a very reputable store) in addition to the EGL cert.

i also now suspect they did not have a certificate - which is incredible given their reputation. i also now wonder if they have a friend at EGL Antwerp... i just can''t understand how it can be graded so differently. it has just put everything into question unfortunately....

any ideas on how we could respond if they suggest replacing the stone - we really don''t want to deal with them anymore and obviously don''t trust them anymore.
alexis, I think you have a good argument, due to the fact you have it in writing.
It is possible they have a "friend", but also most EGL labs are well known for being softer on colour and clarity grades than GIA/AGS, and can be up to a couple grades off on both.
Unfortunately, you have found out the hard way that a big reputation doesn''t always make for an honest vendor.
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Many people will just believe what they tell them, and don''t educate themselves to know any better.

I can understand completely not wanting to deal with them any longer, neither would I.
Just make sure you are firm in your resolve, and let them know you are disappointed, and feel more confident buying locally in the US for your replacement.
If they make you an offer and you''re not sure, you can bring it back here for more advice from the experts.

I don''t know how it works there, but it may be worth emailing/calling your local consumer office just to find out what, if any, your rights are?
 
GIA is pretty good at recognizing stones that they’ve seen before, at least if the first grading was within the last few years. There is always the possibility that they simply screwed up on one or the other gradings, but I would seriously doubt that they would grade a stone first as an E and then again as an H. By all means if they can produce the GIA/E paperwork then your problem is with GIA, not the dealer. Personally, I think it’s highly unlikely that the first grading ever happened.

Neil Beaty
GG(GIA) ICGA(AGS) NAJA
Professional Appraisals in Denver
 
i agree that it was never GIA graded - infact we confirmed it with GIA, they said they could not see their number (or any number on it) and couldn''t recognise it .... which means they not only misrepresented the stone, they blatantly lied. really hope this means we have rights (given we have this in writing from them). the lady we have dealt with (vice president i think) has just been so rude and condescending when we have had contact about the stone being loose and getting the extra grading etc that we are predicting it will be a battle and they will try and play it down. i guess we just want to be ready with all the info so that we are not bullied. this forum has helped me to be sure that it is a ''real'' issue at least. our major problem at this point is getting to speak to the owner who we have been told previously is ''too busy'' and we were told we could not have his number by the VP. we will definately be including a separate complaint about this woman''s service - she has made a very special experience a nightmare in more ways than one.

going to (try) to get through to him tomorrow if we can get past her so i will give feedback on what they say initially.
we have decided whatever happens we are going to continue until they take it seriously even if it means getting lawyers involved.

thanks for the help so far.
 
Date: 10/26/2008 11:42:16 PM
Author: alexis5
i agree that it was never GIA graded - infact we confirmed it with GIA, they said they could not see their number (or any number on it) and couldn''t recognise it .... which means they not only misrepresented the stone, they blatantly lied. really hope this means we have rights (given we have this in writing from them). the lady we have dealt with (vice president i think) has just been so rude and condescending when we have had contact about the stone being loose and getting the extra grading etc that we are predicting it will be a battle and they will try and play it down. i guess we just want to be ready with all the info so that we are not bullied. this forum has helped me to be sure that it is a ''real'' issue at least. our major problem at this point is getting to speak to the owner who we have been told previously is ''too busy'' and we were told we could not have his number by the VP. we will definately be including a separate complaint about this woman''s service - she has made a very special experience a nightmare in more ways than one.

going to (try) to get through to him tomorrow if we can get past her so i will give feedback on what they say initially.
we have decided whatever happens we are going to continue until they take it seriously even if it means getting lawyers involved.

thanks for the help so far.
why dont you disclose the name of the business you are having problems with. Someone may know the company--a little publicity never hurt anything in these situations
 
yes, will definitely list the company if they don''t fix it quickly and apologise. i guess i don''t want to give them bad publicity until we speak with them and know for sure that there isn''t another explanation (can''t think what it would be at the moment!).

can anyone tell me if diamond prices changed much in the last 8mths? are we going to find that we are paying a lot more now for a new diamond than 8mths ago?

looks like we may be stuck with both the emotional side of taking back our engagement ring after 8mths and a more expense purchase (albeit a better price for the right ring!).
 
diamond prices have most certainly gone up in the last 8 months but i believe the increases were concentrated on large stones plus in the US there was the currency issue.................
 
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