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Granted it is a sensitive subject but after a few conversations with friends lately this is really on my mind.
One of my husband's friends was complaining yesterday that they have only had sex three times this year. Granted she is pregnant with their second child but from what I understand even when she isn't pregnant their sex life is very infrequent.
Another friend confided in me a year ago that she had not had sex in 18 months with her husband. Part of the reason was that he just was not attracted to her when she was pregnant and then I guess it just festered after that. In both of these instances, one spouse is unhappy with the frequency so it's not an agreed upon circumstance.
So this got me to thinking, is this the new norm? While is understandable that a lot of factors will influence a couples sex life but if we just look at an overall picture is infrequent sex just part of life these days?
When does a marriage or relationship go from infrequent to sexless?
I personally was shocked by 18 months, because for me that is a long time and I am not a hot ticket by any means. We have been together for 15 years, married for 10 and have two young kids but I would say we average 3 times a month. Even that I thought was on the low side but now I'm starting to think that's not so bad after all?
One of my husband's friends was complaining yesterday that they have only had sex three times this year. Granted she is pregnant with their second child but from what I understand even when she isn't pregnant their sex life is very infrequent.
Another friend confided in me a year ago that she had not had sex in 18 months with her husband. Part of the reason was that he just was not attracted to her when she was pregnant and then I guess it just festered after that. In both of these instances, one spouse is unhappy with the frequency so it's not an agreed upon circumstance.
So this got me to thinking, is this the new norm? While is understandable that a lot of factors will influence a couples sex life but if we just look at an overall picture is infrequent sex just part of life these days?
When does a marriage or relationship go from infrequent to sexless?
I personally was shocked by 18 months, because for me that is a long time and I am not a hot ticket by any means. We have been together for 15 years, married for 10 and have two young kids but I would say we average 3 times a month. Even that I thought was on the low side but now I'm starting to think that's not so bad after all?