Last week I told my friend that we are not allowing people to bring their kids to our wedding. Yesterday she called me in tears saying that her daughter (who is only 3) has been looking forward to it and talks about it all the time. I told her that's what we want and we are not making exceptions. All of a sudden she started crying and telling me how her daughter willbe devestated and she can't hurt her daughter that way. Then she started saying some pretty ridiculous things like her daughter has it written down in her calender and doesn't even care about Christmas, the wedding is all she talks about. I felt like she was trying to manipulate me into letting her daughter come.
And at the end she basically said she's not coming to the wedding if her daughter can't. She is supposed to be one of my best friends AND a briidesmaid. I think it's all pretty ridiculous. I will not budge on the kid thing because it is very important to me; I do not want screaming kids at my wedding. And actually, her kids are pretty poorly behaved. We are not letting anyone bring children, not even FH's sister.
What do I do now? Now I don't even know if I want her to be in the wedding. It will just be awkward because I'm not going to get past the way she talked to me.
And at the end she basically said she's not coming to the wedding if her daughter can't. She is supposed to be one of my best friends AND a briidesmaid. I think it's all pretty ridiculous. I will not budge on the kid thing because it is very important to me; I do not want screaming kids at my wedding. And actually, her kids are pretty poorly behaved. We are not letting anyone bring children, not even FH's sister.
What do I do now? Now I don't even know if I want her to be in the wedding. It will just be awkward because I'm not going to get past the way she talked to me.