Do you ever get comments from people re: jewelry?

[butterfly 17]

The other day I was at work and one of the new younger nurses commented on my wedding set. I was wearing my Tiffany and Co. set and she asked me why my diamond was so small. It''s .55 carats.

I told her it was just one of my sets and smiled.

She is always complaining when someone gets engaged, married, etc. at work and keeps saying, "when am I getting my ring!". I know she really wants to get engaged, but I thought it was really rude to comment on the size of my diamond. There''s really no excuse for it.

I was really surprised that she said that to me because three of the girls got engaged within the year and their diamonds are not that large and I can''t see her saying that to them.

I just chalk it up to jealousy! lol.

 

[setell]

I haven''t received any rude comments yet and my FMIL is too far away so all we do is chat on msn! No harsh words from her

but she did try really hard on the phone to get me not to return the ring my FI proposed with. Oh well too bad so sad it''s been return and I''m wearing a much better and beautiful ring I created. When she saw the ring, she totally agree with me it''s gorgeous too and well worth the wait

I have the opposite problem as some of you ladies, my FI wanted to buy me a larger diamond but I insisted on a smaller one. I want to save the rest of the cash towards a good downpayment and what I have is already really nice and sparkly. On a side note, my cousin did say my diamond was puny and said when she gets engaged she wants a honking huge rock that will cover her whole finger (I estimated it to be min. 3ct''s to do that). I told her that she better start saving now or find herself a millionaire then if she wants a rock that big! Not sure if she got offended as she''s stopped talking to me lately but I wasn''t offended as I got the ring I want and it''s perfect! What''s sad is, my cousin that wants a huge rock is in a super bad financial situation and just wants a big rock to "show off" that she snag a weathly/successful man. ''sigh'' when will people learn that large diamond does not equal that you''re somehow ''better''.

Even people that hate my ring I brush it off as everybody has different tastes. I kill them with kindness and tell them the hot deal I got it for then they burn with jealousy

 

[CaliSun]

Date: 10/19/2009 12:33:51 PM
Author: Haven
Just kill them with kindness.

Nasty comments come from a nasty place. I think the best response is a big, gracious smile and something benign like ''Oh, my little upgrade? I feel so blessed to be able to wear something so beautiful.''

The moment you say something cutting back you lose all poise in the situation, IMO.

ETA: You asked if we ever get comments like this. I don''t, no. People have made passive aggressive comments before along the lines of calling my set flashy, but I pay them no mind. So not worth it.

What better response than to show you appreciate and love your sparklies!

OP: I don''t yet have my upgrade, but admit that I''m concerned our families will have their comments - both positive and negative. Especially my MIL, since my original ER came from her side of the family. So, I''ve been trying to think of things in defense of my new set to help justify it, which is just so wrong.

Enjoy your rings - I agree with the earlier posters - Those pooper comments are just jealousy.