Do women flirt just to reaffirm self esteem?

[princesss]

I''m a huge flirt. I just am. BF knows this (and is very similar), and accepts it. I''m better now about sensing danger zones (it''s fine to go out once in a while and flirt - every week is no good).

Both BF and I are very open about it, and comfortable with the other person flirting. Neither of us makes a decision to flirt - it''s more that we have to make the decision not to flirt in inappropriate situations (work, for example), and then can relax and let our guards down a little bit. It''s just how we interact with people - it''s not done to get attention, it''s just naturally how we interact with other people.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I don''t think I am a flirt and it actually makes me uncomfortable. I don''t think it is wrong. I guess I just don''t like the attention.

 

[sunnyd]

Huge flirt alert! DH and I both are. I used to be a lot more flirty, as did he (I knew him before we started dating). I don''t see the harm in innocent flirting, like smiling and joking. Touching is not my fave, but DH has a tendency to be hugg-y or throw his arm around a shoulder after a beer or two. It used to bother me, but we talked about it and it''s fine now.

Curly and Radiant, my dad is the biggest flirt I know! He''s been in sales for the last 25 years and he''s dang good at it - the selling and the flirting/charming customers. It''s weird to watch...

 

[Haven]

I think some people flirt to reaffirm self esteem, and I think others flirt because they just do.

DH and I are not flirts. I was a big flirt in college, but I''d never flirt now. I find it inappropriate when married men flirt with me, and I always put an end to it immediately.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/16/2009 2:24:47 PM
Author: Bia
I''m a flirt. FI is not.

I don''t flirt with anyone/everyone but when I''m comfortable with people, I flirt. It''s definitely not to boost my self-esteem either. It might just be the way I was brought up. Not sure.

either way, it''s innocent.

that''s what they all say.

 

[phoenixgirl]

I''m not a flirt at all. In fact, when I''ve wanted to attract a man, my instinct is the opposite . . . to play hard to get. Don''t ask me why. It''s worked, though!

But of course, with this predisposition, I''m attracted to flirtatious men. Otherwise I''d never wind up one with one! Someone has to do the flirting.