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princessk

princessk

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I work part time -2 days a week in an office and I find it hard to handle some of the comments made by patients and staff re my ring . yes its big to most people and yes its obvious its not bought by my salary. My husband has a good job and we are both in our 50's
I wear a uniform and don't wear much jewellery other than my ring and a diamond solitaire pendant
I don't not want to not wear it those days but also feel a bit weird I have great co workers and really don't want to flaunt it
would you wear or not Advice please :)
 
your ring is too pretty not to wear it! Have to wonder if some of it comes out of jealousy? :rolleyes2: What kind of comments are being made? Maybe we can help come up with replies to the Jealous Judy's
 
@princessk first, your ring is gorgeous! What a jaw dropper! :love:

Second, I say it is no one business how large your ring is! I dislike snarky comments form people and I am sorry that you have to deal with them. I think that you should wear your ring if you want to, life is to short to think about what other people think and not do what you want to. If someone comments on its size, I would just say “thanks” and leave it at that. If someone starts asking questions about how much it is, etc. I would either say “I don’t know, it’s a gift” or if I am really annoyed, I will tell them that it is a CZ and point them to eBay where they can get the “same” one for $10.:mrgreen2:

Enjoy your ring!
 
I say keep wearing it. (Unless your work is pro bono or your patients are homeless or something)

Who cares what people think? It was a gift from your husband, and you love it, and it's beautiful.

An appropriate response, when faced with awkward comments, is "thank you.":whistle:
 
I work in an employee medical clinic at a large hospital where we see employees and their family members that are insured, most have little to no jewelry. I do at times feel a bit apprehensive but I and my husband both still work full-time and have a very good income with no debt and still saving. We are in our early 60's. No one knows our circumstances and I feel that I have sacrificed and worked hard to be able to enjoy what I choose. Why would I let my ER sit in the safe unworn during the week :(
I have people tell me it's beautiful, most are nice comments. I once had a male patient tell me that since I had such a big diamond I should buy him lunch!

I say wear it, people think what they think but you are the one that should enjoy wearing it any time and place!
 
“Thank you...my husband is the best!” Or “30 years of marriage and still going strong,”.......... I dunno....just smile and say thanks. No need to get into a conversation that started with a confrontation.

FM
 
FinleysMom said:
“Thank you...my husband is the best!” Or “30 years of marriage and still going strong,”.......... I dunno....just smile and say thanks. No need to get into a conversation that started with a confrontation.

FM
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i like that response Thanks!!!
 
SimoneDi said:
@princessk first, your ring is gorgeous! What a jaw dropper! :love:

Second, I say it is no one business how large your ring is! I dislike snarky comments form people and I am sorry that you have to deal with them. I think that you should wear your ring if you want to, life is to short to think about what other people think and not do what you want to. If someone comments on its size, I would just say “thanks” and leave it at that. If someone starts asking questions about how much it is, etc. I would either say “I don’t know, it’s a gift” or if I am really annoyed, I will tell them that it is a CZ and point them to eBay where they can get the “same” one for $10.:mrgreen2:

Enjoy your ring!
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LOL!!!! Im using the ebay response
 
Its a dental office and honestly I probably worry more about my co workers than patient comments Some of the staff are paycheque to paycheque and being fairly new I don't want to come off like some 2 day a week princess But honestly that is what i was hired for I have worked in the field for over 30 years and put in my time I love all the recommendations You are all right I gotta wear it and rock it!!!
 
I think you should wear it if you are in a normal/average working environment. You can wear it without flaunting it.. it's up to the other folks if they are going to look and comment.

I for one ask women I don't know about their rings.. but it's because I like jewelry and want to see!!

I do like the ebay response...
 
FinleysMom said:
Ok...some levity..in jest...because of your occupation...

“I prefer rings over crowns” ...snort!

FM
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LOL! The dental office brings out the worst comments in people You would not believe the things I have heard I think its the combination of anxiety, fear and pain - and then they come to me to pay!!!! by the time I deal with them they are nasty!! usually its along the lines of "well I suppose I just paid for you all to go to Hawaii or a new Porsche for the Dr, " I usual say " uh NO you just paid for a new crown for YOURSELF" that usually silences them
 
princessk said:
LOL! The dental office brings out the worst comments in people You would not believe the things I have heard I think its the combination of anxiety, fear and pain - and then they come to me to pay!!!! by the time I deal with them they are nasty!! usually its along the lines of "well I suppose I just paid for you all to go to Hawaii or a new Porsche for the Dr, " I usual say " uh NO you just paid for a new crown for YOURSELF" that usually silences them
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Good response! I love my dentist! He is skilled, explains procedures prior to the appt., excellent pain management treatments. I just kick back and nap!

FM
 
I’m so sorry you need to deal wth this. Hey. You’re in your 50s. You deserve a heck of a lot more, but you’ll settle for your ring. Yeah, may sound kinda beyotchy but maybe that will encourage people to keep their opinions to themselves.
 
I’m sorry you have to deal with this. I’d never stop wearing my ring because of others. Ok, so I would if I was volunteering to help less fortunate people. But at work, I’m wearing it and people can suck it if it bothers them.
 
"Oh it just looks big because of my slender, petite hands"
"Walmart had a bogo!"
"I inherited it from Evalyn Walsh McLean's Great Dane"
"Mariah has the same one!"
"what this ole thing?"
 
I would simply say "thank you - I have a very nice husband." Leave it at that. I's not anybody's business. Most people aren't into bling and simply don't understand it beyond the very basics. Enjoy wearing your beautiful ring.
 
Don't be ashamed of your beautiful ring. Please wear it and enjoy it, and don't let others make you feel bad or self-conscious. My diamond is a 1.96 OEC in a halo and sometimes it garners attention - I immediately say it's a 30th Anniversary present from my husband. Most people don't have the nerve to be snarky about an anniversary gift so that usually shuts things down - they say it's pretty and I say thank you.
 
The only snarky comment I have had was by my sister! It was in jest and in the same breath she admitted her jealousy!

Rock it @princessk Life is tooo short! :dance:
 
My hubby is a dentist in an upscale suburb and NYC. Houses near/on the water are costly; inland, not nearly as expensive. His patients vary widely. One of his patients is a 30 something tech wizard. Delightful, charitable, kind and loaded. He drives a Bentley and parks in our lot when he goes to the gym. I say, good for him. He earned it, and should enjoy it.

One day I was at the office and one of hubby's more unpleasant patients (you have remind them that services need to be paid for) made a snotty comment about the car and having paid for it. I told him that the Bentley wasn't ours and dropped it. I was annoyed. Admittedly, I am very careful about what I wear to his office when the snarky ones are being seen, but having to bothers me.

Do what you are comfortable with. You shouldn't have to explain your beautiful ring. Just enjoy it!
 
Anyone who makes a nasty comment about something that brings someone else happiness is just showing their own misery and insecurity. Ignore it and enjoy your ring, life is too short.
 
I am sorry people are being unpleasant. I think you should keep wearing it. Their comments are about them. Not about you. I know it's hard to hear them, but I wouldn't make any defensive comments or responses. I'd simply say, 'Thank you, I love my ring." I wouldn't even mention your husband. It is truly none of their business.
 
princessk said:
I work part time -2 days a week in an office and I find it hard to handle some of the comments made by patients and staff re my ring . yes its big to most people and yes its obvious its not bought by my salary. My husband has a good job and we are both in our 50's
I wear a uniform and don't wear much jewellery other than my ring and a diamond solitaire pendant
I don't not want to not wear it those days but also feel a bit weird I have great co workers and really don't want to flaunt it
would you wear or not Advice please :)
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Wear it and enjoy wearing it and please don't let others affect your enjoyment of your bling. Their reaction says more about them then anything about you. It is 100% their issue. Small minded petty people. And definitely please do not explain to them. It is none of their business.

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Hi your ring is beautiful! and I’m sorry that you are going through this. My perspective is different though. I would like to start by saying I am British and wearing big jewellery is not often see on the day to day. My jewels are not large by price scope standards. Daily jewellery is a 3.75+ eternity ring and 6 carat diamond tennis bracelet which is a lot for the uk. I can take snarky comments when I’m out socially or running chores, I can give as good as I get and always have a come back, but not at work. My work reputation and how people view me in my work environment is so very important to me. My current managing method is not to wear my daily pieces when in work. I have a small (0.58) eternity band for the office and if I wear a ring I wear that. Sometimes I wear my big eternity on a long chain inside my top so no one can see.I’m in my 30’s it’s important to me to be known as the smart hard working girl, not the frivolous one. Maybe over time I’ll chill out. At the end of the day, you must do what makes you happy and what you are comfortable with.
 
THANKS EVERYONE!!
Totally changed my attitude. You are all so right. Wear it and rock it!
Not worrying about it anymore
You guys are the best:appl::appl:
 
Your ring is beautiful if you love it and love wearing it don't worry about everyone else.
 
princessk said:
I don't not want to not wear it those days but also feel a bit weird I have great co workers and really don't want to flaunt it
would you wear or not Advice please :)
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Flaunt it!!, Flaunt it!!. That's what diamonds are for....:mrgreen2:. tell your coworkers that your ring was a gift from"sugar daddy"..;)2
 
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