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Do you suffer from the virus grumpies?

Karl_K

Karl_K

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All the doom and gloom just makes you very grumpy and easily irritated for a day or so?
 
Oh you bet! I get really foul, and my mental health is taking a beating. Anxiety is flaring like you would not believe.
 
Perhaps this explains my behaviour today.
 
Sometimes. Overall I find coping with sheltering in place quite difficult as I enjoy being outside, doing things, traveling, and spending time with friends and family. I always like to be making progress, being productive, and moving forward. I need to remind myself that all things considered, I have it better than most and to be thankful.

"Growth is not always constant forward motion. Sometimes, growth is staying still. Sometimes, growth is deep rest. Sometimes, growth is stopping to reconsider where you're headed. Sometimes, growth is letting yoursclf settle, sometimes it is letting yoursclf blossom, sometimes, it is learning how to appreciate what's already good in your life- because there is so much that you arent seeing." -Brianna Wiest
 
Gussie said:
A day or so?!? Definitely a month or so now!
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Yea that too the long term stuff.
I was thinking about beyond that for a few days.
I can handle it ok most of the time but every once in while for a couple days I slip a bit(lot) keeping on top of it.
Was wondering if it was just me.
 
Its not just you. It hits me in waves. My 3 kids at home are having trouble dealing with it. My daughter missed her in person college graduation and my son missed his high school graduation. That was really hard on them. I do my best to be upbeat for them. But some days it is hard. As a single mom My kids and I drive each other crazy sometimes but I am thankful I am not isolated alone right now. I miss being able to get together with people my own age!
 
Definitely. :(sad
 
Yes.
 
Like @asscherisme said, it comes in waves. I can be fine for days at a time and then wake in the middle of the night sobbing for no apparent reason and spend an hour getting through it. I've never experienced anything like this.

I'm a little too young for menopause, my breakup was a little too long ago, and things are pretty stable in my life. I have nothing else to which I can attribute these episodes besides the pandemic.

As far as irritability...shoot. That's a general thing of mine and when I began noticing patterns (mine happens around 4-5 pm every day) I could do something about it. Stems from childhood tension in my family. I focus on breathing and distract myself in healthy ways.

Anxiety/irritability lasting a day or so? That's always been hormonal for me, I always thought because I was a female experiencing the ups and downs of estrogen production in my body. Possibly men have similar fluctuations and maybe that's what's happening to you, @Karl_K not that I'm any sort of health care authority. I just know you have some additional stuff going on and there is emotional and physical stress in your life. Wishing you as much peace as possible.
 
I am coping, by ignoring the stupidity, negativity and ignorance of some people.
I also ignore those who preach and think they know best.
I focus on my own actions and reactions, to do the right thing. It is what is it, just get on with it. Moaning, groaning, ranting etc., would just make it harder on myself.
If I don't, I would go mental in no time.

DK :))
 
The thing that making me really grumpy is the delay getting my son settled into his new school. It's a real long story but we were just there in March after already having a ton of delays, then along comes covid......! :x2
 
A bit of sadness now and then but not really grumpies. Sad is mostly because I miss hanging out with my grandfather and cousin at the airplane. He is 85+ years old and dealing with periodic health issues. I worry we won't get it done and flying in time for him to really enjoy.

I enjoy being around the house for the most part. Lots I want to get done. Sad I can't do it all (back still healing and either that or MS causing muscle weakness) and sad DH is too sick to do much either. Sort of grateful in an odd way too though. DH is really starting to understand my fatigue I deal with and is going to forever be more understanding of life with a CPAP.
 
Honestly no.

I suffer from being very very sad right now due to other issues happening in our personal life.

My MIL is in hospice and going to leave this world any day now. Just a month ago she was strong and healthy (albeit a pacemaker) and then BAM it all changed.

And our cat Tommy is very ill and we do not yet have a diagnosis but waiting for the blood and culture results. In my heart and gut I know it is fatal whatever he has. He went 4 full days without eating and lost 1.5 lbs off his 9 lb frame. I know something is seriously wrong and he is most likely going to die soon. He is only (about) 12.5 years old. That would be 3 furry family members we lost in just 12 months.

So to answer your question no I am not grumpy about the virus. I am sad and overwhelmed about losing (and losses soon to come of) our loved ones. :(


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My MIL just 2 years ago...when she was honored for all she has done (lifetime achievement award) for the college where she was a professor for decades. She was ahead of her time. So smart and so independent. Truly an amazing and strong woman in so many ways.

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To add to my comments above and perhaps help someone else dealing with challenges at the moment.

The way I cope with all that is happening in the world and in our personal life is to take it all one day and one hour at a time. And compartmentalize to the best of my ability so we can enjoy life despite all the challenges and sadness.

Because all we are promised is the here and now and we must live in the moment and experience some joy and laugher as best we can. This is life. Some years hard and some less hard and we take joy where we can and live each moment to the best of our ability.

And when life is too overwhelming just break it up into one hour, one minute at a time. And to paraphrase my favorite saying from Winston Churchill...when going through hell just keep on going.
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
Hugs to you and Greig, Greig's dad and the kitties @missy

No time is good for this, but covid makes everything so much harder
I hope the hospice nurses are the very best for your MIL
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Thank you @Daisys and Diamonds and you are so right. Covid has made it almost impossible to get the supplies I need to care for the kitties. We are dealing with more than just Tommy being very ill. I have not shared it here on PS. And the supplies we desperately need are in very short supply due to Covid. The reason we need them has nothing to do with Covid yet here we are. Unable to get what we need in the quality we need because Covid 19 has made it all very hard to obtain. But we are doing the best we can and it is all we can do.
 
missy said:
Thank you @Daisys and Diamonds and you are so right. Covid has made it almost impossible to get the supplies I need to care for the kitties. We are dealing with more than just Tommy being very ill. I have not shared it here on PS. And the supplies we desperately need are in very short supply due to Covid. The reason we need them has nothing to do with Covid yet here we are. Unable to get what we need in the quality we need because Covid 19 has made it all very hard to obtain. But we are doing the best we can and it is all we can do.
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Oh Missy
Its so unfair this bad run (understatement) you have been having
As you say one moment at a time

I hope Greig is able to spend time with his mom and you are both able to support his dad through this worst of time

Just love dear Tommy
Love everybody

Im so sorry Missy, i wish i could do something to help
 
Thank you Daisy. My mother in law has passed. She is at peace now. It’s what she wanted. It’s the best any of us could hope for. To go on our terms. Rest In Peace momma. ❤️
 
missy said:
Thank you Daisy. My mother in law has passed. She is at peace now. It’s what she wanted. It’s the best any of us could hope for. To go on our terms. Rest In Peace momma. ❤️
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Oh Missy im so sorry

Francesca and Fred will be there to give her a cuddle
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
Oh Missy im so sorry

Francesca and Fred will be there to give her a cuddle
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Well, I appreciate that thought but she didn’t care much for cats or any animals but perhaps she’s reunited with her dh and 2 of her 3 sisters. One can only hope.

Thank you dear Daisy. ❤️
 
I did at first. I was mourning the loss of my old life and fearing the future. Honestly I coped very very very badly initially.

Now I'm back in business to a constantly adjusting "normal."

I think it helps that I'm so busy. I may see a news headline and worry but then there is always some mundane chore that needs to be sorted out. I scramble to complete those and look forward to a cuddle with my son after school, a few games of tug and a walk with the doggo and a cup of tea with my husband at night.
 
missy said:
Well, I appreciate that thought but she didn’t care much for cats or any animals but perhaps she’s reunited with her dh and 2 of her 3 sisters. One can only hope.

Thank you dear Daisy. ❤️
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My mum didn't like cats but you know how cats are with people who don't like cats ....

I bet heaven is full of cats, cat fur everywhere

But yes, with her husband now
 
missy said:
Thank you Daisy. My mother in law has passed. She is at peace now. It’s what she wanted. It’s the best any of us could hope for. To go on our terms. Rest In Peace momma. ❤
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Oh Missy, I am so, so very sorry to hear this. Much love to you & Greg xx
 
I have my moments & my brain has definitely not been busy enough, as my anxieties & worries have occasionally flared. I'm doing my best to keep things in check, eating healthily, exercising daily & doing yoga. I'm trying to focus on being in really good physical & mental shape as I edge towards Perimenopause, but Covid is certainly damaging my intentions to a degree.

I went back to work 2 weeks ago, which has helped even though the school environment is very different & currently there are only 50 children back, but my eldest daughters Year 6 group returns tomorrow. She is very excited - It's been a very long 13 weeks of no school. My youngest returns in another week. Worrying about keeping them up to date has taken it's toll, but they are both extremely intelligent, so I'm grateful they will catch up quickly.
 
@missy , I am sorry to hear the sad news.

((Hugs)) to you and Greg, healing vibes to Tommy
❤
 
Karl_K said:
All the doom and gloom just makes you very grumpy and easily irritated for a day or so?
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It did at the beginning but I realized that it was because of the type of news I was watching. Lots of dramatic music and aggressive red graphics. I'm much happier reading news than allowing myself to be caught up in the production choices of television news.

Apart from that, I was very sick for about a month and lost my dad shortly thereafter. For me, avoiding crowds and other public safety measures have been a blessing because I'm not strong enough to deal with work and people anyway. I'm using the time to heal and putter around the house cleaning and fixing things that need my attention. Are there still things that frustrate, sadden, and anger me? Sure, but resting and getting my health back on track is way more important.
 
yes I am in quite a funk and cant seem to kick it....
 
How would we fully appreciate the joyous times without suffering through the trying times?

Life is full of joy and sadness. The key is to feel all of it, but to hold onto the joy just a little more tightly.

Words to live by. Be well all!
 
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