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Do you think your peeps would be shocked...

Would your peeps be shocked at how much you have spent on your jewelry?

  • A. Yes

    Votes: 73 90.1%

  • B. No

    Votes: 8 9.9%
  • Total voters
    81
nala

nala

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At how much you have spent on your jewelry collection?
by peeps I mean friends, coworkers, family? Or do you think they have some kind of idea of how much you have spent on your treasures? I was having a morbid thought about what people would find out after I passed. Not that I am a celebrity, lol, but if DD ever disclosed to my mom, mom would tell everyone! So... it made me wonder. For the most part, I keep my collection low key—none of my family noticed my upgrade to my holy grail ring and I did not care to announce it.
 
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Absolutely - I’m very frugal in almost every other aspect of my life except for the orchids (although I’ve banned myself from buying more so can I call that being frugal?) and my pets.

This is an accurate little comic I found online.

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coworkers. I don't know. I don't discuss it or bring it up so its a non issue.
friends. some know but they are not flabbergasted by it considering.
my parents. Not really. my mom knows some, not others.
my siblings. I don't know, they're on the do not need to know list
my husband. LOL he knows but doesn't care and his is the only opinion that really matters on this list.
my dog. Really dosen't care, isn't even interested. but she knows because I tell her.
 
Oh you bet. I've kept this to myself my whole freaking life, even from my husband altho he knows I love jewellery. I wish tho, that early on I had considered getting less fluff pieces and concentrating on 10 or so really great, classic pieces. What I've spent on fluff in 35 years could have gotten a few nice quality pieces. In some ways, I feel a minimalist jewellery wardrobe would have been freeing for me over the years.
 
Yes they would be shocked and probably think I was a spoiled princess. Then they would fight over who gets which piece :lol:
 
Definitely. I would actually be so embarrassed if my family and co-workers knew about my jewelry habits. It’s bad enough that I have a bag collection but no one I know (in real life) is obsessed with jewelry like me.
I feel like a lot of people I know complain about not having money all the time too, so they probably couldn't fathom spending money on a diamond. If they found out about my jewelry collection they would not only be shocked, but they would probably judge me.
 
Hell yes and I would be in real trouble with my mum if she ever finds out about my bling habit!

Luckily she is a few time zones away!

DK :lol-2:
 
So I put yes, but I think for me the answer is a cross between “it depends” and also “yes, but for different reasons.”

My immediate family and SO wouldn’t be, because they know how much I love jewelry and where I buy from etc. I’m pretty open about talking about it, too, with them. Plus my mom is an even bigger bling addict than I am, haha.

Some of my friends, acquaintances, extended family and coworkers definitely would be. I tend to be very understated blingwise at work, so they’d be shocked at what I own. I’m guilty of passing off some of my jewelry as fake at work, for example. I also like to restrict my bling to the level of the group I’m meeting, so I have some friends who either don’t care about bling and/or they can’t afford a lot of it, so I tend to not wear expensive stuff around them either. Like I wouldn’t even wear my studs around them. I don’t “hide” my bling amongst all my social circle btw, some friends and extended family are also into bling and they wouldn’t be shocked at what I paid etc.

I do have some people in my life who I think would be shocked in the opposite way, because these are the guys who buy from some of the more expensive stores (either they buy in the west where labour is really expensive, or they buy from some “local well known stores” back in India where the price is like 1.5-2x a less well known “family jeweler”), so they think that’s what the price is, and they’d be shocked I get my things so much cheaper.
 
I think my friends would fall over if they knew how much I’d spent. Most of them are not into jewellery, so wouldn’t have a clue.
 
nope because I don't really spend money on jewerly....I am a penny pincher, makes my hubby nuts, he tells me if you want it and we can afford it get it....the only thing I splurged on so far this year is a ring reset that I haven't picked up yet and a new Lexus......(ok I like nice cars lol)
 
IDK.

I don't think my parents/sister get me that way. I am a mystery to them still I think with my bling addiction and perhaps in a few other areas ie cycling passion. They love me and like me but as far as jewelry go think I am frivolous.

As far as knowing how much I have spent I really have no clue. My mom knows jewelry so I would say maybe for her but she doesn't know my bling inventory. I never show her what I buy so she only knows my ER. Would she be surprised? Probably not. Would my sister? Probably but I cannot say for sure. I know my sister does not judge me but my mom probably does.

Do I care? Not at all.

Did my friends/colleagues ever know? No and it was/is none of their business. With the exception of PS and now real life friends who do know if they care to ask. My non PS friends don't care.
Would the friends and colleagues be shocked? Yes I think they would be. They (for the most part) have no clue what diamonds and other bling costs.

Does Greg know? Heck yes. I always run my purchases by him. Not for permission but out of mutual respect and love. He would never (I don't think) say no but I like to say hey I would like to purchase this and how do you feel about that. :)

I self impose my budget and break it all the time. :lol:
I am sorely tempted by earrings that would be more than double my self imposed budget that I have already raised a few times since I imposed it a few months ago. LOLOL. But I am resisting. @LLJsmom I am taking your wise words to heart. Help me be strong. ::):P2



ETA: I didn't vote as my answer is a mixed bag.
 
Glad to know I’m not the only one who keeps this a secret. No one I know in real life is into jewelry except my mom. I show her the new pieces I buy but she’s never judgmental about how much it is. My friends don’t really care and my coworkers aren’t really aware of how much jewelry costs, I don’t think.

I only wear a half eternity band in front of my husband’s family since my original engagement ring got stolen. My GMIL and MIL surprised me at work one time with presents for Valentine’s day and boy I never flipped my new ring so fast. I live in a small southern town and jewelry here is very modest. Even his uncle’s wife who is very well off, (as in they have an elevator in their house) only wears a plain band and a princess solitaire that’s at most 1.5ct. I always joke we are the “poorest” member of his family, but I might be the only one who spends this much on jewelry. I’m very frugal with all the other aspects of my life though. They just like to spend their money on other things like boats, vehicles, & exotic animals.
 
Yes, but only because they know I like all things sparkly and am always drooling over beautiful pieces and thinking about just exactly what I would want in this or that piece. I think they believe I spend $$$$$$ on jewelry because of that. (Well, and because they shop at big name mall jewelers who charge way too much for low quality.)
The reality is that I have a small number of pieces that mostly were great finds at great prices. My custom pendant cost less than buying anything of quality and similar feel would have.

Based on a comment made by one family member, I am pretty sure that the total of everything I have spent is less than they think I spent on each and every piece individually :lol:
 
@kayla17 I relate to your post so much.
My family & friends judge me way too much to ever be honest about what I have, that it's real, let alone the cost.
And oh a fellow bag lover here- would love to know more about your collection if you don't mind sharing.
 
I'd say no, they wouldn't be shocked but I'd be annoyed if they involved themselves with it too much in the first place tbh.

I don't know anyone who earns beyond subsistence level who doesn't spend a fair amount on extras - and a house or car costing beyond the minimum needed, travel, restaurant meals, spa days, bars, ad infinitum- are all extras. But some of them like to weirdly flatter themselves that they don't, for some reason.

I don't like that judgy, competitive stance. If I feel like I need to conceal parts of my life from someone for no good reason, they are too close.
 
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missy said:
IDK.

I don't think my parents/sister get me that way. I am a mystery to them still I think with my bling addiction and perhaps in a few other areas ie cycling passion. They love me and like me but as far as jewelry go think I am frivolous.

As far as knowing how much I have spent I really have no clue. My mom knows jewelry so I would say maybe for her but she doesn't know my bling inventory. I never show her what I buy so she only knows my ER. Would she be surprised? Probably not. Would my sister? Probably but I cannot say for sure. I know my sister does not judge me but my mom probably does.

Do I care? Not at all.

Did my friends/colleagues ever know? No and it was/is none of their business. With the exception of PS and now real life friends who do know if they care to ask. My non PS friends don't care.
Would the friends and colleagues be shocked? Yes I think they would be. They (for the most part) have no clue what diamonds and other bling costs.

Does Greg know? Heck yes. I always run my purchases by him. Not for permission but out of mutual respect and love. He would never (I don't think) say no but I like to say hey I would like to purchase this and how do you feel about that. :)

I self impose my budget and break it all the time. :lol:
I am sorely tempted by earrings that would be more than double my self imposed budget that I have already raised a few times since I imposed it a few months ago. LOLOL. But I am resisting. @LLJsmom I am taking your wise words to heart. Help me be strong. ::):P2



ETA: I didn't vote as my answer is a mixed bag.
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@missy It sounds like you should listen to @LLJsmom...Life is short...Buy your earrings...❤️
 
My son and daughter-in-law know I love bling...but they have no idea how much I have. I did tell my daughter-in-law that I need to write down what I have so in case I hit the bucket she will know what I have. She will inherit it all. She hasn’t seen most of my things. I’m afraid she’ll have a heart attack..lol
 
My husband doesn’t even realize how much I own. He would pass out, But he knows it’s my one passion. My lucky daughter in laws later in life!
 
Polabowla said:
@kayla17 I relate to your post so much.
My family & friends judge me way too much to ever be honest about what I have, that it's real, let alone the cost.
And oh a fellow bag lover here- would love to know more about your collection if you don't mind sharing.
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I have lied in the past and told family members that my jewelry was fake. Actually I have done that recently with a friend who seems to always comment on my jewelry. I never point out stuff to her but she always seems to notice. She always comments in a nice way though, but one day she introduced me to someone as her rich friend who lives in a mansion, and I was so embarrassed BC I definitely do not live in a mansion and I work as a nurse so I’m obviously not rich. Anyway I was mortified that she said that about me so I told her please never introduce me like that again. I told her it was embarrassing and it wasn’t true.
Yes I have one big diamond solitaire but I've upgraded it over 15 years to get to where it is. It’s not like we put this big chunk of change down in one sitting.

As far as bags, I have an affinity for designer bags although I don’t buy (for me at least) super expensive ones like Chanel and Hermès. I did in the past buy a few Chanel bags but I was so afraid to use them that I decided I won’t ever buy another bag that I will not use. Hence no bags over a certain amount of money. Also so I don’t feel too guilty, I've been purchasing almost new second hand bags from Fashionphile and yoogiscloset. I have a buy one, sell
one philosophy. So if I buy a new bag I need to sell one. Lately I’ve been obsessed with Gucci Soho or Matelasse bags or similar styles. I have two black, one dusty rose, one red, one white and blue, one peony, and a random ysl smog (dark Gray).
But I have really all different brands from LV to Balenciaga to miu miu.
Nice to meet a fellow bag lover here.
And see this is what I love about PS. I can talk about whatever crazy thing I’m obsessed and not feel judged. I can’t do that in real life.
 
@kayla17 good to know im not the only one who has lied about a piece of jewelry being fake.
Idk if to laugh or cry about it tbh.

I don't have chanel or hermes but i have a few nice bags & a few cheapo ones.
I did splurge & buy a very expensive one from my savings for my birthday. It’s gorgeous but im also full of guilt over buying it.
 
I think that most people I know don’t realize just how expensive jewelry can be. They might know from what they have seen at the mall that they consider it ‘expensive’ but they would not know how expensive quality pieces cost. The money is not discussed but yes, I am guessing they would be shocked at the cost. However, it isn’t their money or their choice so I don’t worry about it!
 
Yes, definitely! I just always hope that people around me won’t notice (the diamond ring, especially). I think some of them have, but just didn’t say anything.

A few have commented, but they are folks who have or can afford something similar, so I wasn’t too embarrassed.

I do often watch what I wear around some of my less well-to-do friends.
 
Forget my peeps - I shocked myself when I tallied up how much I’ve spent on jewellery over the years!

No one other than my husband and my insurance company will ever need or get any details. My non-PS friends wouldn’t care. My family would happily play the peanut gallery of Judgy McJudgeroos.
 
Yes, my parents and inlaws would be surprised and probably judgmental.

My MIL spends boatloads of money on jewelry (no exaggeration, she spends $100,000+ per year) but it is all crappy stuff from bad mall stores and online auctions. She is a sweet lady and I've tried to steer her towards nicer jewelry, but she believes in quantity over quality. She just loves to buy, buy, buy.

I remember one time when we were chatting I mentioned how fun it is to look at the beautiful antique jewelry on Lange's website. She pulled up the site and exclaimed how crazy the prices are and only fools would spend that much on a single piece of jewelry. (But she spends much more money on tons of junk that has zero resale value!!!!). :wall: And she doesn't even get pleasure from her jewelry after the purchase is made. She doesn't wear it, she just stashes it in overflowing piles in her stuffed-to-the-brim house.

So I know she'd be horrified at how much I spend on so few pieces. Quality is a concept beyond her.

And my own mom doesn't get jewelry at all. She doesn't even own an engagement ring.
 
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