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There are no words, coward does not begin to describe it. I agree there was a reason why you did not get pregnant, this man is obviously not meant to be your life partner, you can now let him go and have no ties. One day you will have children with a man who loves you and honors you and will communicate any problems that arise so they can be fixed together. You will look back on this time and be so glad you had the opportunity to start over and look for your life partner at only 26. Wishing you the best of luck with everything in the future and sending lots of hugs and healing dust your way!
 
InLuv,

I am so sorry to hear about this. My heart sank for you when I read this. You are so right when you said you are glad to know now. You are such a sweetheart (I know this because all of your posts are so kind-hearted), and you deserve so much better.

Sending you many healing thoughts.
 
InLuv
WOW !! sorry to hear this news.
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InLuv - I''m sorry. It sounds to me like he has some commitment issues and isn''t ready to be married. I''m glad for you as well that you know now and not 10 years and 2 kids later as you said. I wish you the best.
 
I''m so sorry
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. This must be so difficult for you - I''ve heard of this happening to others (where the husband just decides "marriage isn''t for him" or he doesn''t want to be married anymore) but I never understood it. And it was so cowardly for him to file before even talking to you - he certainly doesn''t deserve you.

You deserve a man who will love and cherish you. We''re all here for you. **hugs**
 
Oh, my heart goes out to you. I''m so sorry.
 
InLuv, I am so sorry.
 
IL, what a strange and terrible thing to have happen. I am so very sorry.
 
I''m so sorry, InLuv. I hope you continue to stay strong, and I''m glad you have support.
 
Really sorry to hear this, InLuv. Hugs.
 
InLuv,

I am so sorry to hear this news and I will be thinking of you and hoping you are finding the strength to move on. I have a friend going through this right now as well. They did have a child and now not only is she facing divorce as a young woman after only 2 years of marriage, but also the prospect of being a single mother to an infant and losing her home.

You are such a thoughtful and good person I know you will find someone else that will be a good father to your future children.
 
Wow, after reading you''re replies about the cell phone, and his obvious lie about where he was...I have to say that I would be swift and cold when it came to him. Get yourself a lawyer, get yourself protected...and cut off any and all contact.
 
liek everyone has said before me including you! Thank goodness it happened now rather than later. Hugs to you. Find a good lawyer!!!!
 
Date: 6/25/2009 10:11:42 AM
Author: InLuv101
Date: 6/25/2009 10:06:03 AM

Author: janinegirly

I''m so sorry InLuv. His behaviour is ridiculous (especially for a 2nd marriage!). How were things up to this point--any red flags? Did he drag his feet on marriage and what happened to the 1st? Not meaning to dig things up, just curious for context.


I''m amazed how often I hear of marriages ending abruptly because the guy ''doesn''t think marriage is for them.'' I have a friend who was married 8 years and then suddenly said he didn''t think he wanted to be married. Huh? Then he went and got a bachelor pad in Manhattan before there was time to talk. I do wonder if your DH has something going on. I''m glad you are home among family because it''s a good time to start hunkering down with some great sources of support (for strength). And be ready to call him out on his cowardly behaviour--this is a marriage, you can''t just say ''see ya I think I don''t wanna do this..later''!


I''m so sorry though, this has got to be so very difficult. Please vent away here if it helps...
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I agree...his behavior is ridiculous. Looking back I think I can see some red flags...text messages from a ''friend'' at a really late hour and running out of cell phone minutes 1.5 weeks into the billing cycle (when he has NEVER run out before). All very very recent. He didn''t drag his feet on marriage at all. As for his 1st marriage he says she cheated and he couldn''t get past it...who knows if that''s true.


I agree with you. You don''t just walk out of a marriage like that. I took my vows seriously and I''m saddened that he didn''t.
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Oh InLuv-those are red flags. I am so so sorry you have to go through this but at least it was before kids right?

Big hugs-stay strong-and only talk to him through a lawyer!!!
 
I am so sorry. ::hugs:: Hold your head up high and be thankful for all the good things in your life. You deserve someone who will love you through and through, and not someone who will not talk to you about his feelings. Ugh......
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Best wishes during this time in your life.
 
InLuv I cannot express how sorry I am that you have to go through this, but I must say that you seem to be handeling yourself with a significant amount of strength and grace.

Continue to hold your head high during this difficult time...we''re all here for you and wish you nothing but the best in everything.
 
What a rotten guy!
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I am very sorry that he did this to you. He sounds like a very confused person and in a way it is good that he showed his true colors early on so you do not waste any more time with him.

It has to hurt and I am sorry and we all support you in this sad time. But at your age, you have your whole life ahead and it is great that you are getting away from such a person.

Plus, whoever he is texting and calling, etc, will find out in time just what she is dealing wth
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- for sure he will do this again!

Stay strong and treat yourself really well.
 
I''m so incredibly sorry inluv - I can''t even imagine how devastating and infuriating that must be for you. I''m heartbroken and angry for you all at the same time.

HUGE HUGS and good thoughts - you deserve so much better than someone who could treat you like this.
 
I''m so sorry this has happened to you.
 
Date: 6/25/2009 11:24:35 AM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Wow, after reading you''re replies about the cell phone, and his obvious lie about where he was...I have to say that I would be swift and cold when it came to him. Get yourself a lawyer, get yourself protected...and cut off any and all contact.
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Ditto.

So sorry inluv!
 
I''m very sorry InLuv. Be thankful you didn''t get pregnant, my friend just had a baby in December and her husband asked for a divorce in March.
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You will move on and you can and will be strong. I am thinking of you.
 
I''m so sorry Inluv. Nobody deserves to be treated like that, and I hope you get a fierce attorney and make this loser''s head spin.

I know I can''t say anything to make you feel better, but I do think you''re handling this amazingly well and that''s proof of what a strong, wonderful woman you are. You''ll get through this, and you''ll find somebody who truly appreciates you and will be a wonderful partner and husband and father and friend.

*big hugs*
 
I''m so sorry!
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InLuv, I''m so sorry to hear this. You deserve so much better than this. In the long run, you''ll be happy and he''ll probably never be truly happy- he doesn''t know what he wants.
 
I''m so sorry InLuv. This must be such a shock! Hopefully you will have friends and family nearby to help you cut your ties and move past this quickly!
 
I''m really sorry.
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InLuv -

I''m so sorry that you''re going through such heartbreak. Sometimes, people just don''t turn out to be who we thought. Your husband sounds like one of those people.

Concentrate on your healing and well-being. He is a bullet dodged and ultimately you''ll be grateful for that.
 
I''m so sorry to hear this. I''m glad you''re trying to look on the "bright side" though.

I ditto the thought that he may have mental issues, but it''s sure ain''t an excuse for his cowardly actions! What would he have done if you were pregnant? Don''t let yourself fall into his "traps." Guys like him manipulate until the end.

I hope you don''t feel like you should''ve seen the signs or something. You were in love and expecting the best of your husband. You were trustworthy and expected the same. You were respecting his privacy and not jumping to conclusions. Hindsight is 20-20, you tried to be a good wife to him and you deserve credit for that.

In looking for the silver lining, you have a better idea of what kind of marriage you want and what you''re willing to put up with. The lucky guy who wins you over for real will be getting a REAL life partner.

Good luck. You seem like a strong person and you WILL get through this. He on the other hand will be a creep forever.
 
That''s soooo rubbish, really sorry you''re going thro this *squeeze*

You''re in the best place staying with your folks as you want to be around people who love and respect you and will be there for you no matter what mood you happen to be going thro.

Stay strong and remember that you deserve the world so don''t settle for anything less than that.
 
Oh, InLuv, I am so sorry. I completely agree with Whitby and Deco - there is something seriously wrong with this man and his behavior.
 
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