Do you buy your own?

[reader]

Even if you aren't in a relationship, do you or would you buy, your own sizeable diamond ring?

 

[JewelFreak]

Oh yeah! Or any other stone.

My husband wouldn't dare buy me jewelry, even a ring. He has zero, zip, nil, taste in jewelry & has the grace to realize it! He doesn't squawk (much) when I buy my own, even as the tab has risen with the years, good sport that he is.

--- Laurie

 

[lyra]

Absolutely, why not? If you can afford it and it makes you happy I see no issue at all. It's really hard to have diamonds as a hobby due to the expense, but whatever. I've always love geology, rocks and minerals, so why not diamonds and coloured stones too.

 

[elrohwen]

Absolutely! Well, except that I'm really cheap, so the chances I'll buy myself any jewelry are slim, but if I get any it will be because I bought it. The chances DH will be buying me any diamonds during our marriage are zero - he knows I'd want to pick it out myself and he's cheaper than me anyway

 

[Tanzigrrl]

Yes, I'm buying my own upgraded e-ring. He has opened his wallet for colored stones, but he's not into diamonds so those are "on me." I have no problem whatsoever purchasing my own diamond jewelry.

 

[Liane]

Something tells me "no" is definitely the minority answer around these parts.

 

[TravelingGal]

Something tells me "no" is definitely the minority answer around these parts.

ding ding!

If I wanted another diamond, I'd buy it. But I don't. However, I do buy my own jewelry, some of which costs a pretty penny. It comes out of my "fun" account and my husband supports my habit. It's also been much easier to justify now that I have a daughter because hopefully it will live on with her!

 

[dragonfly411]

I already did.

 

[athenaworth]

Totally. DH just gives me the budget and lets me go. I sorta love it. And even when I was single, I bought myself tons of maul rings (not knowing better). I so love my sparklies.

 

[kelpie]

All the time. My belief is a lady should not wait and wish for a man to buy her jewelry, she should make it happen herself if she wants it.

 

[Maisie]

I think I am in the minority. I wouldn't buy a solitaire or anything that looks like an engagement ring. I would buy bands or diamond earrings though.

 

[Jennifer W]

Yes, I like to get myself pieces to represent stages in my life, achievements and events. I prefer to fund these myself. If I've gained a degree or got a job, I don't really want another person to buy that celebratory piece, since it's about me.

I don't really equate diamonds with relationships, since I had some nice diamonds long before I ever had a relationship.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

All the time. My belief is a lady should not wait and wish for a man to buy her jewelry, she should make it happen herself if she wants it.

Same...if I wanted around for my DH to buy me something, I'd be diamond nekked all my life!

The deal is he's NOT into jewelry at all, so if I want something he hands me the $ and I buy the item I'm wanting. With my earrings, he gave me a budget and gave them a 2 second glance after they arrived in the box. hahaha (ETA - he did insist I get the best quality I could find for that amount, however, as he does recognize that there is a difference between good and not so good stones!)

But, technically he does buy my jewelry since he pays for it!

 

[TravelingGal]

All the time. My belief is a lady should not wait and wish for a man to buy her jewelry, she should make it happen herself if she wants it.

Yes. Because if it happens, and HE'S the one who chooses and buys it for you, there is a high probability that it will be fugly.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

All the time. My belief is a lady should not wait and wish for a man to buy her jewelry, she should make it happen herself if she wants it.

Yes. Because if it happens, and HE'S the one who chooses and buys it for you, there is a high probability that it will be fugly.

Yep, and if you return it, there will be issues, like him deciding he'll never buy another piece for you again b/c he's feelings are hurt or he concludes he doesn't know your taste, etc. I've returned one item DH gave me and since just said I want to pick out my own stuff. I tried doing things like changed our desktop on our computer to pictures of diamonds to show exactly what I want, but his eyes just glazed over. (ETA - I wanted to point out that he is okay with me picking out my own stuff. Actually, I think he's relieved!

 

[Dancing Fire]

heck yeah just waiting for a PSer to loan me the $35k.

 

[Autumnovember]

If I had the money, I would!

 

[rosetta]

Yeah of course!

All my significant pieces are paid for by him though, he does have good taste. But I wouldn't hesitate to spend my own money on sparklies.

 

[zoebartlett]

I wouldn't have any problem buying my own diamond jewelry but I haven't because a) it's so darn pricey! and b) I'm too practical (I'd think of other, more practical things I could use the money for.) If there was something I really, really wanted though and I had the money for it, there are some things on my list that I'd love to buy.

 

[Kaleigh]

Of course~~

 

[manderz]

I've purchased all of my jewelry save 3 pieces- my engagement ring (though the setting was mine already), a watch that I picked out and he bought for me last Christmas, and a cute diamond heart necklace for our first Valentine's day (which was super-sweet, since we'd only been officially together since Christmas eve). I don't think that he would be comfortable purchasing jewelry for me, considering his lack of knowledge, and my finickiness.

 

[Circe]

I sort of think it depends on what you mean by "your own."

My husband and I have pooled finances: when one of us splurges, both of us splurge, so we tend to talk over big purchases before making them. And, - luckily? unfortunately? frankly? all depending on your point of view- given the fairly stereotypical distribution of wages by gender and specialty (I'm a lady working in the Humanities; he's a guy working in Business), his salary makes it possible for us to enjoy a lot more of what life has to offer than we could really manage on mine.

Before we got together, I certainly didn't hold back from purchasing jewels: now that we're together, he supports my hobbies just as enthusiastically as I support his. But if I were still single, I definitely wouldn't let it hold me back from squirreling away money and bedecking myself with all the glitter my magpie heart could desire: it would just probably take me a little longer.

 

[atroop711]

sure..if I want something I get it.

 

[marcy]

Absolutely!

 

[slg47]

I think I am in the minority. I wouldn't buy a solitaire or anything that looks like an engagement ring. I would buy bands or diamond earrings though.

this. but I am a graduate student so no diamond purchases!

 

[Camille]

Absolute Yes!

 

[oranges]

I love buying myself jewelry -- it feels like an accomplishment! I've worked hard for what I have and like to buy things that I'm going to enjoy.

 

[waxing lyrical]

Absolutely! My upgrades were all handled by me. The next one will be as well.

 

[iheartscience]

All the time. My belief is a lady should not wait and wish for a man to buy her jewelry, she should make it happen herself if she wants it.

Yes. Because if it happens, and HE'S the one who chooses and buys it for you, there is a high probability that it will be fugly.

Ha, YEP! I've bought myself everything but my e-ring and wedding band, and I actually picked those out-I just didn't pay for them. The hubs tries, but he just doesn't know my taste. Really no one knows my taste well enough to buy me any jewelry/clothing/house stuff/etc. I'm picky!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Of course! I initiated buying my diamond ring. We share finances so it was not my decision solely, but if I was single and could afford it, I would probably have ring too.