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I'll go for that...AprilBaby|1374159725|3485501 said:I'm pretty content at 54. Would love my 20's body back and would love to stop the clock now.
I'll go for that...AprilBaby|1374159725|3485501 said:I'm pretty content at 54. Would love my 20's body back and would love to stop the clock now.
rosetta|1374149386|3485368 said:Yes. I'm 33 and I'm running out of time to have kids. But I am enjoying my kid free life with my husband so much, I wish we were 10 years younger and had more time to just be a couple!
Other than that, I'm happy being 33 (I look younger, no wrinkles, no grey hair, boobs still perky, what's not to love? )
Smith1942|1374161700|3485536 said:As a whole, humans hate women who want babies later - or not at all - because they're a threat to the tribe
Kelinas|1374162684|3485546 said:Smith1942|1374161700|3485536 said:As a whole, humans hate women who want babies later - or not at all - because they're a threat to the tribe
this.
I get this "look" all the time from everyone who find out that DH&I don't want children.
Why is it anyones business whether I want children? I'm so over the "your a disgrace" look I get.
to me, the only ppl who should be disappointed, if at all, is my in-laws and my parents. But my mom supports me 100% (because I was such a delinquent lol) and I wish others would feel the same way
Smith1942|1374163501|3485560 said:Rosetta - if you're concerned, you could get the FSH test.
When I was researching this issue, I also found out that smoking kills your eggs. Not drugs, not alcohol, but smoking. So if you've never smoked, that's a point in your favour. I've never smoked.
Smith1942|1374163299|3485554 said:Kelinas|1374162684|3485546 said:Smith1942|1374161700|3485536 said:As a whole, humans hate women who want babies later - or not at all - because they're a threat to the tribe
this.
I get this "look" all the time from everyone who find out that DH&I don't want children.
Why is it anyones business whether I want children? I'm so over the "your a disgrace" look I get.
to me, the only ppl who should be disappointed, if at all, is my in-laws and my parents. But my mom supports me 100% (because I was such a delinquent lol) and I wish others would feel the same way
Oh, so you get it! I love the line in Bridget Jones where she says that within her family, as an unmarried, childless woman in her thirties, she feels like a teenage boy that everyone's slightly annoyed with all the time!
I think I'd like kids, but my husband's illness has made it impossible so far, although he's getting great treatment now. I haven't told my family about any of this to protect my husband's privacy - it's an embarrassing condition - and I don't want their inflexible Conservative selfish views rammed down my throat anyway. They'd want me to go ahead, no matter how hard for me, because they just want more grandchildren despite already having three from my sister. So....you wouldn't believe the way they all treat me sometimes, for DARING to be married for six years and not reproducing. I've been called selfish, immature, and they whisper about me all the time behind my back. The issue has definitely driven a wedge between me and the rest of my family. My husband jokes that if we have kids, perhaps we'll just introduce them to my family when they're 18!
I agree with what you say. My views are very clear. It's my body, my decision, and everyone else can go to hell (except my husband) including all the scare stories in the newspapers. I decided a long time ago that I would not be bullied by my biology, and if I've left it too late then I'll deal with it. My husband feels the same.
Hahaha.canuk-gal|1374171478|3485666 said:HI:
No, but I wish my husband was!
cheers--Sharon
Canadian Cougar!..canuk-gal|1374171478|3485666 said:HI:
No, but I wish my husband was!
cheers--Sharon
rosetta|1374163478|3485559 said:Thanks Smith, I feel a lot better now!
I know the statistics but boy, is there societal pressure or what!! At one point, my mother and I stopped speaking to each other over this (we are good now that she has backed off). It's been worse since my SIL popped a baby out 9 months after marriage to an almost complete stranger. It wasn't planned either, so as far as I'm concerned they didn't so much succeed in conceiving as failed in birth control.
My grandmother had babies at 45. My aunt gave birth to her first baby at 40. I don't understand why people are on my case so much! I turned 33 two months ago, I'm hardly a barren old hag!
Anyway, it goes in one ear and out the other. I just had a Mirena coil fitted. So there.
tyty, you're my hero
+1....I always say that I wish DH and I had met 5 years earlier so we could have had more couple time before having kids. He's 9 years older than me, so time wasn't on our side.Laila619|1374157116|3485453 said:Yes, but only because then I could have had my kids at a younger age.
woofmama|1374202491|3485956 said:No. I do wish I had my health and figure that I had in my 30's, but I'm working on that. I took a major chance opening a business at 44 yrs old and career wise I'm far happier than I've ever been. I'm 49 now, have a 21 yr old son and a 14 yr old son. They keep me young, we have a blast together and I find it hard to believe I'm in my late 40's. Loving life right now so happy to be right where I am.
My husband and I both work very hard, don't travel much but really enjoy the little things in life. The only thing I regret is not putting more into retirement savings. Need to play catch-up. But my actual age is fine with me.
I've always been a glass half-full sort of girl, with an inflated sense of self importance and a healthy ego
I'm sad to read all of the 50-60 somethings who feel their life is winding down. If I knew you IRL we would have some spa & lunch outings together and I would try my best to cheer you up
We are always the same age inside. ~Gertrude Stein -
Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. ~Samuel Ullman -
Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many. ~Author Unknown -
When grace is joined with wrinkles, it is adorable. There is an unspeakable dawn in happy old age. ~Victor Hugo -
hlmr|1374204685|3485973 said:woofmama|1374202491|3485956 said:No. I do wish I had my health and figure that I had in my 30's, but I'm working on that. I took a major chance opening a business at 44 yrs old and career wise I'm far happier than I've ever been. I'm 49 now, have a 21 yr old son and a 14 yr old son. They keep me young, we have a blast together and I find it hard to believe I'm in my late 40's. Loving life right now so happy to be right where I am.
My husband and I both work very hard, don't travel much but really enjoy the little things in life. The only thing I regret is not putting more into retirement savings. Need to play catch-up. But my actual age is fine with me.
I've always been a glass half-full sort of girl, with an inflated sense of self importance and a healthy ego
I'm sad to read all of the 50-60 somethings who feel their life is winding down. If I knew you IRL we would have some spa & lunch outings together and I would try my best to cheer you up
We are always the same age inside. ~Gertrude Stein -
Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. ~Samuel Ullman -
Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many. ~Author Unknown -
When grace is joined with wrinkles, it is adorable. There is an unspeakable dawn in happy old age. ~Victor Hugo -
I love this whole post!!! Especially the bolded part.
hlmr|1374249928|3486209 said:Oh, Junebug, that is so hard. My husband and I had to take care of his Aunt who has dementia, but it was not live in, and it was for a few years only. I totally feel for you, and hope that you can get some help for her, and extra support for you.