Hi everyone,
First time posting (although I admire all the time). I got engaged a few months ago and was really excited. I was just wondering if anybody on these boards have had the similar experiences to what I''''m about to describe and have some kind words.
I was really excited. I told my best friend and all she could say was "Oh shiny" when she saw the ring. She said congrats to me and my fiance but it was a delayed reaction. She did not have the same reaction as she usually does with other friends. And to this day she can never say anything even nice about my ring or act really excited for me - anytime she says she is excited it is over an email or something. In fact, over time- she has even gone so far to take jabs at my ring and say "oh it only looks big in some light/or at that angle"
I thought I could deal with the whole bland comments & not being super excited but to actually take jabs? That is not cool. I mean really- I''''d just be sad about her not being all into it but to actually actively be mean? It just upsets me still. I don''''t brag about it to her- not after that reaction (and she is suppose to be my best friend) --- and don''''t mention wedding talk unless she brings it up- so I just dont'''' get it.
And I go to law school & random girls will just tell me I''''ve got the smallest ring in school (and since when is a carat small??? I mean I''''m still young and so is my fiance - I''''m thrilled he actually wanted to spend that much on me). What in the world? I mean really! Can''''t people just be happy or silent about something like that so I can just enjoy my engagement. Believe me I don''''t talk about it much except the initial making the announcement and only bring it up when asked. It just makes me sad b/c I''''m so happy - I try not to let everyone else dampening it but it kinda of seeps in after awhile.
So any kind words or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!
First time posting (although I admire all the time). I got engaged a few months ago and was really excited. I was just wondering if anybody on these boards have had the similar experiences to what I''''m about to describe and have some kind words.
I was really excited. I told my best friend and all she could say was "Oh shiny" when she saw the ring. She said congrats to me and my fiance but it was a delayed reaction. She did not have the same reaction as she usually does with other friends. And to this day she can never say anything even nice about my ring or act really excited for me - anytime she says she is excited it is over an email or something. In fact, over time- she has even gone so far to take jabs at my ring and say "oh it only looks big in some light/or at that angle"
I thought I could deal with the whole bland comments & not being super excited but to actually take jabs? That is not cool. I mean really- I''''d just be sad about her not being all into it but to actually actively be mean? It just upsets me still. I don''''t brag about it to her- not after that reaction (and she is suppose to be my best friend) --- and don''''t mention wedding talk unless she brings it up- so I just dont'''' get it.
And I go to law school & random girls will just tell me I''''ve got the smallest ring in school (and since when is a carat small??? I mean I''''m still young and so is my fiance - I''''m thrilled he actually wanted to spend that much on me). What in the world? I mean really! Can''''t people just be happy or silent about something like that so I can just enjoy my engagement. Believe me I don''''t talk about it much except the initial making the announcement and only bring it up when asked. It just makes me sad b/c I''''m so happy - I try not to let everyone else dampening it but it kinda of seeps in after awhile.
So any kind words or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!