Do you sometimes just not like a poster?!

[Imdanny]

I am NOT talking about anyone here. I SWEAR it.

But I had a run in with two (2) people on another forum that I've had run ins with 6,378 times before.

It started when one of them replied to a post of mine 1) misrepresenting what I was saying, 2) demanding I support this misrepresented thing I never said and 3) expressed a definitely hostile attitude.

As you can imagine, things got a little worse before they got better.

No rules were violated. No post reported (I didn't report any if any of my posts- oh wait, the second person did report one of my posts, but the moderators didn't bother talking to me about it).

Then 3rd person from nowhere-ville who hangs out on another forum with people who think I control the world and am teh evil (related but seperate forums with a history going back years- never mind I haven't posted at that other forum for literally years does a "pile on" playing to the crowd (I've seen this before, I even heard the same line, from the same people) "put you on public trial"/ switching over to concern troll mode when (disdainfully) confronted.

Add in cross posting of 2 moderators, various rants, private messages (mentioned but that part was unintelligible and then one from one moderator to me about Contestant #3 after I had used the "report" button to question said moderator's post in response to the first post of said Constant, Mr. Pile on- Concern Troll.

Ok, but I digress. Forgetting about the concern troll, nonentity from nowhere-ville, I was thinking about this aggravating series of events.

I know I'm not always perfect but in this instance I honestly felt that I had made a post that didn't have anything to do with the first person did 1, 2, and 3. I did feel kind of put upon by that hostility and said as much. I told this person they should put me on ignore. Then they claimed they "like" me. At that point I just kind of said have a nice day. Since I've spent the past 6 months being super- careful and unfailingly polite to this person, I didn't think I deserved it, but I felt I had to deal with it.

Apparently these two people (forgetting Contestant #3 the clueless Concern Troll because I need another schemer- drama jerk- blank blank not at all) got upset because I had said that they were "obsessed" with me and had a "grudge" against me. One of them (the one the moderators ignored) claimed it was a personal attack, and she reported me, get this- today- even though I said that about her (and I stand by what I said) two weeks ago. I guess we could call her Pile On Contestant #2.

What I came up with is that maybe certain people just don't like each other, like two dogs who naturally just don't like each other, they growl at each other, I don't know what it is, but maybe we're just not wired to like everyone.

I'd be interested in any thoughts anyone has and thank you so very much for letting me vent. I had a rough morning on the intertubes and I has a sad.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

I think it's natural to come across personalities that you don't mesh well with. It could just be an inherent quality of that specific personality or it could be that the person has done something to make you not like them. And yes, there are some people that I just do not like for whatever reason.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

Yes.

 

[iheartscience]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

Ha, your "I has a sad" line made me laugh! I think it's totally normal to just not like people, even over the internet. Some personalities just clash-it's the way of the world.

Even more common, in my opinion, is just not "clicking" with people. For example, I play on a co-ed soccer team and my sister is pretty good friends with one of the guys, hangs out with him outside of soccer, etc. For some reason he and I just don't really click. I'll make a joke, he won't get it, and vice versa. We don't dislike each other but we just don't really click with each other, either.

Anyway, no need for the sad. I don't expect everyone to like me and I'm sure they don't!

 

[TravelingGal]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

Hm. Strange, but when I think about it, no one on PS rubs me (consistently) the wrong way. And since it's the only forum I frequent, I guess I have to say there really aren't any posters I don't like. Plenty I don't agree with, but none I really feel any animosity toward. I don't hold grudges so I guess that helps.

 

[monarch64]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

Frequently.

 

[Haven]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

Yes. I think it's totally normal to dislike some posters and agree with everything Thing said about it.

I think that your experience with these people who dislike you on another forum is abnormal. They do sound a bit obsessed with disliking you, if that makes sense. I'm sorry that is happening. (You've posted about them before, no? They sound like they need a hobby.)

There are a couple regular posters here on PS who don't like me. They've never said it, of course, but I can tell by the way people respond to me, or ignore my posts in general. It doesn't bother me, because I think it's inevitable.

 

[betty6333]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

Yep, another forum I belong to had a gentleman who insisted on being devils advocate ALL THE FRIGGIN time! luckily they had an ignore function, and I now post happily and the particular person never drives me nuts anymore!

esp when people are little trolls, it really gets on my nerves, but I still try to ignore it as much as possible.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Re: Do sometimes just not like a poster?!

Of course. Just like in real life!

Is the other forum where this happened a close-knit community? Or prone to group think? I sometimes post on another forum--it's a pet forum--but the members don't think as independently as PSers. It's still a valuable community and a great resource, but in general the community sort of follows one train of thought and if you challenge one of the worshipped members, the whole community i-stones you. And once you've been branded as a "bad apple", your reputation sticks.

I do find that some forums are just full of people who think the same way so they can be condescending towards those who don't. It's one of the reasons I like PS--it's an education-based forum, so people usually arrive here because they're thinking independently to begin with.

 

[Steel]

Nope.

But I have been, and still am abused by others who do not like me. I think it is childish.

 

[MissMina]

Yes but I just give thanks that they are not related to me nor do they live next door.

 

[zoebartlett]

Yes. I generally get along with everyone, even when I don't agree with their views on certain things, but one poster's "advice" to a one time poster a while back made my jaw drop. Every time I see this person post, it reminds me of that and I cringe.

 

[Haven]

Yes. I generally get along with everyone, even when I don't agree with their views on certain things, but one poster's "advice" to a one time poster a while back made my jaw drop. Every time I see this person post, it reminds me of that and I cringe.

You've mentioned this before Zoe and it has me so curious each time I see it! I'm not asking you to spill, I'm just telling you that I am DYING to know!

 

[kenny]

Maybe I can turn this into a positive.

Carl Jung said something to the effect of, we can learn a great deal about ourselves from the people who annoy us the most.
I think that's one of the most clever things I've ever read.

I try to ponder my own buttons when others push them.
Over time I've managed to disconnect the wires going to some of my buttons, though I still have more to go.
(Also BTW I read the thread in question.)

 

[Haven]

Maybe I can turn this into a positive.

Carl Jung said something to the effect of, we can learn a great deal about ourselves from the people who annoy us the most.

I try to ponder my own buttons when others push them.
Over time I've managed to disconnect the wires going to some of my buttons, though I still have more to go.
(Also BTW I read the thread in question.)

I think you're right, Kenny. I posted something similar in your thread about making judgments, but alas, the thread has been inactive since my post.

 

[kenny]

Thanks Haven.
I forgot to add that what I posted takes it deeper than the level of paying any attention to who's to blame or who's right or wrong.
It is about how to not be driven crazy by others (over whom we have no control anyway).

 

[oranges]

i feel like 99% of people on PS have great intentions and are very supportive, even when they are doling out constructive criticism or a clashing opinion. once in a while there is a bad seed--i joined pricescope about a year ago and only actively started participating rather recently, so i haven't been around long enough to really get a feel for most of the posters. however, one poster (who said she was leaving PS recently) totally rubbed me the wrong way and i'm totally convinced that she works for or represents a specific company. other than that, i really like everyone

 

[Maria D]

There are people on this forum that I just can't stand. It could be the tone they use or what they appear to think is important in life or maybe just everyone else likes them and I can't figure out why. And THEN they will write something that I *agree* with in every way -- wish I had written it myself -- and that just pisses me off more!

 

[zoebartlett]

Yes. I generally get along with everyone, even when I don't agree with their views on certain things, but one poster's "advice" to a one time poster a while back made my jaw drop. Every time I see this person post, it reminds me of that and I cringe.

You've mentioned this before Zoe and it has me so curious each time I see it! I'm not asking you to spill, I'm just telling you that I am DYING to know!

I just actually looked for the post and it wasn't under this person's name. I'm guessing it was either a) removed or b) over a year old (The search function doesn't let you go back further than that.). I'd rather not say exactly what it was, but the one time poster posted about his or her concern regarding a loved one's illness. The person I'm referring to gave rather inappropriate "advice."

 

[vbnet]

Maybe I can turn this into a positive.

Carl Jung said something to the effect of, we can learn a great deal about ourselves from the people who annoy us the most.
I think that's one of the most clever things I've ever read.

I try to ponder my own buttons when others push them.
Over time I've managed to disconnect the wires going to some of my buttons, though I still have more to go.
(Also BTW I read the thread in question.)

I really like this and am going to try to live by it. Thanks Kenny!

 

[kenny]

That will be $185.
I accept VISA and AmEx.

 

[Nashville]

Yes, certainly. Sometimes I read people's "voice" online and just know I don't like them. There's no reason or logic behind it usually. It just is. People who are condescending or confrontational, passive aggressive. There's just no need, yanno? (BTW I'm NOT referencing any users here, this was mainly on an adoption forum I used to be a member of).

I actually bailed out on my other forums because I felt I was becoming too judgmental against people I've never even met. I find PS rewarding because I'm working on a project and there is tons of knowledge to be had if you have a good attitude it seems.

 

[Tuckins1]

Yes.

 

[Laila619]

Of course. It's normal.

Just like there are co-workers or friends' spouses or what have you that I don't click with.

 

[steph72276]

Not really. I can really dislike a post from a person, but then get along fine with them in an unrelated thread.

 

[Yimmers]

i feel like 99% of people on PS have great intentions and are very supportive, even when they are doling out constructive criticism or a clashing opinion. once in a while there is a bad seed--i joined pricescope about a year ago and only actively started participating rather recently, so i haven't been around long enough to really get a feel for most of the posters. however, one poster (who said she was leaving PS recently) totally rubbed me the wrong way and i'm totally convinced that she works for or represents a specific company. other than that, i really like everyone

Now Oranges, whoever could you be referring to, lol!

Sometimes, I get annoyed when threads degenerate into something completely off topic, but I can't say too many here at PS annoy me. Then again, I don't ever look at the other forums which involve discussion of politics and other heavy topics. People are entitled to their own opinions. Some people are more tactful than others. Some are blunt. Sometimes, I think, just grow a thicker skin. Generally, I think most people are pretty nice on this forum. If they weren't, I'd probably have left a long time ago.

 

[Maisie]

I don't like a couple of posters but not enough to be that bothered over it. I get more irritated when a relative newbie tells me off for something I have said. I don't think I have any more right to be here than anyone else but its still annoying when someone who hasn't been around very long tells me I can't say something.

 

[oranges]

i feel like 99% of people on PS have great intentions and are very supportive, even when they are doling out constructive criticism or a clashing opinion. once in a while there is a bad seed--i joined pricescope about a year ago and only actively started participating rather recently, so i haven't been around long enough to really get a feel for most of the posters. however, one poster (who said she was leaving PS recently) totally rubbed me the wrong way and i'm totally convinced that she works for or represents a specific company. other than that, i really like everyone

Now Oranges, whoever could you be referring to, lol!

Sometimes, I get annoyed when threads degenerate into something completely off topic, but I can't say too many here at PS annoy me. Then again, I don't ever look at the other forums which involve discussion of politics and other heavy topics. People are entitled to their own opinions. Some people are more tactful than others. Some are blunt. Sometimes, I think, just grow a thicker skin. Generally, I think most people are pretty nice on this forum. If they weren't, I'd probably have left a long time ago.

That obvious?

 

[zhuzhu]

I don't think I really dislike any forum members whom I have never met in person. Disliking people takes too much energy that I am already short on!

However, their negative postings and attitude can sometimes trigger feelings reminding me of the people in my REAL WORLD that I dislike intensely. Still I recongnize that it is not the online "mouth" I dislike, but the real people I know. They just associate with one another.

Of course there are people who sometimes attacks me or being mean in my threads. I just ignore them as it reflects more about them than me.

 

[joflier]

Every now and then there is a poster who just seems to rub me the wrong way. Be it their words, or just the tone of those words. Infrequent, but it happens.