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Brilliant_Rock
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Beautifully said Dreamer.Date: 2/17/2010 12:18:12 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
We have a one year old son now. I feel much like EBree. I was an only child in a single parent family with no cousins. Despite my mom''s best efforts and my close relationship with my grandparents, it was a lonely childhood at times. So I want more than one child not just for my kids, but for *me*. I want to be a part of a big bustling family. DH is one of three and has 14 cousins, so the other side of the spectrum from me, and he wants what he had. We will have two for sure (knock wood) and will see how we feel about three when the time comes.
I think about the finances sometimes for sure, it would be easier with one no doubt about it. We can afford two in daycare, but we won''t have lots of luxuries and trips etc when they are young, and little spending money. But then I think... we are talking about a *person* here. A little being who will probably be a lot like our son. Or maybe completely different but no less amazing to me. How can I say that a larger house or a trip to Europe is more important or will bring me more joy that knowing and raising another child? I can''t. And DH and I think of that whenever we worry about finances. Obviously, this is no judgement of others decisions, I am just conveying the thoughts I have when I think about it.
We are trying to time number two around my job and some other things. I would like to be in my new job for at least 1.5 years before I take leave, I''d like to give birth at the start of a new school year, so around september, because it is better for my teaching and for getting the new kid into the same daycare as Hunter, and we want him to be around 30 months when the second is born, which means getting pg a little before his second birthday. So it looks like October will be GO month! Hopefully it won''t take too long!
I don''t kow if I will make it to then, though. I think about getting pregnant a lot these days and I am not on the pill. It would be too easy to just throw caution to the wind!