Wedding Crazy Aunt F strikes again... Would you say something?

[Independent Gal]

UPDATE! Apparently, Crazy Aunt F is claiming that I already cashed the cheque, and ''strongly suggested'' to my grandmother something along the lines that I was trying to lie so that she would give us another cheque after her generous first effort.

My grandmother called me all upset and asked whether perhaps DH might have cashed the cheque. I assured her that that was not the case. It would have to have been mailed to my bank in another country. There is no way in hell that DH did this. He doesn''t even open HIS mail never mind mine. And he doesn''t even know the account number.

See? I tried to keep grammy out of it, but F had to drag her in as usual.

Once she made up a story about how I had cursed at her and hung up on her. SO not true, although she has done this to me a few times. She called her mommy and said "Indy was mean to meeeeee! Mommmmyyyy!" This woman was 55 at the time. Next thing I know, my poor little grandma is on the phone, her voice shaking, asking whether I was being mean to Aunt F.

Can you imagine?

I hate to say this, but I really despise her. I really do.

 

[doodle]

wow. she needs to be voted off the island...or maybe onto the island with pandora''s venue witch and gypsy''s boss (hope you caught wind of that thread, or you''ll be highly confused, haha!). she sounds heinous!

 

[Independent Gal]

And Anchor''s FI''s mean auntie too! They are all going to Antartica! To a tiny island by themselves! Without even any penguins on it! Yes. That is my fantasy.

 

[Rhea]

She what?! If it cleared either account it would be in previous transactions. The bank does keep a history of your account. You can''t even really pretend to lie about something like that.

I feel bad for you. I feel worse for your grandmother who appears to be caught in the middle to a point. What a horrible situation for both of you.

 

[ladyciel]

I'd have your dad or grandmother (now that the poor woman is dragged into this) ask her to produce the canceled check. If by some means somebody else DID get their hands on it and forge your signature, then you'll have proof of the theft to take to the police. If she doesn't have it (which we all assume is probably the case), and can't even show a bank statement proving the withdrawal, then it should be great fun to see what crazy story she comes up with to explain it all.

I agree - off to the wackjob island with her!

 

[luckystar112]

What a nut!

I can''t believe the way she tries to make you look to your poor grandmother.

If it was me, I would have stopped playing nice by now and put that witch in her place.

But since you''re a lot sweeter than me you should def play the "bank fraud" card and pretend to be worried that someone got in your mail. Play the victim and call her out on it! Tell her you''re afaid that any money she has sent you has been stolen and beg her to cancel the check.

 

[dogmama]

Your crazy aunt F really IS crazy!! Sheesh. As if your poor grandma needs drama!! I wonder if she''s jealous of you? Maybe that''s why she''s so malicious!

 

[Independent Gal]

Oh, she''s definitely jealous of me, but not NEARLY so jealous of me as she is of my dad. She positively HATES my dad and I''m like a tiny, female offshoot of my dad, and therefore an excellent target.

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 5/24/2008 1:56:39 PM
Author: Independent Gal
UPDATE! Apparently, Crazy Aunt F is claiming that I already cashed the cheque, and 'strongly suggested' to my grandmother something along the lines that I was trying to lie so that she would give us another cheque after her generous first effort.

My grandmother called me all upset and asked whether perhaps DH might have cashed the cheque. I assured her that that was not the case. It would have to have been mailed to my bank in another country. There is no way in hell that DH did this. He doesn't even open HIS mail never mind mine. And he doesn't even know the account number.

See? I tried to keep grammy out of it, but F had to drag her in as usual.

Once she made up a story about how I had cursed at her and hung up on her. SO not true, although she has done this to me a few times. She called her mommy and said 'Indy was mean to meeeeee! Mommmmyyyy!' This woman was 55 at the time. Next thing I know, my poor little grandma is on the phone, her voice shaking, asking whether I was being mean to Aunt F.

Can you imagine?

I hate to say this, but I really despise her. I really do.

YIKES! Is she pathalogically insane? Seriously!

She did NOT give you a cheque. She is lying start to finish. Nut job. Yup, right up there with Demon Boss and Venue Witch and Anchor's soon to be aunt in law. ((HUGS)) Indy.

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 5/24/2008 1:56:39 PM
Author: Independent Gal
UPDATE! Apparently, Crazy Aunt F is claiming that I already cashed the cheque, and ''strongly suggested'' to my grandmother something along the lines that I was trying to lie so that she would give us another cheque after her generous first effort.

My grandmother called me all upset and asked whether perhaps DH might have cashed the cheque. I assured her that that was not the case. It would have to have been mailed to my bank in another country. There is no way in hell that DH did this. He doesn''t even open HIS mail never mind mine. And he doesn''t even know the account number.

See? I tried to keep grammy out of it, but F had to drag her in as usual.

Once she made up a story about how I had cursed at her and hung up on her. SO not true, although she has done this to me a few times. She called her mommy and said ''Indy was mean to meeeeee! Mommmmyyyy!'' This woman was 55 at the time. Next thing I know, my poor little grandma is on the phone, her voice shaking, asking whether I was being mean to Aunt F.

Can you imagine?

I hate to say this, but I really despise her. I really do.

I wasn''t going to comment on this thread IG, but after reading this latest update I have to say, IMO, you sort of set it up to play out this way by getting other people involved and not confronting her directly. Of course it''s WAY easier for her to play games if you let other people talk for you since she can twist it however she wants to. However, if you call(ed) her directly and said to her yourself, "Gee, I understand you were wondering about a gift check you sent to us Aunt F and I got concerned because we haven''t received anything from you...Perhaps it''s safer if you put a cancel on that check since it might be lost or stolen? Or do you want us to wait a bit and see if it arrives?" That way, she couldn''t start playing "she said/I said" games. If it was me, I''d still go ahead and call her directly now and end the drama.

 

[Independent Gal]

Ah, but the thing is that she hadn''t been wondering about it because she never sent it. So if I called her and said "I never got a cheque from you" it would be like, well, calling someone who didn''t give you a gift and saying "Hey, you didn''t give me a gift!" Letting my dad know - my dad being the person she originally told that she HAD sent the cheque - was definitely the right way to go, just in case she did actually send it.

But if you look back at my first post, you''ll see I mostly started the drama for childish reasons anyway. I was pretty upfront about that. My primary (and yes, pathetic) aim was to not let her get away with her huge stupid lie. And frankly? with the exception of Grammy ending up involved, I am actually feeling childishly satisfied at having called her bluff. YES! I AM A BIG BABY! I CONFESS!

And the drama''s not really that intense. More amusing than anything. My grammy knows full well that I would neeeeever do that (cash the cheque and then ask for another one). When push comes to shove, she knows her daughter is the wack job just as well as everyone else does.

Now everyone in the family is going to roll their eyes and this will just go down as yet another wacky aunt F story for the annals.