Do you really want to know? I mean REALLY??

[trillionaire]

Date: 2/10/2010 6:51:50 PM
Author: fiery
FACT:

My cousin posted an update the other day that said: On the couch, kitchen table, and bathroom counter.

I only FB from my Blackberry (don't have internet at home) so I don't get alerts for games and thought this was another game.

It was not and whatever it is that you are imagining in your head as to what she could mean by that status is EXACTLY what it meant

I have an internal battle with my own status updates. I have a lot of PS mom friends on there so I post updates on DD all the time. But I also have a lot of single or newlywed friends and coworkers that don't really care too much about what puree my DD loved so I wonder if they get annoyed by it. But when I put a regular update I wonder if my PS mom friends are going

, I don't get it.

LOL

Just FYI, there was a thing going around FB recently where you were supposed to post like your cousin did, but about where you put your purse when you came home. It was supposed to be intentionally suggestive, and my cousin sent it to me, but I have to many 'serious people' in my network to do such a thing. So, I'm going to guess it was something similiar, not where she was doing, um, adult things... but you know your cousin better than me. I also had a friend warn people that if their address was on FB, they should not be posting where they leave their personal items, so apparently this 'game' was getting around...

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/10/2010 9:03:58 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 2/10/2010 8:52:20 PM
Author: Laila619
I like and enjoy them for the most part, except the moms on my feed who only post endless crap about their kids'' eating and potty habits. Oy!

Seriously, no one wants to read that Billy went potty on the big boy toilet today, lol.

actually I disagree - when I made all of my online mommy friends 10 years ago we used to have entire threads about potty training - a post about a success was shared by all! So while I totally get that anyone not interested in the topic could easily think no one could possibly be interested in the topic - it''s not true.

Ha, sadly true.

I never post that kind of stuff to my IRL friends. Heck, I don''t think I even post too much to my PS Mom friends. But I love hearing about the kids from the PS Moms whose kids Amelia is "growing up" with. Most of the stuff is junk that no one is interested in except other toddler moms. But I have an account for *just* that reason. It allows me to be the cool, hip mom to my IRL friends and they are spared any updates on my kid.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

TGal, I am like you with two accounts. I hardly EVER go on my real account. I also post things on my other account I would be so embarrassed to on my real one b/c I know 99.9% of people don''t care. Somehow it seems acceptable with my mommy friends. Even encouraged!

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 2/10/2010 11:01:27 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
TGal, I am like you with two accounts. I hardly EVER go on my real account. I also post things on my other account I would be so embarrassed to on my real one b/c I know 99.9% of people don''t care. Somehow it seems acceptable with my mommy friends. Even encouraged!

I think it''s wonderful what you guys have going - I am part of a group that discussed the exact same things through pregnancy and young childhood... but you guys are right that most people don''t want to hear it. I remember having threads that were dozens of posts long about the color and texture of infant poop - and as you see some people don''t even want to know that the kid vaguely made it into the toilet! lol

Now we talk about grades and attitudes and relationships and non-kid topics. One of the women I met is one of my two best friends in the whole world - the kind of friend that takes two cats and a labrador when you move to china lol You guys are lucky to have created a group like this for yourselves

 

[honey22]

Date: 2/10/2010 8:52:20 PM
Author: Laila619
I like and enjoy them for the most part, except the moms on my feed who only post endless crap about their kids'' eating and potty habits. Oy!

Seriously, no one wants to read that Billy went potty on the big boy toilet today, lol.

I hear ya!!! I CAN''T STAND people that update their status every 5 minutes and it''s constantly about their baby. I mean, I know that the world revolves around your first child to a new Mum, but come on, there must be something else in life to write! No matter how cute your kid is, no-one wants to hear about them ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 2/11/2010 2:21:40 AM
Author: honey22

Date: 2/10/2010 8:52:20 PM

Author: Laila619

I like and enjoy them for the most part, except the moms on my feed who only post endless crap about their kids'' eating and potty habits. Oy!

Seriously, no one wants to read that Billy went potty on the big boy toilet today, lol.

I hear ya!!! I CAN''T STAND people that update their status every 5 minutes and it''s constantly about their baby. I mean, I know that the world revolves around your first child to a new Mum, but come on, there must be something else in life to write! No matter how cute your kid is, no-one wants to hear about them ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Date: 2/11/2010 2:21:40 AM
Author: honey22

Date: 2/10/2010 8:52:20 PM

Author: Laila619

I like and enjoy them for the most part, except the moms on my feed who only post endless crap about their kids'' eating and potty habits. Oy!

Seriously, no one wants to read that Billy went potty on the big boy toilet today, lol.

I hear ya!!! I CAN''T STAND people that update their status every 5 minutes and it''s constantly about their baby. I mean, I know that the world revolves around your first child to a new Mum, but come on, there must be something else in life to write! No matter how cute your kid is, no-one wants to hear about them ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Some people blog for themselves, as a record of their own events, as snippets to one particular person like a husband or group of people like grandparents. Just because they aren''t catering to YOUR desires doesn''t make what they''re doing wrong in any way. If you don''t like what *they* want to talk about - unfriend them.

 

[Phoenix]

Date: 2/10/2010 6:37:38 PM
Author:TravelingGal
I know many of us are on networking sites. My question is, how much do you REALLY enjoy the updates?

I have two FB accounts. One for my IRL friends and another for a small group of PS moms so we can post pics of the kiddies. Interestingly, I am on my PSFB account far more, and enjoy it.

But when it comes to my IRL account, ack! All the people I would really be interested in hearing about their lives, for some reason never update. The ones who are updating tell me what they are eating, if they have bad gas, 100's of pics of their kids that weren't even picked through and dumped straight from the camera to FB.

I have to wonder...WHY do people think others are interested in the minutiae of their lives? Is it ego? Boredom? Attention seeking?

OR...ARE people REALLY interested in that stuff?

Gak. I miss the days when people would call to catch up. Or even head to dinner. I've actually heard people catch up in person by saying, 'You say my FB updates, right?'

LOL, I'd say a bit of all of those.

Interestingly, we don't get FB in China (it's banned here along with Twitter). I must say I don't miss it at all, as I started to sign on to FB just before we left Singapore; and there's this one gal who *always* posts pics of her and her BF on FB, and a very detailed account of what they get up to on a day-to-day basis as well as where they've been / are going to. I mean the woman must have posted hundreds of pics complete with narrative, I mean literally, in the short space of time I was actively on FB (I'd say abt a couple of weeks). Apprarently, I hear from other friends that this woman is still going on and on abt her and her BF. Seriously, YAWN!!!

 

[noelwr]

I don''t have a FB account as I have an obsessive personality and I could see that totally getting out of control.

but, DH has one and he tells me about his friends updating their status every hour. these I don''t understand:

"I''m SO busy at work." ok, then why are you on FB instead of finishing your work?

"I''m SO sick." ok, then why aren''t you in bed getting better? even if you can take your laptop to be, if you feel like crap, you wouldn''t feel like being online.

he also gets annoyed with people using FB to preach religion.

people create FB accounts for their pets??? seriously???

FB isn''t a true networking site to me. I think Linked In is better if you want to network professionally and not be constantly bombarded by unimportant messages.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 2/11/2010 4:15:39 AM
Author: noelwr
I don''t have a FB account as I have an obsessive personality and I could see that totally getting out of control.

but, DH has one and he tells me about his friends updating their status every hour. these I don''t understand:


''I''m SO busy at work.'' ok, then why are you on FB instead of finishing your work?


''I''m SO sick.'' ok, then why aren''t you in bed getting better? even if you can take your laptop to be, if you feel like crap, you wouldn''t feel like being online.


he also gets annoyed with people using FB to preach religion.


people create FB accounts for their pets??? seriously???

FB isn''t a true networking site to me. I think Linked In is better if you want to network professionally and not be constantly bombarded by unimportant messages.

ahhh but see you are referring to a professional networking site and facebook is a social networking site.

And phoenix - we have facebook in China american vpn!

 

[Maisie]

I have a fb account for my ps friends and one for my real life friends. I hardly ever log into the RL friends account. I love my PS account and I have all my favourite people on there. I love reading what people are getting up to... especially Aimee who is always going home early from work and how her tummy is acting up!

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

FB is really annoying me at the moment. The only account I look at regularly is my PS mommies friends account.

I actually find myself liking one or two of my friends rather less because of the constant stream of drivel they feel the need to post on FB.

I usually only post status updates occasionally, and if the thing I''m posting is something I''d say to all of the people on my friend list in person.

I really hate when people post their group photos, or photos of me without appropriate privacy settings. I have one friend who persists in doing this, including scanned pics of us growing up. She also wants the world to know when she''s tired, hungry, drinking tea, having wine or feeling happy / sad etc. My most hated thing is when she types out the lyrics of some song. WHY?! Drives me nuts and I find myself gritting my teeth when I see her (constant) pointless updates. I don''t even feel like I can hide her updates because she''s one of my closest friends. A totally different, lovely and wonderful person when she isn''t on sodding fb. Grrr.

 

[Lauren8211]

I am one of the few who actually loves hearing about the minutiae of peoples lives. Maybe it''s just because I have friends who are particularly hilarious, but I love hearing it. I love hearing the random inner thoughts people have while going about their day. I love to hear about my pregnant friends and see their baby bumps. If you''re sick, I want to know! If you had a bad day, sure, I''ll hear about it. If you tripped in the grocery store parking lot and broke your eggs, I''ll be happy to make fun of you. I just find it all very interesting.

I also find it strange that people who have no interest in this stuff even have a Facebook account. You read it and then get annoyed - why bother? If it''s just a few people, there is obviously the "hide" button, but if you get annoyed at the little details every time you log on, I''d say Facebook isn''t for you!

Post away, people! I like it!

 

[Phoenix]

Date: 2/11/2010 5:28:46 AM
Author: Cehrabehra



ahhh but see you are referring to a professional networking site and facebook is a social networking site.

And phoenix - we have facebook in China american vpn!

Really? How does one log onto FB in China? And what does "American vpn" mean? Is that some kind of p/word? I tried but was not successful!

Sorry for the threadjack, TGal.

 

[Laila619]

Date: 2/11/2010 2:21:40 AM
Author: honey22

Date: 2/10/2010 8:52:20 PM
Author: Laila619
I like and enjoy them for the most part, except the moms on my feed who only post endless crap about their kids'' eating and potty habits. Oy!

Seriously, no one wants to read that Billy went potty on the big boy toilet today, lol.

I hear ya!!! I CAN''T STAND people that update their status every 5 minutes and it''s constantly about their baby. I mean, I know that the world revolves around your first child to a new Mum, but come on, there must be something else in life to write! No matter how cute your kid is, no-one wants to hear about them ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Exactly honey22! I know there are other exciting things going on in their lives, but you never hear about them.

 

[CurlySue]

Date: 2/11/2010 9:07:21 AM
Author: elledizzy5
I am one of the few who actually loves hearing about the minutiae of peoples lives. Maybe it''s just because I have friends who are particularly hilarious, but I love hearing it. I love hearing the random inner thoughts people have while going about their day. I love to hear about my pregnant friends and see their baby bumps. If you''re sick, I want to know! If you had a bad day, sure, I''ll hear about it. If you tripped in the grocery store parking lot and broke your eggs, I''ll be happy to make fun of you. I just find it all very interesting.

I also find it strange that people who have no interest in this stuff even have a Facebook account. You read it and then get annoyed - why bother? If it''s just a few people, there is obviously the ''hide'' button, but if you get annoyed at the little details every time you log on, I''d say Facebook isn''t for you!

Post away, people! I like it!

I''m with elle... I don''t understand why people who hate status updates even use FB. I enjoy all the updates, particularly b/c I really like all of the people I''m friends with on FB. And most of them don''t live near me, so it''s the best way for us to stay connected. They are witty and creative people, and generally have cool stuff going on in their lives. And if someone starts bugging me? Yeah, I just hide their stuff or delete them as friends. No biggie.

Interestingly enough, there are some people I''ve become closer to because of FB. I learned things about people that made me realize we have more in common than I thought.


As far as people that only post about their job or their boyfriend or whatever... well, we all go through phases in life where certain things are more important than others. If someone is totally engrossed in mommy-hood, for example - well, more power to them. I may be there myself someday, so I try to appreciate it for what it is. And - hey - if I have questions or need advice some day, I''ll know who to go to.

 

[elrohwen]

I've been on Facebook since my sophomore year in college. Back then, Facebook was great and I think I would've enjoyed the status update part (there were no status updates then). As a college student, you spend every minute on your computer and doing things like status updates are common (just like leaving away messages on instant messenger). Now, as an adult, I really don't use it at all. Occasionally I'll log on to check out someone's pictures or something, but I never update my status (don't use Twitter or anything either). It just seems so pointless and I'm sure nobody cares what boring thing I'm doing with my life. I kind of like reading other peoples' updates sometimes though! I'm not obsessed with it, but when I'm bored it can be fun to glance down the list and see what other people are up to.

I have friends well into their 30s who just got Facebook within the last year or two. They update their status all the time!! I must admit, some are pretty funny and I will log on occasionally to see what they wrote, but usually we (DH and I) just make fun of them for being so addicted to Facebook at their age

 

[jewelz617]

If you don''t like getting updates about people, then don''t have FB! That''s kind of the POINT of social networking

And if I want to update about what milestones my daughter is hitting, or what new foods she tried, or if she moved into a big girl bed, those are things our family out of state loves to hear about. That''s the whole point of having something like FB. It gives people you can''t see often a glimpse into your daily life. Well, guess what? I''m a mom, and that IS my daily life.

Sorry, but this thread is a little judgmental...

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 2/11/2010 6:12:17 AM
Author: Maisie
I have a fb account for my ps friends and one for my real life friends. I hardly ever log into the RL friends account. I love my PS account and I have all my favourite people on there. I love reading what people are getting up to... especially Aimee who is always going home early from work and how her tummy is acting up!

LOL my life is so exciting, I know!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 2/11/2010 9:54:28 AM
Author: MonkeyPie

Date: 2/11/2010 6:12:17 AM

Author: Maisie

I have a fb account for my ps friends and one for my real life friends. I hardly ever log into the RL friends account. I love my PS account and I have all my favourite people on there. I love reading what people are getting up to... especially Aimee who is always going home early from work and how her tummy is acting up!

LOL my life is so exciting, I know!

I just want to work where you do! They sound awesome!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

My PSFB and RLFB are one in the same. I would say the majority of people who are "ignored" on FB are real life folks. I use the ignore feature a great deal and I have no problem with people using it on me either. I''m not one of those people who only has an exclusive list of friends. To me, the more the merrier. I have people from summer camp and elementary school as friends because they''re people I want to have the option of keeping in touch with. But I don''t care to see that their child had a BM according to schedule. I love my PSFB friends, it adds to the feeling of community to get to know people better and on a more personal level and to me the risks of crazies finding me are worth it.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 2/11/2010 10:00:04 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
My PSFB and RLFB are one in the same. I would say the majority of people who are ''ignored'' on FB are real life folks. I use the ignore feature a great deal and I have no problem with people using it on me either. I''m not one of those people who only has an exclusive list of friends. To me, the more the merrier. I have people from summer camp and elementary school as friends because they''re people I want to have the option of keeping in touch with. But I don''t care to see that their child had a BM according to schedule. I love my PSFB friends, it adds to the feeling of community to get to know people better and on a more personal level and to me the risks of crazies finding me are worth it.

What about my BM sched?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 2/10/2010 11:37:55 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 2/10/2010 11:01:27 PM

Author: Tacori E-ring

TGal, I am like you with two accounts. I hardly EVER go on my real account. I also post things on my other account I would be so embarrassed to on my real one b/c I know 99.9% of people don''t care. Somehow it seems acceptable with my mommy friends. Even encouraged!

I think it''s wonderful what you guys have going - I am part of a group that discussed the exact same things through pregnancy and young childhood... but you guys are right that most people don''t want to hear it. I remember having threads that were dozens of posts long about the color and texture of infant poop - and as you see some people don''t even want to know that the kid vaguely made it into the toilet! lol


Now we talk about grades and attitudes and relationships and non-kid topics. One of the women I met is one of my two best friends in the whole world - the kind of friend that takes two cats and a labrador when you move to china lol You guys are lucky to have created a group like this for yourselves

I agree

I think when you are part of a site like PS for years you kinda get attached to people but some stuff it too personal to share on such a public forum. I hope we continue to stay connected through those scary teenage years. Maybe someday our kids will even be members of PS. That is kinda cool to think about. And you are right! That IS a good friend!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 2/11/2010 10:06:42 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 2/11/2010 10:00:04 AM

Author: Hudson_Hawk

My PSFB and RLFB are one in the same. I would say the majority of people who are ''ignored'' on FB are real life folks. I use the ignore feature a great deal and I have no problem with people using it on me either. I''m not one of those people who only has an exclusive list of friends. To me, the more the merrier. I have people from summer camp and elementary school as friends because they''re people I want to have the option of keeping in touch with. But I don''t care to see that their child had a BM according to schedule. I love my PSFB friends, it adds to the feeling of community to get to know people better and on a more personal level and to me the risks of crazies finding me are worth it.

What about my BM sched?

That only applies to real life acquaintances.

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 2/11/2010 4:15:39 AM
Author: noelwr
people create FB accounts for their pets??? seriously???

There''s a site called Bunspace which is like FB for bunnies

I wouldn''t make my bunny an actual FB account, but he does have a Bunspace account where I''ve added other bunnies from the forum I''m on. Haha. I rarely go on it, but sometimes it''s fun to surf around and look at other cute bunnies

 

[janinegirly]

Date: 2/10/2010 6:37:38 PM
Author:TravelingGal
I know many of us are on networking sites. My question is, how much do you REALLY enjoy the updates?

I have two FB accounts. One for my IRL friends and another for a small group of PS moms so we can post pics of the kiddies. Interestingly, I am on my PSFB account far more, and enjoy it.

But when it comes to my IRL account, ack! All the people I would really be interested in hearing about their lives, for some reason never update. The ones who are updating tell me what they are eating, if they have bad gas, 100''s of pics of their kids that weren''t even picked through and dumped straight from the camera to FB.

I have to wonder...WHY do people think others are interested in the minutiae of their lives? Is it ego? Boredom? Attention seeking?

OR...ARE people REALLY interested in that stuff?

Gak. I miss the days when people would call to catch up. Or even head to dinner. I''ve actually heard people catch up in person by saying, ''You say my FB updates, right?''

Gosh I couldn''t agree with you more!! Early on I got a kick out of FB (my "real" non Mom account) and seeing what old friends were doing/looked like. But now I find it quite annoying. It has become a tool (for some, not all) to self promote without any kind of verification. And some iof it I really do NOT care to know. It is particuarly annoying from those who have a flair for the drama..everything is an urgent update! I''ve stopped being interatctive on it as a result--more a lurker now. I''m more involed in the mommy account now..isn''t that funny?

 

[Lauren8211]

My cat Ferris has a fan page!

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 2/11/2010 10:00:04 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
My PSFB and RLFB are one in the same. I would say the majority of people who are ''ignored'' on FB are real life folks. I use the ignore feature a great deal and I have no problem with people using it on me either. I''m not one of those people who only has an exclusive list of friends. To me, the more the merrier. I have people from summer camp and elementary school as friends because they''re people I want to have the option of keeping in touch with. But I don''t care to see that their child had a BM according to schedule. I love my PSFB friends, it adds to the feeling of community to get to know people better and on a more personal level and to me the risks of crazies finding me are worth it.

How does one join the super elite PS FB club?

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 2/11/2010 10:25:15 AM
Author: elledizzy5
My cat Ferris has a fan page!

I should make one for Cleo and they can be bestest friends

I certainly have plenty of pictures of her!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 2/11/2010 10:26:35 AM
Author: elrohwen

Date: 2/11/2010 10:00:04 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
My PSFB and RLFB are one in the same. I would say the majority of people who are ''ignored'' on FB are real life folks. I use the ignore feature a great deal and I have no problem with people using it on me either. I''m not one of those people who only has an exclusive list of friends. To me, the more the merrier. I have people from summer camp and elementary school as friends because they''re people I want to have the option of keeping in touch with. But I don''t care to see that their child had a BM according to schedule. I love my PSFB friends, it adds to the feeling of community to get to know people better and on a more personal level and to me the risks of crazies finding me are worth it.

How does one join the super elite PS FB club?

Mad sleuthin skillz...

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

They find me and send me cookies!