Wedding Co-ed shower?

[basil]

How many people are doing this? How are you organizing it, and what events are you having? Is there any better terminology for it than "Coed" or "Couples", neither of which I like?

My cousin and my mom want to organize a family shower - but I really can''t imagine excluding my dad, brother, uncles, fiance, etc. I think it''s just generally more fun with everyone there. We''re thinking of a casual Saturday afternoon BBQ-type event.

 

[miraclesrule]

The title of this thread sounded like a good Friday night to me!!

Kidding... Well maybe...

This is a great topic. My daughter''s FI has already had his first option shot down by his father and uncle because it was a party in TJ and the last time that happened with FI''s BIL, they all got too crazy. So, they are trying to decide what else to do. (Which is a good thing) IMO
On the Brides side, they are trying to arrange a friend/co-worker shower and a separate family shower. It just seems like everyone has a different idea, mostly the friends, of what a shower/bacherlotte party should entail.

Just see Gypsy''s "Is this FUN" thread and you''ll understand.

Personally, I think it''s very progressive to have a big "Transgendered" party. Duet party. Co-ed party, whatever name floats your boat. Let''s have a "name that party" contest.

 

[CJ2008]

basil, I think that sounds great! How about naming it "Best of Both Worlds" party or something like that?

 

[miraclesrule]

oooooh, I like that claudinam!!

 

[karasue91]

My FMIL said they are sometimes called "Jack and Jill" showers. A little cheesy, but kind of cute. I think both of the showers people are having for me are going to be co-ed. One of them will be a renovation shower, where we register at Home Depot or Rona (Canadian hardware store) for tools and stuff to renovate our house. I think the second one will be a kitchen theme, since we both really like to cook, but we aren't totally set on that idea.

Is yours going to have some kind of theme? Oooh a wine and cheese tasting would be fun!!

ETA just saw the BBQ theme, that would be super fun!!

 

[Courtneylub]

All good ideas. Our friends are throwing us a couples shower in a few weeks. "Couples" makes it sound like only couples can attend. Can''t it just be calling a wedding shower and and then address the invitation to both the male and female?

 

[oobiecoo]

I''ve never been to a couple''s shower but I remember thinking it would be weird if only "couples" could attend and no single people when I got a "couples shower" invitation. I''d go with "co-ed" or "guys and gals". I had an all girls shower but the guys went over to a cousin''s house down the road and watched sports and grilled so they had their own fun and didn''t feel excluded.

 

[allycat0303]

My FSIL had a coe-ed shower, we just called it ''''a party to celebrate the bride'''' It was lovely, formal even, and all the special people in her life were there.

 

[laine]

Seems to me like two different things are being discussed here: One is a co-ed shower, in which I would expect males and females to attend, and both the bride and groom to open gifts, that may be as little less girly. Emphasis here would still be on gifts. The other is more of an engagement party, at which everyone will hang out, BBQ, etc. There may be gifts, but the emphasis would be on hanging out together.

I think that you should decide which it is that you really want, and make sure to plan accordingly. If I''m invited to a shower (co-ed or not), I expect the former, and from your description, I''m not sure thats what you want.

If you do go with the co-ed shower, I''d either call it just that, or go with something cutesy about not wanting the gals to have all the fun, so the guys are invited too.