Do you try not to "copy" your friends jewelery?

[radiantquest]

That is quite a situation. I guess she was thinking that you cared enough about her to not when she asked you not to. Then you could have explained that you really prefer a pear shape and she should care enough about you to respect that you are not copying her, just prefer it for yourself.

If it were me I would have went ahead and got the pear. You will have to look down at the stone for the rest of your life. Do you think that she will be there everyday for the rest of your life??

 

[musey]

Date: 7/17/2009 4:44:55 PM
Author:MonkeyPie

So my question is - if a friend asked you this, would you go with their wishes or not?

You know, that''s a really really hard question. I can completely see both sides of the argument.

Last weekend I struggled with one of my best friends'' decision to name his dog what happens to be the first and only baby name I am attached to

I was genuinely upset over it and feeling like the name would be ruined for me.

Anyway, having experienced that so recently I sort of sympathize with your friend''s feeling... but also, it''s just a ring. Something that the vast majority of people barely notice, other than the flying sparklies as you move your hand. So really, your friend is likely the only one who will notice or care... but is that enough?

 

[atroop711]

Date: 7/17/2009 6:36:53 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
if you don''t want your friends copying you,then pick one of these.

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/unique-and-unusual-post-them-here.18524/

good one!

 

[Gypsy]

I highly doubt any of my friends would ask me to do this. And the friends that are close enough that I would do it for, would DEFINITELY not ask me anything of the sort. Because they flat out wouldn''t care. But if it meant that much to them of course I would, to an extent. I might not have gotten a pear halo. But I might have gotten one with baguettes. As for PS friends, I would respect that too. If someone really cared to not have their piece copied and had not posted on here, and I just saw it and loved it, but they asked me not to have one made by their vendor, I''d respect that.

 

[House Cat]

I really have to be direct here...

This is a very controlling move by the husband/friend! I didn''t know that once you purchased a certain shape of diamond, you then had a monopoly on that shape! What would have happened if they had purchased a round brilliant?

My best friend loves my OEC. She''s asking her BF for one when they get engaged. I love it!

I say, get the pear. Make yourself happy! I wouldn''t set it identical to your friend''s ring, but I certainly wouldn''t be supressing my own desires for someone like this!

 

[LGK]

You know, when I first got married I got a .25 ct OEC in an antique filigree setting. My sister got engaged, loved my ring, and I helped her find a similar set to mine- same cut, same shape, same size, same look totally. My sister in law got engaged, and I helped her find another virtually identical ring to my original one.

You know what? It flattered my socks off that both girls loved my ring enough to want the same thing for themselves. I loved being able to help them find something like what I had. My original set fell apart, and I ended up with something rather different, but it never once crossed my mind to be ticked that they "copied" my ring.

It sucks your friend is being so selfish- I really don''t know what else to call it. I like whitby''s advice. Have your fiance call to explain what''s gonna happen. Get what you love; it''s not like your ring is going to be identical anyway. If she''s really your friend, I would think she''d get over it.

 

[AprilBaby]

My best friend and I shop together. We have different taste, but we flatter each other many times by buying the same item!

 

[partgypsy]

"So my question is - if a friend asked you this, would you go with their wishes or not?"

I guess I have 2 answers,
First, it depends on how much I liked the pear. if it was one option among a number that I liked, I would try to respect her wishes and pick one of the others. On the other hand if I really fell in love with the pear, I would have a heart to heart with girlfriend to explain that it''s not about her, but that this is the best ring for me, and I would feel I would regret it if I didn''t get this ring.

Second, I can''t imagine a friend of mine requesting this of me.

 

[icekid]

I do not have any real life close friends who even remotely care about jewelry as much as I do! So there is nothing to copy

That said, I cannot imagine any of my friends even making this request! You cannot own a stone shape.

 

[MonkeyPie]

Thanks to everybody that chimed in! I kind of expected the reaction - while at the time it didn''t bother me that she asked me this, the longer I have been married and thought about it, the less I liked how easily I just brushed it off. She is a good friend, and I don''t see her nearly as much as I used to (she''s a nurse and works strange hours, and I have a typical 9-5 kind of job), so I don''t think it would make as much of a difference now if I got a pear cut ring.

I appreciate everyone''s support - I plan to start researching my dream ring and get exactly what I want.

musey, I have to say though - in your situation, I would be so bummed! Did they know that you liked that name for your future kids? I mean, you can still name your baby that someday, but I can see how it would come with the thoughts of, well, the dog.

 

[purrfectpear]

Not a chance. I''d would immediately recognize that by caving into her insecurities I would only be enabling her. I''m in charge of me, and she''s in charge of her. The sooner she comes to grips with that, the healthier she''ll be. My job in life is to take care of fulfilling my own happiness. The day I give that over to someone else is the day I might as well stop breathing.