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I can totally relate to the op and comments in this thread. I posted a thread on a similar topic not that long ago about the "right" size for solitaire stud earrings. I wanted to buy 1 ctw studs but felt bad because 0.5 ct is considered huge for an ER where I live...
My SIL got engaged this summer and chose a 0.2 ct solitaire (if I remember the size correctly) because she "felt uncomfortable" wearing a larger size diamond. She told this to me while I was wearing my 1 ct solitaire+other diamond jewelry. I think my ctw that day was closer to 3 ctw. I only responded, congratulations, I think it looks lovely. And she truly is a nice person. I simply think she hadnt noticed what I was wearing and didnt realize her comments were a bit hurtful. My hubby was quick in remarking to her the size of my solitaire and that I apparently can "handle the size" and she seemed completely in awe like she had never noticed my ring, although I have had it for years... at this point I dont know who felt the most bad, but I like to think we were even...
We recently got a large sum of money from my in laws to buy our new house... and now I feel totally uncomfortable buying diamonds because I dont want to seem to them like we are spending money on "unnecessary" items. We have already bought the house and we have no issues buying anything, it is just that nasty feeling. Luckily I have the best supporting husband, he thinks you only live once and *if* I feel bad I can simply just avoid wearing the new studs around the inlaws until some time has passed. He also said they probably 1. wont notice (I already wear studs), 2. wouldnt care. So we bought the studs..!
I guess I have no advice to give here. Simply that you are not alone in feeling this way. I think it all has to do with being a social creature, wanting to fit in to a specific social context. I tend to avoid wearing too much jewelry in some contexts just as how I choose to wear appropriate clothes. I do however wear whatever I like when seeing my best friends or people I know share my interests. I am lucky to have a hubby who thinks it is good to have a hobby in life and if that happens to be diamonds that is ok. My mother also loves my jewelry and discussing diamonds...
My SIL got engaged this summer and chose a 0.2 ct solitaire (if I remember the size correctly) because she "felt uncomfortable" wearing a larger size diamond. She told this to me while I was wearing my 1 ct solitaire+other diamond jewelry. I think my ctw that day was closer to 3 ctw. I only responded, congratulations, I think it looks lovely. And she truly is a nice person. I simply think she hadnt noticed what I was wearing and didnt realize her comments were a bit hurtful. My hubby was quick in remarking to her the size of my solitaire and that I apparently can "handle the size" and she seemed completely in awe like she had never noticed my ring, although I have had it for years... at this point I dont know who felt the most bad, but I like to think we were even...
We recently got a large sum of money from my in laws to buy our new house... and now I feel totally uncomfortable buying diamonds because I dont want to seem to them like we are spending money on "unnecessary" items. We have already bought the house and we have no issues buying anything, it is just that nasty feeling. Luckily I have the best supporting husband, he thinks you only live once and *if* I feel bad I can simply just avoid wearing the new studs around the inlaws until some time has passed. He also said they probably 1. wont notice (I already wear studs), 2. wouldnt care. So we bought the studs..!
I guess I have no advice to give here. Simply that you are not alone in feeling this way. I think it all has to do with being a social creature, wanting to fit in to a specific social context. I tend to avoid wearing too much jewelry in some contexts just as how I choose to wear appropriate clothes. I do however wear whatever I like when seeing my best friends or people I know share my interests. I am lucky to have a hubby who thinks it is good to have a hobby in life and if that happens to be diamonds that is ok. My mother also loves my jewelry and discussing diamonds...