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Your ring is gorgeous, and you should absolutely keep wearing it -- bling brings us joy! :) I think the only time I didn't wear mine is when I was a floater pharmacist and would work in more dangerous areas -- and it had to be in a REALLY bad part of town for me to leave it at home!! ;) It sounds like that's not the case at all for you... I'd say a lot of coworkers' comments are out of sheer curiosity (and maybe a little jealousy -- or a lot). ;)

I work in a pharmacy that is inside a walk-in clinic (doc-in-a-box), and I can tell you that the people I work with genuinely have NO IDEA how larger diamonds (or any diamonds, for that matter) are priced - zero idea. They don't because most of them either don't have an interest in diamonds, know they won't be getting a larger diamond for whatever reason, or a combination of the two. I'm sure there are other factors, but since most ppl never have a reason to really "price" larger stones, they just don't know. In my experience, a lot of ppl think that "if a 1 ct soli costs $X, then a 2 ct must cost ($X)(2) and a 3 ct costs ($X)(3)" and so on. I've also noticed that if it's much over 1.5-ish ct, they have no clue what the weight is... most think it's less bc they think that a the spread is directly proportional to the weight (don't we wish!)... so in their minds, a 4 ct is simply twice as large as a 2 ct...

I hope that makes sense. I know it can be a little uncomfortable when the questions start coming, or even worse with looks. But if you don't feel like telling your coworkers specs, just say it was a gift and your not exactly sure - or something to that effect... A lot of times, others don't know what is appropriate and socially acceptable to ask when it comes to these things. Most of the time, they are genuinely curious because they've never seen a beautiful rock such as yours IRL.

Wear your ring. Love it. Others can love it, be jealous, or indifferent... it doesn't matter. Don't keep it in a box because of what others may say or think.
 
ringo865 said:
I say keep wearing it. (Unless your work is pro bono or your patients are homeless or something)

Who cares what people think? It was a gift from your husband, and you love it, and it's beautiful.

An appropriate response, when faced with awkward comments, is "thank you.":whistle:
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This exactly. ;)
 
Beautiful ring, wear it and enjoy!

I also worked part time in a dental surgery, and patients would make similar comments about paying for the dentists new car etc., and I’d tell them actually that’s my new car. They persisted in thinking they were clever by saying that he was obviously paying me too much, to which I replied that whilst he was a good boss, my husband had a very good job, hence the car. They shut up after that :lol:
 
Austina said:
Beautiful ring, wear it and enjoy!

I also worked part time in a dental surgery, and patients would make similar comments about paying for the dentists new car etc., and I’d tell them actually that’s my new car. They persisted in thinking they were clever by saying that he was obviously paying me too much, to which I replied that whilst he was a good boss, my husband had a very good job, hence the car. They shut up after that :lol:
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YES! This exactly I would never have the nerve to say the stuff they say in a dentists office My hairstylist charges a pretty penny and has a lot of nice bling NOBODY would dare talk like that to her
ANd regarding the car I had the same issue They all thought my car was his lol!! Hey he has ex wife new wife and 4 kids to support My car was definitely nicer LOL!!!!
 
@princessk I am glad you decided not to let others take the joy out of you wearing your beautiful ring. Some people have utterly too much to say about someone else's choices.
 
msop04 said:
Your ring is gorgeous, and you should absolutely keep wearing it -- bling brings us joy! :) I think the only time I didn't wear mine is when I was a floater pharmacist and would work in more dangerous areas -- and it had to be in a REALLY bad part of town for me to leave it at home!! ;-) It sounds like that's not the case at all for you... I'd say a lot of coworkers' comments are out of sheer curiosity (and maybe a little jealousy -- or a lot). ;-)

I work in a pharmacy that is inside a walk-in clinic (doc-in-a-box), and I can tell you that the people I work with genuinely have NO IDEA how larger diamonds (or any diamonds, for that matter) are priced - zero idea. They don't because most of them either don't have an interest in diamonds, know they won't be getting a larger diamond for whatever reason, or a combination of the two. I'm sure there are other factors, but since most ppl never have a reason to really "price" larger stones, they just don't know. In my experience, a lot of ppl think that "if a 1 ct soli costs $X, then a 2 ct must cost ($X)(2) and a 3 ct costs ($X)(3)" and so on. I've also noticed that if it's much over 1.5-ish ct, they have no clue what the weight is... most think it's less bc they think that a the spread is directly proportional to the weight (don't we wish!)... so in their minds, a 4 ct is simply twice as large as a 2 ct...

I hope that makes sense. I know it can be a little uncomfortable when the questions start coming, or even worse with looks. But if you don't feel like telling your coworkers specs, just say it was a gift and your not exactly sure - or something to that effect... A lot of times, others don't know what is appropriate and socially acceptable to ask when it comes to these things. Most of the time, they are genuinely curious because they've never seen a beautiful rock such as yours IRL.

Wear your ring. Love it. Others can love it, be jealous, or indifferent... it doesn't matter. Don't keep it in a box because of what others may say or think.
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The thought process you described (if a 1 carat is X then a 2 carat must be 2X) is exactly how I used to think before I found PriceScope during my E-ring search. Well, I knew it wasn't exactly linear, but I had no idea what a 2, 3, or 4 carat diamond cost before I started seeing people post their size and budget on here. I would say this also goes for most of the population.

I actually remember seeing a diamond on a woman about 6 months ago at a conference. Now, I rarely noticed E-rings on women before (as I am a guy), especially since most women in the fields that I have worked in do not wear large diamonds, but this one definitely caught my attention. At the time, I remember thinking "Wow, that's a big rock! I bet her husband paid like 10 grand for it!" Knowing what I know now, I'm sure her husband paid about 5X that amount. :mrgreen:

Anyway, getting back to the point of this thread, don't let negative Nancys influence how you live your life. As long as you're not hurting anyone, you do you. Everyone is entitled to spend their money however they please, and if you ask me, I think a diamond ring (which will last a lifetime or several lifetimes) is a better thing to spend your money on than a expensive supercar (which will begin to show its age after about 2-3 years and last maybe 15-20 years). And as my pre-PriceScope thought process highlighted above demonstrates, most people really have no clue how diamond prices change with size (or quality).
 
I've been in this situation before and received some comments from my coworkers and patients that were interesting, to say the least. Don't let it ruffle you, just smile and go about your business and do a good job. The only time I didn't know how to react was when my coworker told me that my diamond was so big that in the Philippines I'd get my finger chopped off lol.
 
I’ve also been in this situation (and my husband works in the same organization so co-workers know his general salary range). What’s funny is there are women at work with larger rings but I think most did not research the 4Cs and so they make comments about mine not looking real (probably due to the fact mine has fire and scintillation), being huge (even when I can tell their stones are larger) plus some of their diamonds are so dirty I just want to clean them all to show them how much better their rings can look. I also get how could my husband afford the ring which I find very rude. Basically, I just smile at them, let them know we did our research and thank them for admiring the ring. In the end, our rings are our rings and as long as they make us happy, who cares what others say. They are not the ones enjoying them.
 
TreeScientist said:
The thought process you described (if a 1 carat is X then a 2 carat must be 2X) is exactly how I used to think before I found PriceScope during my E-ring search. Well, I knew it wasn't exactly linear, but I had no idea what a 2, 3, or 4 carat diamond cost before I started seeing people post their size and budget on here. I would say this also goes for most of the population.

I actually remember seeing a diamond on a woman about 6 months ago at a conference. Now, I rarely noticed E-rings on women before (as I am a guy), especially since most women in the fields that I have worked in do not wear large diamonds, but this one definitely caught my attention. At the time, I remember thinking "Wow, that's a big rock! I bet her husband paid like 10 grand for it!" Knowing what I know now, I'm sure her husband paid about 5X that amount. :mrgreen:

Anyway, getting back to the point of this thread, don't let negative Nancys influence how you live your life. As long as you're not hurting anyone, you do you. Everyone is entitled to spend their money however they please, and if you ask me, I think a diamond ring (which will last a lifetime or several lifetimes) is a better thing to spend your money on than a expensive supercar (which will begin to show its age after about 2-3 years and last maybe 15-20 years). And as my pre-PriceScope thought process highlighted above demonstrates, most people really have no clue how diamond prices change with size (or quality).
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yup!! thats what i tell my hubby regarding his Corvette compared to my ring!
 
Your ring is gorgeous and I would wear it as much as you can and whenever you want. As for a response on comments - either positive or negative I would just say thank you.
 
princessk said:
I work part time -2 days a week in an office and I find it hard to handle some of the comments made by patients and staff re my ring . yes its big to most people and yes its obvious its not bought by my salary. My husband has a good job and we are both in our 50's
I wear a uniform and don't wear much jewellery other than my ring and a diamond solitaire pendant
I don't not want to not wear it those days but also feel a bit weird I have great co workers and really don't want to flaunt it
would you wear or not Advice please :)
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Live your life for yourself, not for others.
Do what you want.

Screw em.
They don't matter.

Caring what others think drops you down to their petty level.
 
Dental workers don't normally have great big rings because they poke at people's mouths...maybe this is part of the reason your co-workers are taking note of it?

One weird thing I can tell you is that people make remarks like that when they see someone wearing a fake that would be very expensive if it were real. People will tell you otherwise but the evidence is pretty clear that you cannot tell a good CZ from a diamond under normal conditions unless there's some sort of clue like a cheap setting or an obvious inclusion. So they may be trying to spook you into saying something that will give away that it's a fake.
 
I saved regularly for 5 years for my 1.19ct EC RHR that was my 40th birthday present to myself (not the original intended purpose for the saving, however, that's how it ended) and wanted to wear it daily as my pride and joy.
However, after I picked up the ring and started to wear it, I was mindful that it was big compared with the norm, as being in UK, one rarely sees diamond engagement rings over 0.5ct nowadays let alone over 10 years ago.
It was just too blingy even in its original solitaire setting to wear daily while working in a manufacturing facility.
Hence I had another ring made with a small EC under 0.5ct so that I could wear it everyday.
The larger EC comes out for dressier occasions as often as possible for both work and play.
In its new forever home, an air gap/line halo, it is even more blingy.
However, I had only ever received nice comments of admiration before and after the re-set.
Perhaps it is due to the stone being a rarer EC and not a more commonly seen MRB.

@ princessk, wear yours with pride; however, if you have concerns, then perhaps you should consider wearing a smaller day to day ring instead, and bring out the big gun whenever you can.

DK :))
 
princessk said:
yup!! thats what i tell my hubby regarding his Corvette compared to my ring!
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Reminds me of an article by one of my favorite bloggers:
https://www.financialsamurai.com/the-new-rule-for-engagement-ring-buying/

I really like this rule, however, I think the rule should be changed to say that a man should be willing to spend at least half of what he spent on his car. My reasoning is that you can get a perfectly nice engagement ring for $5K-7K, just like you can get a perfectly nice, 2-3 year old certified used Toyota Corolla with the best interior package for $10-14k. That Toyota Corolla will get you from point A to point B exactly the same as an other car (and with the same interior comforts) so spending any more than that makes the purchase purely a luxury item.

Just like an engagement ring, a new car is a depreciating asset: They lose 50% of their value the minute you take it out of the ring box/drive it off the lot. However, unlike a car, the ring will at least maintain that 50% of resale value throughout the rest of its lifetime, whereas a car will be practically worthless after 10 years (discounting the few cars that can be thought of as collectors items, i.e., a 1970 302 Boss Mustang, but this applies to VERY few cars sold in modern times).

In my opinion, and this is coming from a man, if a guy ever gives a woman shit for wanting a nice E-ring but is driving a $50,000-60,000 car, he doesn't have a leg to stand on in the debate.

Granted, if I followed the rule in this article then I would have bought a $250 E-ring, because I'm an eco-hippie living in Europe who rides a (nice) used bike everywhere. :mrgreen: But I still wanted my girlfriend to have something beautiful that she would treasure, and getting her a nice ring that will last a lifetime is worth much more to me on an emotional level than any car ever could be.
 
TreeScientist said:
Just like an engagement ring, a new car is a depreciating asset: They lose 50% of their value the minute you take it out of the ring box/drive it off the lot. However, unlike a car, the ring will at least maintain that 50% of resale value throughout the rest of its lifetime, whereas a car will be practically worthless after 10 years (discounting the few cars that can be thought of as collectors items, i.e., a 1970 302 Boss Mustang, but this applies to VERY few cars sold in modern times).
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Have you seen the prices of classic, modern classic, new-but-limited-edition and re-creation classic cars recently? lol
 
Ooh I'd take a 1969 Mach 1 R-Code instead, but yah. :halo:
 
Rock that ring like your life depends on it! You’ve earned it, and it’s not their business where it did or didn’t come from. My mom always says, “just because someone asks you a nosy question doesn’t mean you have to answer it!” -mind you that *apparently* only applies when it’s not her asking me...
 
TreeScientist said:
Reminds me of an article by one of my favorite bloggers:
https://www.financialsamurai.com/the-new-rule-for-engagement-ring-buying/

I really like this rule, however, I think the rule should be changed to say that a man should be willing to spend at least half of what he spent on his car. My reasoning is that you can get a perfectly nice engagement ring for $5K-7K, just like you can get a perfectly nice, 2-3 year old certified used Toyota Corolla with the best interior package for $10-14k. That Toyota Corolla will get you from point A to point B exactly the same as an other car (and with the same interior comforts) so spending any more than that makes the purchase purely a luxury item.
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I really like this, but I'd add one caveat. For many people it makes sense to take out a loan to buy a car. Many people have no choice. No one should ever take out a loan to buy a ring. Instead, buy a small ring, invest the money, and when your nest egg is sufficient, then upgrade!
 
Never let someone else ruin the joy your jewelry gives you! I honestly would just ignore the negative nellys these days. No matter what your comeback or thanks or comments....they will still harbor their own negativity. It's not your job to make them feel better or to assuage whatever pettiness they are dealing with. Your personal life and financial circumstances are none of their business. Just like their circumstances are none of yours. I have resting bitch face anyways...IF I MUST respond....I do the slow glance over and look away shaking my head.
Most times, i find that letting their last comment hang in mid air for a good 15 count of silence and then resuming the conversation with a "anyways, back to business" has been an effective way to shut down certain subject matters for a long long time.

Thank yous are for people who had done something positive to or for you. To me saying thank you to someone for saying something nasty or insincere is like thanking someone for hitting you with a car. It reinforces their bad behavior.

Compliments meant sincerely are thank worthy. Jealous Jill with her sarcastic compliments does not warrent a response or your energy....she needs to go back to kindergarten and learn some manners!
 
Chiming in a bit late here..........
I'm not sure if I missed exactly what the co-workers are saying, but in terms of the patients:
I think you hit the nail on the head!! They feel frustrated at themselves and are taking it out a little on you. Dentistry is an important and noble profession, but LOTS of people do not like dentists or going to the dentist. Yes - there are people who drew the short straw on good teeth, but for most of us if we took really good care of our teeth, multiple times, EVERY day, doing all the simple, inexpensive things we've always been told: no soda, brush, floss, fluoride rinse, professional cleanings, we probably wouldn't have these exorbitant costs. We all think what we could have bought with that $$$, that would be a heck of a lot more fun than a root canal!!!! They're immature to say it out-loud to you (we always kid privately that we've sent their kids to college etc); but, maybe just putting in perspective that that's how some people deal in the heat of the moment (the moment meaning handing over their credit card), you can realize that it really has nothing to do with you personally or your diamonds. JUST ENJOY YOUR BLING!!!!!!
 
I agree with the above. My only caveat, if you work with patients (direct patient care) there are often dress code rules regarding jewelry. Some hospitals, no rings at all. So I would just make sure you are not breaking any dress codes. The hygenicists at my dentist, fir every patient wear gloves, so I can't see their rings even if they are wearing them.
 
StephanieLynn said:
Anyone who makes a nasty comment about something that brings someone else happiness is just showing their own misery and insecurity. Ignore it and enjoy your ring, life is too short.
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Ditto! It's those people that have a problem; they aren't happy and they'd love to make you unhappy as well. Forget those trolls! You have a gorgeous ring. Wear it in good health and happiness!!!
 
I was in the doctor's office as a patient when a woman with 3 screaming kids running around said "Ooh look at you with your big diamond" in a sarcastic tone. I looked at her children and replied "Well it was that or having kids; I think I chose well" but because I said it in a nice tone with a smile, she didn't know whether to be offended or to agree with me =)2
 
Someone actually said that to you? I'd be like, "What's your problem?". That is so rude. :angryfire:
 
Jacquiemalta said:
I was in the doctor's office as a patient when a woman with 3 screaming kids running around said "Ooh look at you with your big diamond" in a sarcastic tone. I looked at her children and replied "Well it was that or having kids; I think I chose well" but because I said it in a nice tone with a smile, she didn't know whether to be offended or to agree with me =)2
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:eek2::eek2: Omg! Good comeback. Lol
 
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