Do I talk to the parents?

[swingirl]

Date: 12/15/2009 6:44:30 PM
Author: soocool
I've read all your responses. I know the parents somewhat, we wave and share some small talk sometimes. The kids are extremely spoiled and the parents have always let them do whatever they want. The parents went away last year and left the 2 girls home alone all week. They were 16 and 13 at the time. I think this is too young 2 leave 2 kids at home alone for an entire week. I know this because the police visited the house after a neighbor called them because of the noise emanating from the house.

Well, now that you've said the parents are not supervising these kids I agree with those who said to alert the police with the license plate number, name and time of day the speeding usually occurs. Anyone who leaves a 16 and 13 year old home for a week is a neglectful parent. You are right to think they won't want to reign them in now.

 

[D&T]

The parents sounds like irresponsible teenagers themselves. They haven''t set any rules, boundaries, and expectations for these kids imo. I would definitely call the local police department and let them know. I have little patience for reckless drivers

especially young ones.

 

[Imdanny]

Date: 12/15/2009 6:30:39 PM
Author: soocool

Date: 12/15/2009 4:59:55 PM

Author: Kay

That's a tough one, because some parents can be so defensive about any criticism of their child. As a parent, I would want to know if my DD was driving like that, for her own safety as well as that of others. When I was a teen, if the neighbors had told my parents I was acting like that, they would have thanked the informant and then sat me down for a long talk -- but it seems like times have changed a bit in that regard. Do you know the parents?

That's what I am afraid of that they will just blow me off in defense of their kids.


The younger girl is 14 and when the parents are at work and she is off from school the boys come over. I wonder if they know about that. It has been happening since she was 12.

If it were me, I wouldn't let myself be concerned with all that. This girl could have killed you, she could have killed herself, etc. I would talk to the parents. You really don't have to have a "debate" about it or spend your time with the parents being defensive. You can just tell them.

And frankly, I'd be very tempted to get in this girl's face and give her a piece of my mind. And if it happens again, I'd call the police. This kind of behavior is outrageous and it's against the law. I would be very, very angry if some kid did this to me.

 

[monarch64]

Gah. I pulled ONE unsafe start (screeching tires, pulling out of an apt. complex too fast when I was young and stupid when I first got my license) and I wasn''t pulled over, but a cop in town saw me, knew my car, and called my parents the next day. He told my mom and dad he''d rather they knew what happened straight from him rather than cite me for something and have me just pay it off and not tell them. It IS the parents'' business if she''s under 18/living at home/driving in your neighborhood frequently. Please at least do your part, Soooocool, and talk to the parents. At worst they will be resistant, at best they will at least know that the word is out that their daughter is a menace.

 

[doodle]

Personally, I''d let the police department handle it. They''re less likely to blow off a cop than they are to ignore you. Hell, rig up a camera and video tape her flying down the street and send it in if you have to, but I wouldn''t be able to stand the thought of how horrible I''d feel if she hurt someone and I hadn''t spoken up, you know?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I''d tell her parents. Yes about the bad driving and most certainly about her disrespecting you on the road. Who cares if she knew it was you or not. It''s unacceptable and she owes you an apology.