Diamonds aren''t forever?

[Conflagration]

When your E-ring was bought for you, did you think.....I cant wait to trade up!? Or, are you one that will be keeping that ring forever, due to the special meaning?

 

[MichelleCarmen]

My eng. ring was the one I planned to have forever. I've had it for 14+ years and only have recently considered upgrading it and decided not to. It has special meaning to me. My husband isn't even "into" diamonds, yet he sees my eng. ring as the forever diamond ring, as well

Some of my other diamonds are "forever," and others I consider upgrading.

 

[clgwli]

Well considering my e-ring wasn''t a diamond I can''t say I thought it was forever. I mean I still have the setting, but I knew full well the stone would have to be replaced (and it does). It became a right hand ring for me when I realized I couldn''t wear it all the time w/o damaging stones. I have since then owned a very small marquise diamond, sapphire, citrine and diamond all as rings I wear with a diamond band of mine.

I am pretty sure I am not done finding the right ring for me, but so far we haven''t paid more than $300 for any ring (estate sales are a good thing) and won''t until I know for sure that it is "the" ring for me. Considering we are going to redo our kitchen next year if I can actually decide what I want changed, we won''t be doing a "forever ring" for me for a few years. But when we do, I won''t be upgrading that''s for sure.

 

[brellymom]

When we bought my first diamond we were not able to afford anything very large - I think it was .20 carats. I didn''t think about upgrading or not upgrading because of our financial situation - I was happy to be getting married to my guy! Our financial situation was such back then that even thinking about a larger diamond would have made me laugh! But over our 30 years together, lots of things change, and one of those was our ability to buy things like larger diamonds.

I would encourage folks to buy the absolute best they can afford today and let tomorrow take care of itself. If you can afford bigger and don''t mind spending that kind of money, then by all means buy it now, if that is what you want. If you cannot afford it, then don''t - you can upgrade or not at some point later on, if it is still meaningful to you. I just hate to see young kids go into crazy debt for things that can be changed later on - but that''s just me!

Oh, and my first stone did have some sentimental value for us, and he was a bit hesitant -- but he gets so much "credit" for my larger stone (mostly women saying what a good job he did

), that he''s over it LOL

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 1/20/2010 6:57:09 PM
Author: brellymom
When we bought my first diamond we were not able to afford anything very large - I think it was .20 carats. I didn''t think about upgrading or not upgrading because of our financial situation - I was happy to be getting married to my guy! Our financial situation was such back then that even thinking about a larger diamond would have made me laugh! But over our 30 years together, lots of things change, and one of those was our ability to buy things like larger diamonds.

I would encourage folks to buy the absolute best they can afford today and let tomorrow take care of itself. If you can afford bigger and don''t mind spending that kind of money, then by all means buy it now, if that is what you want. If you cannot afford it, then don''t - you can upgrade or not at some point later on, if it is still meaningful to you. I just hate to see young kids go into crazy debt for things that can be changed later on - but that''s just me!

Oh, and my first stone did have some sentimental value for us, and he was a bit hesitant -- but he gets so much ''credit'' for my larger stone (mostly women saying what a good job he did

), that he''s over it LOL

Brellymom - what size did you upgrade to?

 

[dssxxxx]

The diamond ring I bought for my wife was to be her''s forever. I asked her for the past 4-5 years (my business was doing well) if she wanted to upgrade her ring and was always told....''No, this is plenty big and I love it".

Enter 2009 and into 2010................I get the OK and we get the new ring.

So nothing is forever..........for some of us.

 

[yssie]

I think my current set will be my forever set.


Ten years from now - who knows? By that time FI will likely have worked his way through as many wedding bands

FI just pointed out that he came ''as is, no returns, exchanges, or upgrades''

 

[Upgradable]

I was proposed to in 1986 with a beautiful .60 transitional cut diamond he inherited from his great aunt (who had passed away before I met him). He insisted I remount the stone, though I loved the original filigree mounting! We never intended to upgrade. I loved, and still love the stone. It is gorgeous!!

When we reached 20 years together, we started talking about remounting my stone because my original ring had been butchered by a jeweler who changed the head of the ring instead of just doing a retip job. (Oh, the days before knowing what to ask for and expect...)

As we started looking for new mountings, we started talking about buying a "stone of my own" and I started my researching journey. That's what lead me to Pricescope!

Fast forward: my original (family) stone is in a beautiful comfort fit cathedral setting made from the gold of my great grandmother's wedding band (plus the gold from my original setting), and is waiting for my daughter to turn 21. Then it willl be gifted to her. I now have a beautiful 1.4 ideal cut diamond mounted into a Beverley K halo (second mounting for it) that is truly mine!!! We called it my Wedded Ring.

We have no further plans to upgrade. In fact I sometimes think that I would be quite happy with a slightly smaller stone. That admission could be considered blasphemy here on PS, but that's the fact, Jack!

Moral of the story is... marriages change and grow; partners change and grow; why should diamonds be forever??

Oh, and as a post script, this has not stopped me from collecting and mounting lots (and lotsssss) of non-engagement diamonds!! I love buying my own diamonds! What an empowering feeling!!!!

 

[LtlFirecracker]

My FI spent a little extra to get me the diamond I really wanted. I have no upgrade plans and would love to pass this stone down to perhaps my grandchildren. Who knows if that will change in the next 10-25 years.

I think if we were a little younger, and in a different place in life, I would have been happy with a smaller stone, but would have hopes of upgrading to a bigger one.

 

[marcy]

I treasured my original ering because my husband picked it out all by himself and I really liked it. We were married for 16 years before I decided I wanted an upgrade. I have since had a spinel put in my original ering and had the .15 ct diamond mounted inside a heart shaped pendant.

 

[sonnyjane]

Date: 1/20/2010 7:06:51 PM
Author: yssie
I think my current set will be my forever set.



Ten years from now - who knows?

This is me. I am really happy with my current set and if I never upgraded, I'd be fine with it, but DH has made comments like "Once I get that bonus we can get you a bigger one!", and who am I to crush his dreams?

 

[Kaleigh]

My husband proposed with a lovely family stone. The word upgrade wasn''t in my vocabulary. But after 15 years, we did upgrade. We have the origianl ering. It''s in the safety deposit box, it''s sentimental and truly is a gorgeous stone.

 

[Kay]

When we got engaged 7 years ago, I did a lot of research and took my time and found exactly what I wanted in a diamond, because we will not be upgrading. (In fact, I thought it was too big at first, but I grew used to it quickly.

) We are both too sentimental to "upgrade" my e-ring.

I have a pair of 1 ctw studs from many years ago, purchased before I found PS and knew anything about diamonds. I periodically think about replacing those, but there are also many other dream projects the money could be put towards.

 

[Dancing Fire]

of course not !! nothing is FOREVER!! not the husband,not the wife,not the E-ring.

 

[Dreamer_D]

I have my original e-ring, it is not a diamond.

 

[AprilBaby]

In 1979 no one I knew heard of an upgrade so I assumed this would be my ring for life. (.3 Most of my friends got .50 and very few lucky ones got 1.0. After 20 years we were in MUCH better financial shape and so for my 25th anniversary I got a new ring 1.21 and my beautiful .38 is in a halo pendant close to my heart.

 

[LGK]

When I got my original wedding set- a .20 cttw ''30s set- it never occured to me to change it. Then all the prongs needed retipping and it didn''t fit, and all the cost of the work needed to make it wearable was far more than the set was worth... that''s when it ended up getting replaced. We certainly weren''t thinking when we were buying it that it would be replaced in the future. But, I didn''t know much about jewelry when we got it either; the more I learned about antique jewelry I think it was inevitable that I ended up with some.

 

[that_someone_special]

Honestly, I never even heard of people upgrading until I came here.

I'm not sure about upgrading as the OEC obviously doesn't have an upgrade policy, but maybe... some day.. another one.

The studs I've been planning, will be upgraded, eventually (and I don't even have them yet!)

 

[Bella_mezzo]

I never heard of upgrading until I got here either...DH is pretty clear that he loves the ring, and I love it too b/c he designed it himself and picked out the stones. We may upgrade the side stones since his budget constraints then kept him from getting the sidestones he wanted.

But, I have grand plans for a 5 stone RHR in the next few years

 

[Phoenix]

I am another one that didn't think about upgrading, but we lived in Hong Kong and Singapore (esp HK), the land of HUGE diamonds but that totally distorted my perception!

I started thinking about wanting a bigger stone about 5 years into our marriage. DH would say that was the start of the downwards spiral, ha ha!!

I will not upgrade or part with my e-stone however. In fact, I'm having it recut (it's super deep) and reset with another stone into earrings.

 

[Catmom]

My husband proposed with a .30ct family stone and we chose the setting together. He always told me that someday we would upgrade to a bigger stone. That someday came 15 years later and I had that diamond for 12 more years. We both fell in love with my current ring and my hubby bought it for me for our 27th anniversary. I have my very first ring and I will keep it forever and it will be handed down in the family again.

 

[brellymom]

Brellymom - what size did you upgrade to?

MC: first jump was to a 3 stone ring - 1 ct center .5 sides, then to 1.7 round (which I had for a year but never really liked), so then I went to my current - a 2.39 round - my ultimate goal is to reach the 3ct mark, but that's a looong way off if ever!

 

[Rhea]

Mine is forever. I''ve had my ring for about 5.5 years. DH thinks of it as my forever ring. We''ve discussed that it''s a symbol of the relationship, not the actual relationship. For some reason it means a lot to him. It''s not a quality ring, which bothers me a lot. But he likes it and sees it as a forever ring so that''s that, I suppose. I''d love to have something that''s higher quality, even if it''s not larger or more expensive.