Hi! I am a long time lurker and first time poster. i have always loved colored gemstones since I was a little girl watching home shopping TV, but I have honestly never bought anything major because I have never had much discretionary income and have spent most of it on other things.
My boyfriend asked me about a month ago to start giving him ideas about engagement rings. I started lurking heavily on PS, hoping to come up with ideas. I'm finding that my tastes are pretty divergent and I'm really not sure what to tell him. I feel like if If I tell him the following, he'll get overwhelmed. I also want to leave it open for him to be creative and make decisions
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Here are some things I like:
-Asschers, particularly ones with "windmills." In an asscher, i'd like a lighter blue sapphire or spinel OR a yellow sapphire or chyrsoberyl. I'd want the asscher in either a classic claw prong simple setting OR in a modern sleek bezel. In either case, I'm not sure if I'd want solitaire or shield or trapezoidal side diamonds. With the modern setting, maybe round diamonds scattered in the band. Yellow or rose gold depending on the center stone color.
- Star sapphires and star rubies. Or possibly very high-quality sapphire or ruby cabochon. Only in this case do I care about "top color." Open to different settings (see below).
-Montana sapphires. Open to a lot of colors. I just like the idea that they're from the United States. Fine with greenish or other not perfect colors if I find them pretty. Again, open to different settings (keep reading).
-Slight preference for sapphires and rubies over spinels and chrysoberyls because of the explanation factor, but more set on beauty than anything else
-Unusual cuts like this: http://acstones.com/productcart/pc/viewPrd.asp?idcategory=0&idproduct=1324 set east-west in sleek, simple, modern settings, possibly again, with diamonds. I also like pears and marquises set this way
-Any other cuts that are really bring out the sparkle.
-Solitaires and three stones with crown-like baskets. For three stone, could be all sapphire/chrysoberyl/spinel or diamond sides. Could be all same color or could be yellow/blue/white.
-Rings with lots of antique-style engraving, possible wheat-style, but maybe even more unique and filled with something with symbolism
-Hand-made, one-of-a-kind rings, but basically antique styles or actually antiques
-Modern, artisan styles, including assymetrical styles and those do no scream "engagement ring" but look like mini-works of art
-I am a tall woman with somewhat large hands, so I have some real estate to work with, though I'd like to keep the main stone smaller than a 2 carat diamond or so. My fingers aren't that long, though so something that elongates them would be good.
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Here are some things I personally don't like:
white metals, anything "boring" (subjective, I know), most prongs that aren't decorative (crown style) or skinny claw prongs, channel setting, more than a little bit of pave, halos, things that are delicate or will requires a lot of maintance, things that get dirty easily, things with high-profiles, anything that reminds me of prom jewelry, too much trendiness (although I do like it when things look of their era, as long as it's a "good example" of the period, whether in the past or today).
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In short, I feel like i could tell him:
GEMS:
Montana sapphires, other blue or yellow sapphires, star blue sapphires or rubies, rich-colored cabochon blue sapphires or rubies, chrysoberyls, spinels
in
asscher or blingiest possible cut
SETTINGS:
None of my dislikes, something unique and awesome.
That's realy not helpful, is it?
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I don't really know what the budget is, but definitely under $4000 and no lower limit. There are $1000 pieces (such as the shield chrysoberyl in a simple setting) and $4000 pieces I am equally agonizing over. Anymore than $4000 and i think I would freak out. It's just my personality. I have some wiggle room because his mother supposedly has a credit she can use to throw in for side or accent diamonds with a family friend who has access to wholesale loose.
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Another thing, I am torn about how involved I want to be in this process. On the one hand, I know a lot more about gems, jewelry, and where to buy them than he does, and I think I would enjoy being part of a project of my very own as I'm not sure when I'll ever shell out $$ for jewelry again. On the other hand, I being surprised about something like an e-ring is VERY important to me. Call me old fashioned, but that's how I feel. I want it the ring to be a result of his efforts and tastes. I don't want him to just be Mr. Moneybags. Plus, I think knowing how much the ring cost and being part of the financial decision-making would stress me out and make me feel self-conscious.
My boyfriend asked me about a month ago to start giving him ideas about engagement rings. I started lurking heavily on PS, hoping to come up with ideas. I'm finding that my tastes are pretty divergent and I'm really not sure what to tell him. I feel like if If I tell him the following, he'll get overwhelmed. I also want to leave it open for him to be creative and make decisions
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Here are some things I like:
-Asschers, particularly ones with "windmills." In an asscher, i'd like a lighter blue sapphire or spinel OR a yellow sapphire or chyrsoberyl. I'd want the asscher in either a classic claw prong simple setting OR in a modern sleek bezel. In either case, I'm not sure if I'd want solitaire or shield or trapezoidal side diamonds. With the modern setting, maybe round diamonds scattered in the band. Yellow or rose gold depending on the center stone color.
- Star sapphires and star rubies. Or possibly very high-quality sapphire or ruby cabochon. Only in this case do I care about "top color." Open to different settings (see below).
-Montana sapphires. Open to a lot of colors. I just like the idea that they're from the United States. Fine with greenish or other not perfect colors if I find them pretty. Again, open to different settings (keep reading).
-Slight preference for sapphires and rubies over spinels and chrysoberyls because of the explanation factor, but more set on beauty than anything else
-Unusual cuts like this: http://acstones.com/productcart/pc/viewPrd.asp?idcategory=0&idproduct=1324 set east-west in sleek, simple, modern settings, possibly again, with diamonds. I also like pears and marquises set this way
-Any other cuts that are really bring out the sparkle.
-Solitaires and three stones with crown-like baskets. For three stone, could be all sapphire/chrysoberyl/spinel or diamond sides. Could be all same color or could be yellow/blue/white.
-Rings with lots of antique-style engraving, possible wheat-style, but maybe even more unique and filled with something with symbolism
-Hand-made, one-of-a-kind rings, but basically antique styles or actually antiques
-Modern, artisan styles, including assymetrical styles and those do no scream "engagement ring" but look like mini-works of art
-I am a tall woman with somewhat large hands, so I have some real estate to work with, though I'd like to keep the main stone smaller than a 2 carat diamond or so. My fingers aren't that long, though so something that elongates them would be good.
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Here are some things I personally don't like:
white metals, anything "boring" (subjective, I know), most prongs that aren't decorative (crown style) or skinny claw prongs, channel setting, more than a little bit of pave, halos, things that are delicate or will requires a lot of maintance, things that get dirty easily, things with high-profiles, anything that reminds me of prom jewelry, too much trendiness (although I do like it when things look of their era, as long as it's a "good example" of the period, whether in the past or today).
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In short, I feel like i could tell him:
GEMS:
Montana sapphires, other blue or yellow sapphires, star blue sapphires or rubies, rich-colored cabochon blue sapphires or rubies, chrysoberyls, spinels
in
asscher or blingiest possible cut
SETTINGS:
None of my dislikes, something unique and awesome.
That's realy not helpful, is it?
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I don't really know what the budget is, but definitely under $4000 and no lower limit. There are $1000 pieces (such as the shield chrysoberyl in a simple setting) and $4000 pieces I am equally agonizing over. Anymore than $4000 and i think I would freak out. It's just my personality. I have some wiggle room because his mother supposedly has a credit she can use to throw in for side or accent diamonds with a family friend who has access to wholesale loose.
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Another thing, I am torn about how involved I want to be in this process. On the one hand, I know a lot more about gems, jewelry, and where to buy them than he does, and I think I would enjoy being part of a project of my very own as I'm not sure when I'll ever shell out $$ for jewelry again. On the other hand, I being surprised about something like an e-ring is VERY important to me. Call me old fashioned, but that's how I feel. I want it the ring to be a result of his efforts and tastes. I don't want him to just be Mr. Moneybags. Plus, I think knowing how much the ring cost and being part of the financial decision-making would stress me out and make me feel self-conscious.