Complimenting a stranger on her diamond

[junebug17]

Date: 8/2/2009 11:58:27 PM
Author: Amethyste
I have complimented many women about their engagement ring or other pieces of jewelry. I really appreciate when strangers comment on my engagement ring, but I really dislike when they grab my hand to look at it and then putting their greasy fingers all over the stone... I cringe internally while smiling and saying ''Thank you so much''. lol. I am a freak.

No Amethyste, you''re not a freak at all, I wouldn''t like that either!

 

[Laila619]

Date: 8/2/2009 11:44:11 PM
Author: ladyciel
I've heard of cases of the latter with brides going wedding dress shopping and the shop ladies sizing up their diamonds looking for a big sale. I might be overly sensitive to #2 because in all honesty my ring is above and beyond what our current circumstance would normally allow (we're grad students).

That's dumb of the shop ladies IMO, because a bride could be sporting a big rock and be completely broke, or she could have a tiny rock (maybe her fiance is only a student) but she herself is well off.

I am thrilled when someone compliments my ring. I love to look at other womens' rings and I compliment them as well.

 

[Moh 10]

Date: 8/2/2009 9:47:51 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
a lady almost

when i said ' nice cushion' she was in shock that i knew the cut.

Hey, at least you didn't say to her, "Nice cushions".

 

[MishB]

I do this, I''ve complimented strangers on their jewelery, but I would never do so in a situation in which they would feel threatened, not that I think I''d look like a mugger under any circumstances. The last time was a woman sitting opposite me on the train.

I also sometimes can''t help commenting if I see someone reading a book I particularly loved, or someone trying on a dress/pair of shoes that I think looks particularly good on them. In just about every case they seem really pleased to get an unbiased, unsolicited positive opinion.

 

[gemgirl]

Date: 8/2/2009 8:43:42 PM
Author: elle_chris
I think it depends on where you''re from.

I live in manhattan and if someone random came up to me and complimented my ring, the first thing i''d think of is, uh oh I''m gonna get mugged. So even when I notice someone''s ring, necklace or whatever, i won''t say anything. I think we''re a bit paranoid here and I wouldn''t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable.

Oh, and that''s exactly how muggings here usually start. ''Hey, i like your ring''. Followed by ''Now give it to me''.

I compliment women all the time on their jewelry. Half of the women are flattered and half react like it''s an invasion of their space and their privacy. I think it has everything to do with where I live.

I''ve had the same reaction that elle describes when a random man compliments me on my jewelry. I think it''s a New York thing.

 

[vespergirl]

It always makes me happy! It''s totally OK with me if a guy does it too, though that''s less common. One time my husband & I were attending a gala at one of the Smithsonian museums, and a security guard stopped us and was really compimenting my diamond - he congratulated my husband on his good taste, and told me how lucky I was. We were both smiling when we walked away from the encounter.

 

[Catmom]

It''s okay by me if anyone wants to compliment my jewelry. I''m always flattered. It''s usually women more than men that compliment me but not too long ago I had a younger guy in the grocery store come up to me and say that he just had to comment on my ring because it was just sparkling so much that everytime he passed me it would catch his eye. We were going opposite directions in our shopping pattern so he would pass me in the middle of every aisle. I always wonder if he was getting ready to propose so he was checking out other women''s ERs.

 

[risingsun]

I love to get compliments. I just had another one today at the doctor''s office. Of course, if I lived in NYC as Elle does, I would be more cautious.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 8/2/2009 7:29:45 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 8/2/2009 7:07:43 PM

Author: Shopaholic

[ . . . ]

I do get compliments from men on my jewelry, mostly my necklaces and second would be earrings. I do occasionally get compliments from men on my e-ring, but they are usually not genuine. There''s always an alterior motive to find out my marital status and to get me to talk about my feelings for my husband.....if you get my drift. The only genuine compliments from men on my e-ring that I ever got were from those in the jewelry business. Of course, this is just from my own personal experience.

Yikes! The upside is that you should *definitely* take it as a compliment that all these men are obviously quite attracted to you. I can''t say this has ever happened to me or anyone I know. If I were getting all that attention I''d be quite pleased with myself.

Total Ditto Haven! Men are so interesting! A guy was eyeing me today from his car, and smiling, and I was sooooo thrilled for the first time to have a ring on my finger to proclaim that my heart was already taken.

. I guess that is an everyday thing for you Shopaholic!

I also wanted to add, just generally, that I LOVE both giving AND receiving compliments! I get really excited to compliment people... maybe it will be a little bright spot in their day? Especially people who are not in a good mood, I love to catch them off guard and/or alter their mood. It''s great!

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 8/2/2009 11:58:27 PM
Author: Amethyste
I have complimented many women about their engagement ring or other pieces of jewelry. I really appreciate when strangers comment on my engagement ring, but I really dislike when they grab my hand to look at it and then putting their greasy fingers all over the stone... I cringe internally while smiling and saying ''Thank you so much''. lol. I am a freak.

Call me rude Amethyste, but I would totally grab your hand, gawk and finger your ring too!

okay, not really, but if I saw you in a dream, I totally would!

 

[Camille]

I appreciate compliments from people I know, but from strangers....not the same thing, once a young lady grabbed my hand to compliement my ring, she was a gorgeus lady but prob 3x my size, didn''t feel right....she was also loud

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/3/2009 4:10:45 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 8/2/2009 11:58:27 PM
Author: Amethyste
I have complimented many women about their engagement ring or other pieces of jewelry. I really appreciate when strangers comment on my engagement ring, but I really dislike when they grab my hand to look at it and then putting their greasy fingers all over the stone... I cringe internally while smiling and saying 'Thank you so much'. lol. I am a freak.

Call me rude Amethyste, but I would totally grab your hand, gawk and finger your ring too!

okay, not really, but if I saw you in a dream, I totally would!

i bet though that you would have the common decency to not leave your fringerprints all over the stone lol. It's not the hand grabbing that bothers me much ( as long as its a loose hand grab, not the "i want to slip the ring off your finger grab ), but the "not knowing where these fingers have been" but now they are on my diamond grab...

I would be delighted if you grabbed my hand Dear...

sorry, I am just a weirdo

 

[beau13]

I actually find that men notice, and comment on my ring more than women do. I see them (men) looking for a ring on my finger sometimes. If they see that I notice them doing that, they will say something like "oh, I see you're married, very pretty ring"..or "looks like your husband takes good care of you". Recently a young salesman (20's) jumped back, with his arms in front of his face,in a very dramtic manner, as I was paying for a sweatshirt in a store. I asked him what he was doing, he replied "I've just been blinded by your ring". I laughed and said "thanks, you funny guy". He then asked questions about it, saying his "girlfriend would LOVE a ring like that", and even asked me what size the center stone was, and joked about his job, and the three month salary rule. He admitted that he would need to work alot of overtime, or get a second job to afford the ring she keeps showing him..lol (poor guy)
I think it's cute, when guys strike up conversations about my ring..I don't find it rude or offensive at all!
I think it's funny when you catch women trying to take a better look, or just staring at your ring, but once they notice that you caught them looking..they pretend like they weren't really looking and say nothing. I find it odd that they pretend like they weren't looking, but in some instances, you KNOW they were really eyeballing it. I on the other hand, make a point of complimenting a women, if I notice she has some eye catching ring on! I usually just say, "wow..what a stunning ring", and I'm sure she is flattered to receive the compliment. Why pretend that I didn't notice..when I did. If it caught my attention, then surely it deserves a compliment !

Where I live, people in general are just very chatty and friendly.

 

[gemgirl]

Date: 8/3/2009 4:49:58 PM
Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/3/2009 4:10:45 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 8/2/2009 11:58:27 PM
Author: Amethyste
I have complimented many women about their engagement ring or other pieces of jewelry. I really appreciate when strangers comment on my engagement ring, but I really dislike when they grab my hand to look at it and then putting their greasy fingers all over the stone... I cringe internally while smiling and saying ''Thank you so much''. lol. I am a freak.

Call me rude Amethyste, but I would totally grab your hand, gawk and finger your ring too!

okay, not really, but if I saw you in a dream, I totally would!

i bet though that you would have the common decency to not leave your fringerprints all over the stone lol. It''s not the hand grabbing that bothers me much ( as long as its a loose hand grab, not the ''i want to slip the ring off your finger grab ), but the ''not knowing where these fingers have been'' but now they are on my diamond grab...

I would be delighted if you grabbed my hand Dear...

sorry, I am just a weirdo

Sweetie, you''re not a weirdo at all. Admiring your ring is one thing. Strangers putting their grubby paws on it is a whole ''nother story!

Think about all the pregnant ladies who have their bellies touched by total strangers

. Similar thing. Hands off!

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/3/2009 5:46:52 PM
Author: gemgirl

Date: 8/3/2009 4:49:58 PM

Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/3/2009 4:10:45 PM

Author: trillionaire

Date: 8/2/2009 11:58:27 PM

Author: Amethyste

I have complimented many women about their engagement ring or other pieces of jewelry. I really appreciate when strangers comment on my engagement ring, but I really dislike when they grab my hand to look at it and then putting their greasy fingers all over the stone... I cringe internally while smiling and saying ''Thank you so much''. lol. I am a freak.

Call me rude Amethyste, but I would totally grab your hand, gawk and finger your ring too!

okay, not really, but if I saw you in a dream, I totally would!

i bet though that you would have the common decency to not leave your fringerprints all over the stone lol. It''s not the hand grabbing that bothers me much ( as long as its a loose hand grab, not the ''i want to slip the ring off your finger grab ), but the ''not knowing where these fingers have been'' but now they are on my diamond grab...


I would be delighted if you grabbed my hand Dear...


sorry, I am just a weirdo

Sweetie, you''re not a weirdo at all. Admiring your ring is one thing. Strangers putting their grubby paws on it is a whole ''nother story!


Think about all the pregnant ladies who have their bellies touched by total strangers

. Similar thing. Hands off!

Oh my you are so right!!! I would never touch a pregant woman''s belly! I think its cutting it close when it comes to "personal space"...

 

[Shopaholic]

Date: 8/3/2009 4:03:21 PM
Author: trillionaire

Date: 8/2/2009 7:29:45 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 8/2/2009 7:07:43 PM

Author: Shopaholic

[ . . . ]

I do get compliments from men on my jewelry, mostly my necklaces and second would be earrings. I do occasionally get compliments from men on my e-ring, but they are usually not genuine. There''s always an alterior motive to find out my marital status and to get me to talk about my feelings for my husband.....if you get my drift. The only genuine compliments from men on my e-ring that I ever got were from those in the jewelry business. Of course, this is just from my own personal experience.

Yikes! The upside is that you should *definitely* take it as a compliment that all these men are obviously quite attracted to you. I can''t say this has ever happened to me or anyone I know. If I were getting all that attention I''d be quite pleased with myself.

Total Ditto Haven! Men are so interesting! A guy was eyeing me today from his car, and smiling, and I was sooooo thrilled for the first time to have a ring on my finger to proclaim that my heart was already taken.

. I guess that is an everyday thing for you Shopaholic!

I also wanted to add, just generally, that I LOVE both giving AND receiving compliments! I get really excited to compliment people... maybe it will be a little bright spot in their day? Especially people who are not in a good mood, I love to catch them off guard and/or alter their mood. It''s great!

Now I can believe that! Saw your pic in the Faces of PS thread, you''re a gorgeous girl!

 

[beau13]

Date: 8/2/2009 8:19:43 PM
Author: Shopaholic

Date: 8/2/2009 8:13:18 PM
Author: MonkeyPie

Date: 8/2/2009 7:29:45 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 8/2/2009 7:07:43 PM

Author: Shopaholic
[ . . . ]
I do get compliments from men on my jewelry, mostly my necklaces and second would be earrings. I do occasionally get compliments from men on my e-ring, but they are usually not genuine. There''s always an alterior motive to find out my marital status and to get me to talk about my feelings for my husband.....if you get my drift. The only genuine compliments from men on my e-ring that I ever got were from those in the jewelry business. Of course, this is just from my own personal experience.

Yikes! The upside is that you should *definitely* take it as a compliment that all these men are obviously quite attracted to you. I can''t say this has ever happened to me or anyone I know. If I were getting all that attention I''d be quite pleased with myself.

Moh--To answer your question, I try to graciously accept any compliments that I receive. I usually give an emphatic ''Thank you!'' and go on my way with a big smile, silently wondering if I just ran into a fellow PSer.

Shoot, me too! I''d be happy if any guy was hunting that hard for an opening, even if it''s kind of a bad way to go about it.

I love getting compliments, and I accept them graciously. I see no reason to be offended - otherwise why would I even have the thing? I wear it because I like it, it''s pretty, and it has a sentimental value for my marriage.

Haven and MonkeyPie - you guys are such sweeties! Honestly though, that kind of attention is not all that great -quite an annoyance actually. I used to even seriously think about wearing a ring on that finger even when I wasn''t engaged or married to avoid the approaches but I now know that it still doesn''t work.

So true..lol
Men don''t care if there is a ring on the finger or not, they''re oblivious to it when they are intrigued by a beautiful woman!
A friend of mine once cut in between myself and a strange man (hitting on me at the bar of a restaurant) and said to him "she''s married, how could you not see that huge ring on her finger!" I was a tad embarassed , but I really don''t think he noticed it, or if he did, he really didn''t care that there was a ring on my finger!!

So, you''re right, wearing a ring to ward off that kind of attention, doesn''t always work!

 

[D&T]

Date: 8/2/2009 9:52:00 PM
Author: strmrdr
I stopped doing it.
About 50% of the time they were flattered, 25% of the time just looked at me like I was nuts, 25% of the time acted like I was looking to rob them.
btw it is funny the age break down...
Almost always 20s or over 50 flattered.
30s-40s had the highest percentage that acted like I was going to rob them as well as the highest percentage that looked at me like I was nuts.

When I work in an environment that comes into public contact often, i actually like it, but if I get some random comments just when I'm out and about from a stranger and not a clerk or sales associate then I refer to the highlight, but I'm paranoid by nature anyways.

 

[jewelerman]

Ive complimented people ,both men and women on their jewelry since i was 12 years old.I do every day.I love it when people ask about my watches and jewelry.I always tell most women that im in the jewelry trade when i compliment them so they dont feel weird about getting a compliment from a stranger.In fact ive earned alot of business from conversations about peoples antique or estate jewelry.Especially when i ask them if the piece belonged to their grand mother and give the approximate year she may have been married(havent been wrong yet!)from the rings'' style.Just today I asked a customer at the stationary store i currently work at if she was from Alaska?She looked at me and said"how did you know?The 30 year old Alaskian placer nugget chain and pendant you are wearing was made in Alaska.(alas i was about 5 years off on the date but correct on the other info.)I enjoy complimenting people on their jewelry.

 

[Diva0413]

I don''t think it would bother me, but it depends on how it''s compliment. For example, I had men and women who come to my office and when they see my ring and say they think it''s pretty or nice, I''m flattered. It''s the strangers that have tried to grad my hand and compliment my ring that makes me uncomfortable.

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/3/2009 9:15:06 PM
Author: beau13

Date: 8/2/2009 8:19:43 PM
Author: Shopaholic

Date: 8/2/2009 8:13:18 PM
Author: MonkeyPie

Date: 8/2/2009 7:29:45 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 8/2/2009 7:07:43 PM

Author: Shopaholic
[ . . . ]
I do get compliments from men on my jewelry, mostly my necklaces and second would be earrings. I do occasionally get compliments from men on my e-ring, but they are usually not genuine. There''s always an alterior motive to find out my marital status and to get me to talk about my feelings for my husband.....if you get my drift. The only genuine compliments from men on my e-ring that I ever got were from those in the jewelry business. Of course, this is just from my own personal experience.

Yikes! The upside is that you should *definitely* take it as a compliment that all these men are obviously quite attracted to you. I can''t say this has ever happened to me or anyone I know. If I were getting all that attention I''d be quite pleased with myself.

Moh--To answer your question, I try to graciously accept any compliments that I receive. I usually give an emphatic ''Thank you!'' and go on my way with a big smile, silently wondering if I just ran into a fellow PSer.

Shoot, me too! I''d be happy if any guy was hunting that hard for an opening, even if it''s kind of a bad way to go about it.

I love getting compliments, and I accept them graciously. I see no reason to be offended - otherwise why would I even have the thing? I wear it because I like it, it''s pretty, and it has a sentimental value for my marriage.

Haven and MonkeyPie - you guys are such sweeties! Honestly though, that kind of attention is not all that great -quite an annoyance actually. I used to even seriously think about wearing a ring on that finger even when I wasn''t engaged or married to avoid the approaches but I now know that it still doesn''t work.

So true..lol
Men don''t care if there is a ring on the finger or not, they''re oblivious to it when they are intrigued by a beautiful woman!
A friend of mine once cut in between myself and a strange man (hitting on me at the bar of a restaurant) and said to him ''she''s married, how could you not see that huge ring on her finger!'' I was a tad embarassed , but I really don''t think he noticed it, or if he did, he really didn''t care that there was a ring on my finger!!

So, you''re right, wearing a ring to ward off that kind of attention, doesn''t always work!

I must be a total dog then, NO MEN ever, ever hit on me. With a ring or without ring... I am surprised I found my husband actually and got married!

 

[jewelerman]

Date: 8/2/2009 11:58:27 PM
Author: Amethyste
I have complimented many women about their engagement ring or other pieces of jewelry. I really appreciate when strangers comment on my engagement ring, but I really dislike when they grab my hand to look at it and then putting their greasy fingers all over the stone... I cringe internally while smiling and saying ''Thank you so much''. lol. I am a freak.

You are a freak!So are the rest of us...freaks to keep our diamonds clean and grease free...we get you!

 

[Shopaholic]

Date: 8/3/2009 9:15:06 PM
Author: beau13

Date: 8/2/2009 8:19:43 PM
Author: Shopaholic

Date: 8/2/2009 8:13:18 PM
Author: MonkeyPie

Date: 8/2/2009 7:29:45 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 8/2/2009 7:07:43 PM

Author: Shopaholic
[ . . . ]
I do get compliments from men on my jewelry, mostly my necklaces and second would be earrings. I do occasionally get compliments from men on my e-ring, but they are usually not genuine. There''s always an alterior motive to find out my marital status and to get me to talk about my feelings for my husband.....if you get my drift. The only genuine compliments from men on my e-ring that I ever got were from those in the jewelry business. Of course, this is just from my own personal experience.

Yikes! The upside is that you should *definitely* take it as a compliment that all these men are obviously quite attracted to you. I can''t say this has ever happened to me or anyone I know. If I were getting all that attention I''d be quite pleased with myself.

Moh--To answer your question, I try to graciously accept any compliments that I receive. I usually give an emphatic ''Thank you!'' and go on my way with a big smile, silently wondering if I just ran into a fellow PSer.

Shoot, me too! I''d be happy if any guy was hunting that hard for an opening, even if it''s kind of a bad way to go about it.

I love getting compliments, and I accept them graciously. I see no reason to be offended - otherwise why would I even have the thing? I wear it because I like it, it''s pretty, and it has a sentimental value for my marriage.

Haven and MonkeyPie - you guys are such sweeties! Honestly though, that kind of attention is not all that great -quite an annoyance actually. I used to even seriously think about wearing a ring on that finger even when I wasn''t engaged or married to avoid the approaches but I now know that it still doesn''t work.

So true..lol
Men don''t care if there is a ring on the finger or not, they''re oblivious to it when they are intrigued by a beautiful woman!
A friend of mine once cut in between myself and a strange man (hitting on me at the bar of a restaurant) and said to him ''she''s married, how could you not see that huge ring on her finger!'' I was a tad embarassed , but I really don''t think he noticed it, or if he did, he really didn''t care that there was a ring on my finger!!

So, you''re right, wearing a ring to ward off that kind of attention, doesn''t always work!

haha! Beau13, my younger sister does that to me all the time, she is very outspoken, hubby just always says "I guess your ring''s not big enough!" One time we were walking down a street fair and I walked a bit ahead of DH, and this guy made some "comments", after DH ran up and made it known that he was my DH, he grabbed my hand and said "geez! I can''t take you anywhere! That''s it, we''re going to Tiffany''s and you are getting that 4ct!" LOL!

Amethyste - saw your pic too, and you are beautiful, so I am thinking the only reason is that there must just some epidemic that made all the men around you blind...

 

[Haven]

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