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A happy and wonderful birthday to you, @Beautiful-disaster !!!
Disclaimer: I'm from a different country (different approach to parenthood) AND I'm a bit grumpy because I have a lot of contact with kids around 18-20.
I am shocked to see how self absorbed they are.
If it's important to YOU, your DD can make an effort to remember. If she doesn't have a phone, I congratulate you.
If she has, she's using it for freakin EVERYTHING. She's already looked around it about 1000000 times today only. It's not asked too much to set a reminder in the calendar.
I'm not convinced the new way of just sheltering teenagers from EVERYTHING is actually good for THEM. It's sure not good for the rest of our society either.
There's a difference between "I don't care about birthdays" and "MY birthday is important, but others, not so much".
Birthdays were big in my family. So they used to be important to me. DH doesn't care. At first I was a bit disappointed (he never forgot, though... Just not the big brouhaha I was used to).
Here comes the important point: he a) made an effort for me, because I cared and b) he's consistent. He truly doesn't want anything for his OWN birthday.
So we meet in the middle for both days, have a cake, a lunch or dinner out and a small present or not. Kids will make me cards etc...
If you care about the birthday celebration for yourself, but forget your mother's, I'm not impressed.
Disclaimer: I'm from a different country (different approach to parenthood) AND I'm a bit grumpy because I have a lot of contact with kids around 18-20.
I am shocked to see how self absorbed they are.
If it's important to YOU, your DD can make an effort to remember. If she doesn't have a phone, I congratulate you.
If she has, she's using it for freakin EVERYTHING. She's already looked around it about 1000000 times today only. It's not asked too much to set a reminder in the calendar.
I'm not convinced the new way of just sheltering teenagers from EVERYTHING is actually good for THEM. It's sure not good for the rest of our society either.
There's a difference between "I don't care about birthdays" and "MY birthday is important, but others, not so much".
Birthdays were big in my family. So they used to be important to me. DH doesn't care. At first I was a bit disappointed (he never forgot, though... Just not the big brouhaha I was used to).
Here comes the important point: he a) made an effort for me, because I cared and b) he's consistent. He truly doesn't want anything for his OWN birthday.
So we meet in the middle for both days, have a cake, a lunch or dinner out and a small present or not. Kids will make me cards etc...
If you care about the birthday celebration for yourself, but forget your mother's, I'm not impressed.
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