does anyone else hate registering?

[sillyberry]

Everyone has always told me that registering is SO MUCH FUN but I am finding it SO VERY MISERABLE.

It has taken forever to figure out for what to register, FI keeps asking for stupid stuff to be put on the registry (no, we cannot ask for a sink), I can't decide where to register for what items...not to mention the dirty feeling that comes with asking people to buy us stuff.

I feel like a totally ungrateful brat, but I'm really not enjoying this. Am I the only one?

 

[vc10um]

Everyone has always told me that registering is SO MUCH FUN but I am finding it SO VERY MISERABLE.

It has taken forever to figure out for what to register, FI keeps asking for stupid stuff to be put on the registry (no, we cannot ask for a sink), I can't decide where to register for what items...not to mention the dirty feeling that comes with asking people to buy us stuff.

I feel like a totally ungrateful brat, but I'm really not enjoying this. Am I the only one?

SB, we really are kindred spirits. It took me MONTHS to get up the motivation to register. In fact, I nearly had a breakdown opening up our Amazon registry thinking of how awful I was for asking for gifts...to add to the fact that I feel like I'm asking for people to help us, which is even worse, since I'm very VERY independent.

FI and I are both sticklers for quality over quantity, so we've been reading every. single. amazon.com review on each product we've put on our registry. And then at BB&B our "registry coordinator" kept saying "you need to register for this cool dohickey or this unnecessary tool" and we finally just asked her to leave us alone. We went through the kitchen and decided what we needed to replace or wanted to upgrade (like our dishes that don't match, or our dinky 1.5 cup food processor), added a few neat toys that we wanted (FI wanted a digital thermometer, I wanted and immersion blender), and included some things that we wanted (new cutting boards and a knife set) and that's about where we are right now. We're having roughly 110 people at our wedding, plus an additional 40 at our DC area reception, and we've managed a total of 100 items between our Amazon and BB&B registries. It's kinda sad.

 

[Amys Bling]

FI complained about doing it, but he got trigger happy and enjoyed it a little too much! I felt stressed about dishes... too expensive...not nice enough,,, how many sets? ugh.

 

[hoofbeats95]

We are going to resgister next week and I'm dreading it. First of all I'm having a bridal shower and I do NOT want one. I feel like I'm asking those that are invited for 2 gifts. No one likes showers anymore. People dread going to them. But it seems I'm destined to have one even though I fought it tooth and nail.

My fiance was married before which makes this all the worse imo. We don't have much to register for. We don't have room for much - we live in a very small place right now. We want to build a house on the farm and we want to upgrade to a king size bed. So all these gifts are unnecessary and take up what little space I may be able to find right now.

I have no idea where to go register. I'm going to hate it, but it's gotta be done. People will want to KNOW where we are registered. Ugh.

 

[Bleed Burnt Orange]

I haven't done it yet but I know I'll have a hard time. While it's cool that there are so many things to choose from...I can't ever make up my mind.

I just got a new house with my fiance and we're starting pretty much from scratch. The house will be empty for a LONG time, because I can't decide on anything.

I am definitely going to want to give up on registering, espeically since I don't like shopping that much either.

 

[pannini]

you are not alone on this sillyberry! we're totally procrastinating too, and it just feels weird registering. we might do a honeymoon registry though!

 

[swingirl]

...not to mention the dirty feeling that comes with asking people to buy us stuff.

Think of it as doing your family and friends a favor by giving them suggestions and colors and preferences. No one wants to give the 6th toaster or green towels when your bathroom is pink. No one is obligated to use your registry so you aren't asking for gifts, just giving suggestions to those who ask. The polite thing to do it for your mother or MIL to let people know the registry details if they ask. But you are not supposed to include it with any invitation. I know, many brides do. Most people know to ask.

 

[sillyberry]

...not to mention the dirty feeling that comes with asking people to buy us stuff.

Think of it as doing your family and friends a favor by giving them suggestions and colors and preferences. No one wants to give the 6th toaster or green towels when your bathroom is pink. No one is obligated to use your registry so you aren't asking for gifts, just giving suggestions to those who ask. The polite thing to do it for your mother or MIL to let people know the registry details if they ask. But you are not supposed to include it with any invitation. I know, many brides do. Most people know to ask.

Thanks for the perspective! Definitely would NEVER add registry information to the any invitation. ::shudder:: I do have it our website, though. I kind of wish we had the close-knit guest list that would be able to ask one of our moms, but MAN that isn't the case. So website it is!

 

[vc10um]

...not to mention the dirty feeling that comes with asking people to buy us stuff.

Think of it as doing your family and friends a favor by giving them suggestions and colors and preferences. No one wants to give the 6th toaster or green towels when your bathroom is pink. No one is obligated to use your registry so you aren't asking for gifts, just giving suggestions to those who ask. The polite thing to do it for your mother or MIL to let people know the registry details if they ask. But you are not supposed to include it with any invitation. I know, many brides do. Most people know to ask.

Thanks for the perspective! Definitely would NEVER add registry information to the any invitation. ::shudder:: I do have it our website, though. I kind of wish we had the close-knit guest list that would be able to ask one of our moms, but MAN that isn't the case. So website it is!

I'm putting ours in the "FAQ" area of our site. It doesn't have its own page or anything that screams "REGISTRY! BUY US THINGS!"

The other FAQs will be like "Where will the B&G be staying?" "What's the airport code for Kansas City?" etc... And then the last one will be "Where are the B&G registered?"