CellarDoor
Rough_Rock
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- Jun 11, 2008
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Hello all! I just became engaged last week, and have just started the beginning stages of planning the wedding. Basically, I have come to the conclusion that I have no interest in having a wedding at all. I signed up for the knot checklist, and apparently I am already way behind. I just want to elope. I don''t even want a destination wedding because I would have to have a minimum of six bridesmaids in order to avoid offending any close friends or family members and that just seems ridiculous to me. I mentioned the fact that I wanted to get married on a beach in the Caribbean to several friends, and they all expressed excitement about all making the trip for my wedding. My dad has been out of town, and I haven''t told him about the engagement yet. I dread the conversation because I know that I am going to have to ask him how much money he is going to contribute. My mom passed away a few years ago, and the idea of planning a wedding without her is incredibly depressing.
But, then I worry that I will regret it later if I downplay my wedding. I didn''t participate in my college graduation because my mom had died recently, and I now wish that I had. My FI agrees with the idea of getting married on the beach, but I know that he really wants to have a reception when we get back. That is fine with me, but I don''t want to have to do any speeches, toasts or awkward and rehearsed dancing. Do people typically become offended if you invite them to the reception and not to the ceremony? I was thinking that maybe we could record the ceremony and maybe create a slide show of pictures from the wedding and show those to the guests at the beginning of the reception, but I am not sure if the professional photos and video would be available so soon after the wedding. Is it appropriate to register for and accept gifts if you only have a reception?
Thanks for reading all of that! And, congratulations to all other brides-to-be!
But, then I worry that I will regret it later if I downplay my wedding. I didn''t participate in my college graduation because my mom had died recently, and I now wish that I had. My FI agrees with the idea of getting married on the beach, but I know that he really wants to have a reception when we get back. That is fine with me, but I don''t want to have to do any speeches, toasts or awkward and rehearsed dancing. Do people typically become offended if you invite them to the reception and not to the ceremony? I was thinking that maybe we could record the ceremony and maybe create a slide show of pictures from the wedding and show those to the guests at the beginning of the reception, but I am not sure if the professional photos and video would be available so soon after the wedding. Is it appropriate to register for and accept gifts if you only have a reception?
Thanks for reading all of that! And, congratulations to all other brides-to-be!