Does your partner have a hobby he/she is as passionate about as you are about gems?

[mrs-b]

Thank you, @Queenie60! I'll tell him you said so.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

He does not have a garmin, but he has a different kind of GPS. He is thinking about upgrading for Christmas. His phone "shares his location" with me, and this morning he showed me how to track him on my phone. I feel much more comfortable now.

My DH uses the forerunner 945 which is pretty high end for them, he said any of the forerunners will have the tracking ability.

 

[Bron357]

DH loves rocks and crystals.
It’s how I met him.
He worked in the same company/ building as me but on a different floor. He was a mining investment analyst. I had to attend a meeting on his floor and as I walked past his desk (company did ALL open plan except for meeting rooms) I stopped to admire and pick up the various lumps of rocks on his desk. He was away getting a cup of coffee and he returned I told him I thought his rocks were great desk accessories. He asked if I knew what they were so I named them (mostly metal ores).
At the next work function he went in case I had gone (I had) and we chatted some more. That led to some group outings and eventually “a date” at which point I told him I don’t “date” I was off men unless one wanted to get married and have a baby but not necessarily in that order! That was 20 years ago. DD is now 19.
DH who has a Masters in International finance and various other finance qualifications is currently doing a Bachelor of Geology by distance learning.
We have rocks, fossils and mineral specimens all over the house. Big crystal caves, lumps of ores, even a fossilised mammoth bone.
So we both love the same thing except I prefer mine set in gold and worn ha ha.

 

[kenny]

My SO doesn't care about diamonds and doesn't want one.
He's obsessed with cars.
All his spare time is spent studying cars on the Internet.

He never talks about them though.
He fusses over his car ... and mine.

 

[CoffeeAndDiamonds]

My DH loves the dogs, snorkeling, and antiquing in that order. And I love them too!

I was the one who had a dog when we started dating, and then we got a second. He was actually kinda scared of dogs before he got to know mine. My little chi/Boston Terrier/mix is 20 pounds of pure love.

Dh always enjoyed snorkeling, but wasn't very good at it at first. I taught him how to drive down and clear the snorkel once back at the surface, and now he's a MUCH better free driver than I am!

We started antiquing early in our relationship when we were living in Ireland. We passed an antique fair while on a day trip, stopped by out of curiosity, and the rest is history.

 

[Elizabeth35]

DH cooks--really well. He was single custodial dad to 4 when I met him and cooking has always been a stress relieving hobby for him. I have learned a lot from him and really stepped up my cooking game.
He owned several businesses and flipped houses on the side---and now we do flips together.
His main interest/hobby is travel and that is a passion I share with him. We love to travel at least 8-12 times per year (non-covid). When we can travel again we hope to be out of US at least 4 months per year.

I guess one of our biggest shared non-hobby is sports. I met the only man I know who has no interest in following any sports-not football, baseball, basketball, hockey, etc. Nor do I. So huge relief.

Bling--I enjoy it, although not to the extent that some others do on this forum! He basically wants me to tell him I want something and he will go buy it. He is not interested in the bling itself, but is tickled to see me enjoy it.

 

[Missy]

My DH is a professional photographer. All day every day!
Occasionally he spends $$$ on camera equipment. He shows me what he's working on and I give him feedback. I have learned a lot from him, concerning what makes a good photo. We both have art degrees, so we share interests in anything creative or artistic.
I have my vintage booth at my local antique mall, and he accompanies me when I go thrifting on the weekend.

Here are some examples of his work. He photographs the models in our home studio, then he photoshops them into other situations.



This background is actually the interior of a miniature room that he constructed.

Gorgeous @stracci2000 both you and your DH are so talented!

 

[Missy]

What a fantastic bike

Thank you! It is our third tandem and it is super comfortable so I don't see us going back to use the other 2 and our second tandem is all carbon and custom. It is beautiful but this one is too comfy to go back to an upright racing tandem. Age has a way of making comfort the most important feature.

 

[Missy]

DH cooks--really well. He was single custodial dad to 4 when I met him and cooking has always been a stress relieving hobby for him. I have learned a lot from him and really stepped up my cooking game.
He owned several businesses and flipped houses on the side---and now we do flips together.
His main interest/hobby is travel and that is a passion I share with him. We love to travel at least 8-12 times per year (non-covid). When we can travel again we hope to be out of US at least 4 months per year.

I guess one of our biggest shared non-hobby is sports. I met the only man I know who has no interest in following any sports-not football, baseball, basketball, hockey, etc. Nor do I. So huge relief.

Bling--I enjoy it, although not to the extent that some others do on this forum! He basically wants me to tell him I want something and he will go buy it. He is not interested in the bling itself, but is tickled to see me enjoy it.

Haha same! I am so thankful that Greg doesn't care much about sports (though he enjoys the Tour de France most years) and it is a relief. I hate watching sports on TV and glad Greg doesn't want to! As for cooking same here as well. My DH loves cooking and more importantly loves cooking for me. Which is good as I don't cook at all. Believe me we are all better off for that lol.

 

[Missy]

My DH loves the dogs, snorkeling, and antiquing in that order. And I love them too!

I was the one who had a dog when we started dating, and then we got a second. He was actually kinda scared of dogs before he got to know mine. My little chi/Boston Terrier/mix is 20 pounds of pure love.

Dh always enjoyed snorkeling, but wasn't very good at it at first. I taught him how to drive down and clear the snorkel once back at the surface, and now he's a MUCH better free driver than I am!

We started antiquing early in our relationship when we were living in Ireland. We passed an antique fair while on a day trip, stopped by out of curiosity, and the rest is history.

Glad you guys enjoy so many activities together and also your love of dogs. Your dog sounds amazing. I love your description of him. Pure love indeed.

We love antiquing too. It's been a while since we enjoyed that but all our lightning in our Brooklyn home are antique lights from the twenties and thirties and forties. I don't know what we will do when/if we move from that home as I cannot bear to part with those but they do not fit the character of our beach house.

 

[Missy]

My DH loves golf! I love that he loves golf however it takes all my effort for my eyeballs not to roll into the back of my head when he starts
talking about it. What he did on this hole or what he did on that hole, or when he is out practicing and how he needs to turn his wrist, shift
his weight...you get the point. I dont play golf and can not help him by giving opinions or constructive criticism. I do my best to listen but
sometimes its just hard.

When I talk about pricescope its not usually about diamonds or jewelry. Its more about something going on. I try not to bring up pricescope
unless its something I think might interest him.

Yeah I do not usually talk about PS with Greg. He has no interest but occasionally I might bring something up that I think he would find interesting and occasionally I ask him to answer thread topics if I want to know what his reply would be.

 

[Missy]

HI:

Golf and snooker. Too bad with Covid he can't play the ladder with his pals...

cheers-Sharon

Haha now I am going to have to lookup "snooker" as I have no clue what that is...

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Ahhh got it!

 

[Missy]

My DH always has a hobby....right now he is into old cars! He also supports me in my bling hobby! We had the perfect day yesterday, drove the old 38 Chevy coupe over to my favorite jewelry store where I poured over all the new goodies and then on to a car show!!! Heaven!

Sweet! That does sound like the perfect day!

My DH has developed a passion for woodwork in recent years. He did woodwork as a subject in high school and has always been very handy (basic plumbing, car maintenance, electricals, and home maintenance of every variety), but recently woodwork has hit the front as a passion. We have enough space in our house to allow him 2 large work areas, and I've been adding to his collection of tools over time.

I've already shared some breadboards and cheeseboards he's making friends for Christmas, and he's doing matching drink coasters as well: they're very beautiful. He's currently making me a potting bench and a garden seat, and after that will make an arch to go over our front path.

DH is an actuary by profession, so this makes an excellent change of pace - tho I think a love for numbers is inherent to both his job and his hobby.







This is a light box - roughly 3' x 3' - that DH has recently made for me. He's making various inserts for it (he does the writing and my DG-D (dear god daughter!) does the graphics. It will have metal legs attached that will slide into permanent fixtures set into our grass, which are otherwise not obvious. This is the one for Halloween, tho we also intend to do them for July 4th, Australia Day, and any other holidays where we think it won't offend people. It won't go up for long - maybe a few days before each holiday. We won't do them for Christmas or Easter, as these are religiously significant days and it wouldn't be appropriate to us, personally. And, of course, we already decorate extensively for Christmas.

Gorgeous!!!

 

[Missy]

My husband has two hobbies, flying and golf. He began flying in his early 20's and golf as a teenager. He is great at both. We own a small Bonanza airplane and he loves it very much. He golfs weekly at our CC and enjoys the many groups associated with it. I am not passionate about flying but I don't mind it. As for golf, I am very bad at playing golf but will go out and play 9 holes with him on occasion. I enjoy the social aspect of belonging to a Country Club. And yes, he listens when I discuss bling and enjoys it when I discuss my latest recipes and food that I can't wait to try. It's a nice balance as we always have something to discuss.

That is a great balance and how wonderful you have a small plane. I imagine you can travel to many places so much more quickly than driving and as long as you have a space to land you're golden!

 

[Missy]

By default I have become interested in rugby It’s the only sport that DH is interested in, and unlike football (UK) it doesn’t attract the yobbish behaviour and trouble that’s often associated with it. We both play golf - badly, and have recently got back in to that, and DH loves to travel, so I tag along.

I imagine Rugby is quite rough. I cannot watch anything that is rough like hockey for example or American Football. I think those sports are savage. I could be wrong about Rugby though and I am glad you both enjoy watching it.

 

[Missy]

Oh boy...

DH has one huge hobby. He is a pilot. Not for a job, but because he loves to fly. Started in 1970s with gliders and kept going from there. We are currently restoring an airplane he bought before I knew him. Even if you exclude that, it isn't inexpensive to own, maintain, and fly a warbird. 12 gallons fuel per hour flight. Annual inspection regardless of how many hours flown. The list goes on. Plus a hangar to keep it in. The hangar alone has been costing $$$ to the point that we are buying one so we don't have to rent. The restoration so far had cost about four times more than every piece of jewelry I have combined. (Not a high bar, but still...) Luckily, I enjoy flying too. Too many of our friends have spouses who don't share the interest and it does not go well for many of them. Lots of resentful women drinking heavily at certain group events.

I don't know that I would call them hobbies, but he also has a big interest in smoking foods (not expensive), woodworking (sort of expensive and the tools haven't been touched in years), all things technology (lots of space taking with some expense and the need to periodically be reminded that some area would be $$$$$ to get into and the airplane wants more parts), nice speakers (see woodworking as the speakers he made is why we have those tools), and whatever else I am forgetting.

An expensive sport for sure. But so cool too. It's great you both enjoy flying. I agree that sharing interests with one's partner makes life much sweeter and more fun.

 

[Missy]

My husband has a few hobbies. Mostly computer games. He likes woodworking and jewellery too. He's planning his own someday upgrade too lmao.

LOL the family that blings together!

I wish my husband had hobbies but he doesn’t. He’s a workaholic who is attached to his phone even when he’s home. His job is very stressful so he carries that with him all day. He likes to golf but he doesn’t get a chance to do that. Other than sports for his school team I can’t think of anything else he likes to do. We are so different but we’ve been married forty-six years. We married VERY young..It’s amazing we are still together. The secret is that we let each other be who we are..even though we’re very different. I have tons of hobbies that I enjoy.

That is a recipe for a good marriage. You let each other be who you are. You support each other in all endeavors. You want each other to be happy. That is everything.

 

[Missy]

DH loves rocks and crystals.
It’s how I met him.
He worked in the same company/ building as me but on a different floor. He was a mining investment analyst. I had to attend a meeting on his floor and as I walked past his desk (company did ALL open plan except for meeting rooms) I stopped to admire and pick up the various lumps of rocks on his desk. He was away getting a cup of coffee and he returned I told him I thought his rocks were great desk accessories. He asked if I knew what they were so I named them (mostly metal ores).
At the next work function he went in case I had gone (I had) and we chatted some more. That led to some group outings and eventually “a date” at which point I told him I don’t “date” I was off men unless one wanted to get married and have a baby but not necessarily in that order! That was 20 years ago. DD is now 19.
DH who has a Masters in International finance and various other finance qualifications is currently doing a Bachelor of Geology by distance learning.
We have rocks, fossils and mineral specimens all over the house. Big crystal caves, lumps of ores, even a fossilised mammoth bone.
So we both love the same thing except I prefer mine set in gold and worn ha ha.

It was meant to be! You guys share a love of rocks and crystals and it's a win win you like yours set in gold and he loves his just the way they are.

My SO doesn't care about diamonds and doesn't want one.
He's obsessed with cars.
All his spare time is spent studying cars on the Internet.

He never talks about them though.
He fusses over his car ... and mine.

You reap the benefit of his passion regarding cars. And more diamonds for you.

 

[Beautiful-disaster]

My partner has a handful of projects he is always working on. One minute he will be pulling apart mobile phones and computer hard drives to fix them, the next he is building an electric pottery wheel for our daughter. He has a plotter and is often making signs and stickers for the car or work. He also has a full DJ set up with lights in our bedroom so every second night he mixes old school rave music. He has a large hydroponics garden as well that is his main project at the moment. He has a massive Lego collection as well that he recently has reorganised into their kits and colour coded the rest.
He has endless amount of tools and can fix or build you anything and everything.
None of these things we have in common - In a painter who is learning Portuguese and is getting into gems as a hobby.
While he isn’t interested in gems he went and bought me a light up loop and measuring tools, diamond tester etc without me asking and will show interest when I need him to.
He bought me my first painting kit too - which at $1500 was him showing support in my interests.
We do have a lot in common though which helps bridge the gap.

 

[Missy]

My partner has a handful of projects he is always working on. One minute he will be pulling apart mobile phones and computer hard drives to fix them, the next he is building an electric pottery wheel for our daughter. He has a plotter and is often making signs and stickers for the car or work. He also has a full DJ set up with lights in our bedroom so every second night he mixes old school rave music. He has a large hydroponics garden as well that is his main project at the moment. He has a massive Lego collection as well that he recently has reorganised into their kits and colour coded the rest.
He has endless amount of tools and can fix or build you anything and everything.
None of these things we have in common - In a painter who is learning Portuguese and is getting into gems as a hobby.
While he isn’t interested in gems he went and bought me a light up loop and measuring tools, diamond tester etc without me asking and will show interest when I need him to.
He bought me my first painting kit too - which at $1500 was him showing support in my interests.
We do have a lot in common though which helps bridge the gap.

That is so sweet. One of my favorite stories is Gift of the Magi and I know it doesn't completely apply to your relationship because you aren't broke but for some reason reading your post reminded me of that wonderful short story.

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You guys support each other and want each other to be happy even if your passionate about different hobbies. The main thing is you are passionate about each other.

 

[Myshinybestlife]

My husband's hobby is photography which when you add gear, multiple trips a year cost enough. I tag along everyone in a while, look at hundreds of pictures from each trip. Help crtic and choose what he keeps.

 

[autumngems]

My hubby's hobbie is guns. As prior military he used to shoot matches and continues to do so today, he has various kinds for different matches and for hunting as well.

 

[MeowMeow]

LOL the family that blings together!

Indeed! I just wish we had more similar taste!! His is big and blingy and mine is more simple. He enjoyed himself so much finding my engagement ring. Now he wants a big blingy band for himself. I would say i created a monster but he has always loved rocks. I just made him go a step further lol.

 

[GliderPoss]

My DH loves golf! I love that he loves golf however it takes all my effort for my eyeballs not to roll into the back of my head when he starts
talking about it. What he did on this hole or what he did on that hole, or when he is out practicing and how he needs to turn his wrist, shift
his weight...you get the point. I dont play golf and can not help him by giving opinions or constructive criticism. I do my best to listen but
sometimes its just hard.

When I talk about pricescope its not usually about diamonds or jewellery. Its more about something going on. I try not to bring up pricescope
unless its something I think might interest him.

Yeah my Ex was absolutely golf mad. I did enjoy playing with him but mostly for exercise and to get outdoors rather than the specifics of the game as such. He was very focused on the gear itself too and I couldn't really care less but I tried to be supportive. I'll be honest, definitely some resentment on the money it cost as a hobby...

 

[Missy]

Indeed! I just wish we had more similar taste!! His is big and blingy and mine is more simple. He enjoyed himself so much finding my engagement ring. Now he wants a big blingy band for himself. I would say i created a monster but he has always loved rocks. I just made him go a step further lol.

Haha well that is OK. You guys share your bling passion. I am actually pleased my DH doesn't because that leaves more money for my bling lol. His other hobbies are expensive enough!

 

[Missy]

Yeah my Ex was absolutely golf mad. I did enjoy playing with him but mostly for exercise and to get outdoors rather than the specifics of the game as such. He was very focused on the gear itself too and I couldn't really care less but I tried to be supportive. I'll be honest, definitely some resentment on the money it cost as a hobby...

Yeah it would be great if our DH's hobbies were inexpensive I agree. LOL. I look at it this way. If he is happy and engaged re his hobbies that means he is happy for me to enjoy mine. So it works out. If your DH spends X amount on his hobby you should feel free to spend X amount on yours. JMO.

I end up spending way more on my hobbies than my DH does on his so I cannot and do not resent what he spends. Though sometimes I do wince a bit lol. But then again I wince about what I spend on my hobbies too! It doesn't stop me though but yes I wince.

 

[ZestfullyBling]

DH is obsessed with golf so much I suggested he join junior leagues. He actually now has that as his endgame now. Pretty cool. I love that he loves it. It’s a joy for me to support him.

 

[Missy]

DH is obsessed with golf so much I suggested he join junior leagues. He actually now has that as his endgame now. Pretty cool. I love that he loves it. It’s a joy for me to support him.

That's wonderful and I feel the same. It *is* a joy to be able to support our DHs as they support us.

 

[luv2sparkle]

My husband is also a cyclist. He doesn't use his road bikes as much anymore, he goes trail riding. He just thinks the roads are a bit too dangerous these days. We still have a garage filled with bikes. That's ok, I have a jewelry box filled with jewels. He also likes wood working. He built a firetruck bed for our grandson and just recently finished a Chiefs corn hole set. It is a thing of beauty. We don't share a lot of hobbies but enjoy being together, so it works out. I oooh and ahhh over his creations and he does the same for mine. We both like traveling with our 5th wheel, and spending time with the grandkids.
I have never stressed that we don't have the same hobbies. I love watching football and the Tour de France every year, and he actually enjoys going to the major quilt shows with me. For the last few years (before covid) we went to Houston in the fall for the Quilt Festival, and Sisters, Oregon in July, and of course the local show, Road to California in January. Everything is cancelled for this year and at least part of next.